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Since the reference to my blog was removed, I'm rather limited to simple answers to complex questions and problems. I've got over a hundred pages laying out my approach to my wife as well as over 15,000 pages documenting each and every day of progress with the various alters and how, step by...

No, it's not defensiveness. It's fatigue. You are correct that my wife and I aren't doing it the 'typical' way and yet we are NOT using voodoo science. I'm using attachment theory and the concepts of neural plasticity, mostly. I come onto these forums and see the desperation of people, both SO's...

@Suzetig, I'm not sure, from your tone that there is anything I could say that would assuage your concerns, sigh. I used to read extensively of the professional literature so that I could understand the issues and know best how to help my wife. I don't 'throw' terms around. I've worked 24/7 with...

You are correct that the 'science' is iffy on much about our understanding not only about PTSD but about the brain/mind, mental health issues, etc, and there's a civil war brewing over whether the biomedical model of mental health is even accurate. So I guess none of us can say with 100%...

The ptsd symptoms won't come and go IF you heal and assimilate the underlying trauma memories like we have with my wife...but I do realize that since we are also dealing with major dissociative issues we could uncover more trauma memories which might trigger new ptsd issues. But the longer we...

Essentially I used Most of how I helped my wife thru ptsd issues came from attachment theory, especially the concepts of safe haven and affect regulation. The literature out there may mostly focus on young children but pretty much all the major concepts have been transferable as I've helped my...

For my wife, this is when I took door number 3: I 'ran' or 'hid' or did whatever she was feeling at the moment with her. I didn't let her be alone no matter how much she said she felt like she wanted to be alone (but I was gentle in my insistence to stay with her, never forcefully demanding)...

Maybe it doesn't matter since ByrnesT has said he's done here. And I realize I'm the new guy. But after 30 years in a marriage with my wife, the last 10 years of it we finally are dealing with her early childhood trauma that morphed into dissociative identity disorder (multiple personalities, if...

Hi, my wife has d.i.d. We've been married nearly 30 years. She and I have been walking the healing journey together for her d.i.d. the last 10 years. As she began to, finally, deal with her early childhood trauma, the first 5 or 6 years were filled with PTSD issues. We kind of fell into...