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So doubled good advice here. Strange...my best friend whose husband has combat PTSD and has met L (and liked him) actually wants to write him a letter. I told her not now. She wants it to be a letter about how she's learned how PTSD causes dissociation but it also hurts the supporter but...

Oh ok. What is meant by pushing? Like pushing someone's buttons or literally shoving them?

Thank you for sharing your detailed thoughts on this. I really do appreciate it. I survived childhood trauma that caused me to have anger management issues in my early 20's. I can completely see the way your pain can color everything else, and nobody has those color glasses but you. The...

I guess it doesn't matter anyway if he doesn't want to talk to me. I'm so confused, though. He hasn't blocked me through social media and has read every message I sent him. I haven't blown his messages up or anything just one message in the past week. Just asking what happened to him...

So would you be feeling angry or ashamed after leaving someone hanging? Do you expect to have to deal with that issue when you come out of isolation? What about when you’re in the process? What would you be planning to do? Shut the world out and only deal with the bare minimum? Work, talk to...

That sounds like a warning. ? I have not asked him for a breakup conversation. I guess I still just want him to tell me WTF happened that made him feel like he needed to shut me out. I cared for him many months when he was sick and alone. I fed him when he was hungry and jobless We worked on...

I don't think I've ever heard @EveHarrington be more clear. I'm trying to listen to some advice myself right now that is hard to hear. That is where the learning is a lot of times.

It sounds like you think I did things right. I feel like I did, too.

The social media creeping continues. My female best friend requested his friendship on social media today, and he accepted within minutes. It can only mean he's not 100% done. I can tell you I'm 100% done feeling this way. We dated for 9 months. I deserve a breakup conversation at the...

Thank you for your birthday wishes. I had a nice stream of friends yesterday visiting. It was not fun explaining his absence. I was incredibly thankful when my BFF showed up (who has met him). She’s an Army wife dealing with this demon, too. I don’t have to explain this stress to her. I’m...

Right, No birthday interaction. I wonder if my instincts are right about the rest? He's having a freak-out spell and probably won't resume contact without coaxing after a few weeks.

Well I'm not holding my breath for even a Happy Birthday text. I'm still in disbelief. We made Birthday plans and he completely ghosted this month.

Ok, yes... The wanting more to the conversation I get this. This helps explain a lot.

Could you answer a question for me? One thing I don’t understand is how you can’t check in with your sister but you can be on a forum talking to people? What’s the difference in the interaction for you?

I know he would not want me to suffer. He's actually said that many times. I don't want me to suffer. I did drag myself out for a run today. It was only 1 mile, but I did it very well. only 7 seconds off my fastest time. I have a social media site I post to when I run. He's on the same...

I completely see giving him space as a loving act. I have said this in these exact words to him. I love you enough to give you space and allow you to cope in the way you see fit as long as you aren't harming yourself or cheating on me. I'm positive his PTSD stress cup is 200% full right now...

The morning wave of tears did not come today. I saw my psychiatrist yesterday and got a meds change. It seems to be working for now. I just wish they had meds to bring my boy back. I miss talking and sitting with him the most. His hugs were the best.

I guess this is how a lot of these things end.

The crying hasn't stopped. Mom is coming over again today. I'm guessing he's gone for good and chose to make it easy on himself by not even saying goodbye.

Mom is coming over today to check on me. Was finally able to call in sick at work. Still not handling things well. I'm glad I have my mom. I don't think she is going to be prepared for this level of an ugly cry though.

@Sweetpea76 , Your definition of relationship sounds more like mine. We are about the same age, too. I try to focus on more of what’s possible for us versus what a standard “relationships” looks like. Since I was already beat down from life and missing my normal coping mechanism this spell of...

My bet is he has it in his head I will forgive him. I have always forgiven his spells of isolation. I've allowed it as an option in our relationship. It's just done got a little extra this time and it's got me worried I don't know what my part is. I like your advice @LuckiLee. It's not...

YES THIS. I knew he was due, too.

Last time he did this it lasted 2 months. I guess I just thought he wouldn’t do it that bad again. Am I just supposed to wait for two months for him to talk to me again or are we broken up I really don’t know. Yes still in shock.

I know it’s not me. I know I didn’t do anything wrong. I just really love him and I miss talking to him. It literally feels like I’ve been deleted from his life. First two months of dating I could see that but we’ve been together for nine months why would you do that? Please give me some...