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I journal. Or email my T, but spend time writing and rewriting and revising until it's something I feel ok sending her. So it's boiled down to the most important stuff. And helps me work through what I'm thinking and feeling in the mean time. Then I try to put it all in a container and pay...

I've been thinking about your post for a couple of days.. I've had a similar situation although not the same circumstances. I went back to work after maternity leave this past week, leaving my 8 month old son with a sitter for 8 hrs a day. I have been dreading this since I got pregnant. My T...

Have you read about Internal Family Systems? It can help you understand the different roles parts of you play. I'm reading it now and it's helping me not hate the part that needs to talk vs the parts that come out to shut up the "exile" who has legitimate needs. The other thing I recommend...

The only way to the other side is through it. I know the weight of previously suppressed emotions can feel unbearable. But you're strong enough to bear it because you've gotten this far. You can't really heal until you allow those feelings and know through them you will be okay. You will be...

I would contact him again to set your mind at ease. It sounds like he welcomes you reaching out. And either way, you can nail that interview! :) Keep us posted!

Can you email him again? Try not to kick yourself. Instead, try to stop rereading and analyzing, and be kind to yourself. You needed to express something. And you did so honestly. You did nothing wrong! If your T has been good so far, I would find it very hard to believe he would be anything but...

It's so hard to send an email and wait for a response. I email about the same as you. Once a month. Sometimes more, sometimes less. We meet once a week and I've been with mine for two years but that part never gets easier. If I don't get a response in a day or two I start to question everything...

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Your feelings are valid. And no matter why you had a moment of insecurity, you chose to reach out and that's brave. You did the right thing!

What is it that makes you not want to find someone new and start over? What keeps you with this T? I only ask to get you thinking about it. If my T forgot my traumas I would have a REALLY hard time with that. You shouldn't have to retell it because he doesn't remember. It seems odd that he would...

This is a hard situation. I had a T like your T2 for two years. Very clinical. She had high ratings and was no doubt very intelligent and good at her job. We didn't have contact between sessions, and it never even occurred to me to do so because I didn't feel any sort of attachment. It felt like...

How did it go? How are you feeling?

Hi there! Just want to say, breastfeeding can be a very healing experience. It has been for me. Your body is literally giving life. The opposite of assault/abuse. The same can be said for pregnancy and birth. It's not the same as exams. Because during pregnancy and in birth you are caring for...

It's good. Send it. Don't worry about trying to be independent and doing it on your own. That's not your job right now. I think it's more brave to send it, rather than not. You have a lot going on and need the support, and he offered. Be easy on yourself.

Yeah, just say "I hate this." She doesn't ask if you're confortable with it? I see the possible benefit of it but if you're feeling too vulnerable to be present with the process than it's not helpful. I wouldn't be able to do that. Anything that has to be read I pass to my T and ask her to read...

Can you email? I have the same problem. I mean, I know what I want to say half the time but I'm too embarrassed to say it for fear of being dramatic, or sometimes the words just stay stuck. When that happens I leave feeling worse. I email her to tell her the things I couldn't say. Other times I...

It's hard when they go away. Which is always baffling to me because although I've been with my T for two years and love her, I'm a nervous wreck every week before my session. So it should be a relief. But I think when they feel like a lifeline it can be hard to know there is distance between...

Are you able to email her? I tend to email before a session if there's something I want to cover and know I won't have the nerve to bring it up. If not, you can always start your next session with, "I've still been thinking about the contents of the journal entires you read last time and I'm...

Absolutely. I could've written all of this. It's the most difficult part for me, because I often feel I don't have a right to feel the feelings so I stuff them. I have every ptsd symptom times a million and have been told by several very good therapists that It's repression (although my current...

I don't think you need to worry about blame. I think in this kind of relationship you just get to say "hey, I'm feeling x y and z. I don't know why." There's no protocol for taking ownership of your feelings in therapy. That's one of the things you get to learn as you go, in a relationship where...

1- no but due to mutual friends I see posts sometimes. 2- I mailed her a card once when her friend died and made her Christmas cookies once. She has given me several things to have as reminders of topics we touch on. Small items. 3- big futon with pillows I sit on- a chair she sits on and a...

Yes, absolutely. My T has gotten so good at checking in and asking if I'm with her the second she sees me spacing out. And she has begun changing subjects quickly to keep me more engaged. I've started writing after sessions everything I can remember and adding to it throughout the week as bits...

It was wrong, and I'm sorry you had that experience. But there are a lot of amazing therapists out there who could help you. It's a matter of finding the right match. If you do, you won't have to deal with the feelings alone.

It's just a vulnerability hangover. And I'm not dismissing it by saying it's "just" that- I know they feel overwhelming. But it's a feeling and it will pass. The more important part is that you're putting everything out there. That's crucial to your progress and healing even though it can be so...

That was me this week. I've exchanged several emails with my T in the span of a week and usually I'll use email once a month at most. She always encourages me to write because I can get more out that way and we have more productive sessions. But my dissociation and self harm urges were super...