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Yes I think you hit the nail on the head Staying in surgical mode keeps the world and the past at bay which is good. There is no way I could have dealt with this at 30 or even 40!!

Yes I had to drive an hour away to sleep!! Too much of the sad past still there waiting for me to pick it up and process it. I was really surprised, I had no idea all of that pain was left there.

I agree!! For some strange reason I couldn’t stay at a hotel close to his grave and close to the home I grew up in. I had to drive about an hour away to stay at a hotel I felt comfortable with then the next day drive back to his grave. the emotion of going back after 35 years brought up a lot...

For myself, going back has been incredible! I lost the boy I wanted to marry 34 years ago and when I went to his grave 2 years ago, I felt nothing. I drove home and went inside and I started crying like I have never cried before! After about 30 minutes I started to worry that I was going crazy...

yup! It took me years to realize that my constant work kept everything at bay. As I stabilized my life: dumped lousy boyfriend, dumped lousy friends, got a job where my boss doesn’t scream at me, etc I was able to dim down the never ending lists of things to do!! And once I got to a complete...

I personally believe that when you have “unprocessed trauma” you are like a magnet seeking out a similarly charged magnet. So to accept blame doesn’t apply because once you “change your charge” you will find that You/I am no longer attracted to those type of people. This whole recovery thing...

yes I have done this but typically at night when I get into bed. For myself the theme was constant my grandparents and their friends praising me for my baking ability. I always thought I did it to “block” flashbacks from coming up. recently I had a really huge and feeling “flashback” involving...

I had a similar experience telling friends about how I was havig flashbacks; and thus far I am down 1 “friend”. Honestly I am the sort of person who is kind to all people and I’ve decided that I need to have that compassion in my friends. No more all give and no take. I can’t tell you how many...

I have had many different types of flashbacks but none that were all encompassing. During the past year and a half (1 1/2) I have been having all different types of flashbacks. Mostly it is 1 single “sense” although recently I had a “movie” style flashback as if watching a video but “certain...