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Could you email him and share your feelings? How it makes you feel unsafe and whether he has any suggestions? Interpersonal trauma leaves us with attachment difficulties, and sometimes I know even holding awareness of this doesn’t make it any easier when the therapeutic relationship reflects...

I’ve been managing mental illness with treatment for quite sometime and I’m not getting better, I don’t know how I’m going to be a functional member of society when treatment doesn’t seem to be freeing up chronic stress. The stress I hold in my body isn’t reducing though I’m doing all I can to...

I hugely empathise, it’s a very difficult process.. so much of what you have said in your OP resonated and still to a degree resonates with me. I had a very tough time trusting my T and even now I can’t say I fully trust her (more like I don’t fully trust that she won’t use the knowledge I’ve...

Thanks it’s great to know I’m not alone in this and that I am being rational. Looks like it’s a tough time of year for many of us.. not just emotionally but also logistically.. there’s only so many resources/energy one person has and that’s quite limited when you are ill. The spoons analogy...

Sounds like a great plan, I like the strategy of mini rewards, I’m more and more feeling hypoaroused, dissociated and frozen.. and I know what you mean it’s a difficult situation to ‘come back to centre’.. I’m currently in a fog of haze and my grounding skills aren’t really helping.. I know...

How to deal with others disappointment when you can’t continue to partake in social activities as you have been overwhelmed? How do I keep healthy relationships with others when they are fed up with my illness? Earlier I accompanied my girlfriend, in-laws and their extended family to a...

That sounds stressful, try to be kind to yourself this is a difficult time of year and far more difficult if you have relational trauma and then there’s the symptoms that increase and need managing.. it truly is a battle to get through this time of year. Could you reward yourself with...

This is a really helpful thread thank you all for sharing your insights. I won’t be spending Christmas with my family, actually it’s the first Christmas that I have cut ties with them... Previously I travelled and lived abroad so I was busy during the festive season, however in 2016 I...

Thanks for the reply. I’d like to make clear I am both extremely and overwhelmingly grateful to be welcomed into their home and given such a nurturing environment, that being said I still have healthy human desires of independence (my own space/free speech) and interdependent relations. I know...

Thank you for the honesty, its very refreshing to hear such truth. You’re absolutely right.. the case is ‘their house their rules’.. how about your personal independence? Do you feel obligated to them in ways that you feel you have to sacrifice your own time (in which you would rather not) or...

I want to check others views on here as to whether I am being unreasonable in regards to my in-laws. Quick backstory; I had to move out of my parents home upon returning from working abroad..they didn’t want to look at the abuse that had happened within the dysfunctional family system, their...

Very interesting responses thank you. It seems PTSD does complicate the scoring system.. As mentioned maybe one of the few ways to distinguish ASD is if the symptoms were apparent prior to the development of PTSD. As a child I was overwhelmed easily by sensations, and I did attend additional...

Are you within your window of tolerance? I know when I begin to shake/tremor (shock/fear) I’m probably at the edge of my tolerance.. same with crying, If I begin to get easily upset then I need to take a step back and increase my self care strategies. All this trauma healing can be so...

I just want to feel like myself and I’ll do anything to get back there. To feel the ability to be vulnerable and truly intimate with others would be amazing for myself. I can’t continue to live in isolation and alienation.. I don’t feel I’m living. This is why I go to therapy and wake up each...

It’s been suggested by my Trauma therapist that I may be autistic. I have looked over aspergers traits and I do see a commonality. I have been diagnosed with Complex Trauma however a lot of the symptoms do correlate with autism (e.g. sensory overwhelm, social difficulties, isolation..). I’m...

Thanks guys for the replies. I do appreciate the honesty and support. There are things I can do to begin approaching getting back into work. I believe I may be setting the benchmark high.. no wonder I feel ill be unable to do a marketing job. I’m going to look for work in the new year, a...

Earlier I was having quite severe tremors, I was simply overwhelmed.. I began to shake violently all over as a result of stress and then got angry afterwards.. My partner attempted to passively understand but I couldn’t help but feel offended to statements such as: ‘Your off work how come...

Thanks. Dissociation is so sneaky it creeps up often without being noticed, I feel I’m beginning to recognise my own patterns oh so slowly.. I feel a female therapist does work both ways 1) I’m able to confront areas of trauma with a trusted female professional so I can overcome fears and...

Okay so I feel I’ve concluded what the issue is: 1) Dissociation - Days prior to any difficult session (whereby a breakthrough of sorts is made) I’m increasingly symptomatic.. I believe I have a strong mental resistance due to apprehension anxiety, this increases in dissociation whereby I am...

I’m feeling rather low and disappointed, I feel I’m progressing slowly (sometimes I’m even unsure I’m progressing at all) but I aim to be optimistic. It’s disheartening to see those around me do things so simply while for me it takes a tremendous amount of strain and even then I can only...

I’m unsure whether I feel safe with my therapist.. I don’t know if it’s emotions of fear I feel in my body rising during therapy sessions and then feeling vulnerable/at risk of being attacked (verbally or even physically) or is it actually her demeanour.. It may be a combination of both, I feel...

This is a good point, I do feel lots of different memories and emotions are coming up.. it feels like my whole past is in the here and now. I’ll chat with my therapist tomorrow about biweekly sessions, this may be the way forward in order to process. Or at least one week of EMDR and the other...

I’m currently undertaking EMDR and I have been for the past several weeks, I’m finding that I’m processing so much that it’s very taxing.. each morning I wake up to various emotions and physical sensations that require processing to tolerate a day. I haven’t felt I’ve ‘caught up to yesterday’...

Thank you for the video I will watch later tonight when I am free. I recommend hanging around this forum and asking as many questions as you like. There are many experienced and wise people here that have really supported me with understanding, healing and moving forward. All the best.

Really helpful advice, I’ll try that so I’m prepared, as I’m currently in one of those ‘new guy on the block let’s find out what he’s about’ scenarios so lots of intrigue and questions. Thank you this will help.