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I'm sorry @Casey_03. That sounds alienating and hard. Perhaps though, you're protecting yourself. Deeply feeling empathy and compassion may not be the safest thing when shelling is literally happening at that moment. Your mind is not going completely in to those spaces to help you stay aware...

I did talk with her about it. I asked if this would be 2 out of 20 or if I should expect things to remain around 40%. She told me that the last time she was sick was January and it's obviously unpredictable but then told me her vacation schedule and then asked what I thought. Strangely, at...

@Justmehere, I really liked your letter. I've been doing inner child work for a while and it inspired me to write one of my own. And I think one could write these with their dominant or non-dominant hand. The dominant hand would probably be speaking more from your rational/adult brain to the...

@jojo88, I get this. I cannot relate any interactions I've had to my mother (esp. if they involve conflict) without her telling me that I offended the other person or should keep my mouth shut or just need to be more tolerant of others, etc. On the other end of this 'your needs bother other...

@LF1 , what ended up happening? Did she forget or explain?

Thanks everyone for your support. I see her on Thursday and I'm going to talk with her about this then. Hopefully it's productive.

I talk abt this w my meditation/reiki teacher a lot. She says that there's a point when you learn to ground yourself that anything is okay/safe, even something that seems to be inherently not. I haven't decided if I believe her yet. It's a cool idea though. She told me that when my inner little...

Therapy. It's so intimate to learn what others are discussing in session or what issues they have and it's really validating to see how similar people's issues often are.

The body work has also been helpful for me (reiki and Rosen Method). It's gentle and it's helped me realize a lot of the ways I react in the presence of others. I'm learning boundaries rather than just distancing, but that's been hard. She verbally comforts me when I'm triggered and explains...

There's no category for me. I don't ever listen to music anymore except occasionally classical while driving. And when I was little, I stopped listening to anything except classical as well (I didn't put that together until you asked the question).

I'm 27. My last therapist was mid 30s, my current is early 30s too. Being queer, I feel like I related better to a younger age group. Plus, I don't get along with my parents well so I don't think a parental age would be helpful for me. My reiki practioner is in her early 40s and that...

@scout86 and @falling_wave, it sounds like both of your therapist communicate well. It's definitely sensitive to be cancelled on and I'm sure it's a skill to build. It is a little strange that she wasn't particularly apologetic, even the second time (her second email was like, "Hope you're...

I am going to go ahead and book something and have a conversation w her abt it in person. It sucks because we don't have a base but I know it's important to speak for myself. Plus being able to have a hard ish convo where basically I am being critical and she contains me/herself w/o reacting is...

:) @digger. Thanks.

Now to draft this email. It'll probably take a couple hours. PS 2/5 is 40%; 40% of the appointments we've scheduled, she's cancelled the day before. That's a pretty high probability of cancelling. Also, she has a one week in advance cancellation policy for clients.

@scout86, that's helpful. It would make sense that both weeks are off if one is. Now that you say that I realize that happens with my work clients too (I meet with each monthly). It's helpful too to think that I'm not the only one cancelled back to back because to some degree I do feel...

@digger. She said she's still sick. I understand that people get sick, and sometimes it takes them a while to feel better, but I don't have a base w/ her at all or a lens through which to know 'well she's reliable she just got sick this week' or 'she's unreliable and this is a great example of...

Wow! @joeylittle, I'm kind of surprised to be agreed with; that makes me feel a lot calmer. Thanks. I thought about that too, like why didn't she bump someone to offer me some time slot this week? (I mean it sucks for the other person but cancelling on one client twice in a row sucks too...

Can y'all hear out my crazy and help me organize my thoughts? I know I'm not the only one triggered by being cancelled on by a therapist, but being so early in to working with her it makes me question a lot. I recently started with a new therapist. I saw my past one for almost a year and a...

I did exposure therapy for a short time, SwordsPandaGirl, my therapist at the time and I did not have enough trust, long story short, I ended up quitting. Your therapist will have you tell your story, starting at a less detailed level and increasing in details with each 'exposure.' He or she...

@Born to Run, thanks for the recommendation. It's embarrassing how much attachment theory I'm constantly reading, books on books. Thanks @jaccat, I'm glad I'm not the only one.

Random Question: Do you have attachment issues and if so, do you find it hard to respond to other people's greetings and/or have trouble receiving enthusiastic greetings? (Maybe in the therapy section as I noticed it in relation to my therapist's greeting?). I started with a new...

Maxi, I do this too. In my journal, I call it trauma binging. My explanation to myself, and maybe it'll resonate with you, is that it's a control thing. I'm triggered and then I'm choosing to control subsequent triggers. There's some sense of relief in it for me, but it's also destructive...

I get bodywork weekly. My practitioner is very trauma-informed and gentle. She uses a combination of Rosen Method and Reiki. It's completely changed my life. I find myself more calm, secure, and generally happy. A part of it could be connecting to my practitioner/teacher and just feeling a...

@Mammo, I really identify with all your points about this struggle with body stuff. Reading over your post, it even gives off that same wtf vibe that I get when my therapist or reiki practitioner asks me that question. Because it's helpful for me to have small pieces, maybe it'll be helpful...