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Being in a relationship with someone with PTSD is just a constant roller coaster and you have to be prepared for that. When I started dating my vet we went out a fair bit, our first date was a drinking date which was hilarious, we went for dinner quite a lot etc. then it started spiraling...

@Empath16 Thanks for directing me to your experience. There is no definite explanation as to why he won't let you support him, all we know is that people who suffer from PTSD Isolate from those they care about the most - I feel this is for fear of hurting loved ones during their healing...

@Hojay Sending virtual hugs your way, I know this is a really shit time however all the advice given above is amazing! One time my sufferer was so hurtful during a phone conversation I put the phone down and asked him to give me five minutes ... I took some time out and did some breathing...

Hi There, I have been dating my combat vet for 4 months as well, I can empathize with how you're feeling however if you can't deal with the hot and cold nature of this relationship then dating someone with PTSD is really not for you. I am still new to PTSD myself so please do not take me for an...

Hey Empath16 ... chin up. It legitimately had nothing to do with you, in my experience from the past 3-4 months my combat vet pulls away when things are going very well or if we've seen each other a fair bit and it's getting more intense. That's why recently I've learned to take things ultra...

@feetfirst Chin up, as you said if you do it will be a nice surprise!! Keep going and keep focusing on you :)

@feetfirst sometimes I just need reminding as you just did that the space thing is for him not me. I've planned a lot of things this week for myself which is good, got friends coming round for dinner and I'm going to my first yoga for meditation class etc. Question, how do you go about making...

@Sweetpea76 Thank you, encouragement means a hell of a lot. He never really asks for space, I can just sense when he's doing well and when he's struggling. He went for 2 runs on Saturday and that's how I know he wasn't really coping so I didn't message much yesterday and I won't much today...

@tlc @questionsaboutrel Thank you both, I have been taking this approach the past few days, just one txt here and there, usually a picture of something funny or a link to a funny video. Whether it will have brought about a smile or not I'm not sure but I do get a nice response of 'haha x' etc...

Feeling low today, can't really express why. My sufferer is doing well (I think) messaging me back and we went on a date on Wednesday, I just miss him. He used to live near me and has now moved back in with his parents, that combined with him recently coming out of therapy and needing a fair bit...

Hi Tony, I appreciate this post is old and my words are probably now invalid but I felt like I had to reply. I am a new supporter who has been dating someone with PTSD for three months so I'm not sure if I can offer that much valuable advice from your point of view. All I know is and all I...

Hi Rae, I agree with you on the above to @questionsaboutrel ... one thing I am scared of is telling him I love him in case he panics and pushed me away again. It really is a constant treading on egg shells situation, I'm wary not to ask too much from him in terms of seeing me and committing in...

This is really reassuring, a lot of the time I find myself in an emotional slump because of how worried about him I am. When I see him in a bad way I have to put on a stronger exterior so I don't panic him more or make him worse which I find really hard because my heart breaks. I am also...

Hi Thizette, Thank you so much for your advice, there have been a few days where my man hasn't communicated very well and I have just said 'would it be ok on those days you don't want to communicate with me that you send me a txt to say you're having a bad day so I can give you some space' to...

Hi Questionsaboutrel, Thank you so much for your reply, it sounds very similar to my situation. Although we haven't committed at the moment and probably won't until quite further down the line, he has many times said he can't wait to get married and have babies, then sometimes says he doesn't...

These are all very valid points - thank you! I think in order for me to be the best I can to support him I need to stop over-thinking everything I am doing as well as stop over-analyzing his actions. If he didn't want to speak to me or see me then he wouldn't and currently he's readjusting to...

He always says 'you want me to be your boyfriend don't you' and 'I can't give you what you want' even though I have never asked him for anything. I've never tried to get him to commit to me, I just want to take things one day at a time for him and me. I think you're right though, more...

Hi there, I've been dating a vet for around three months now, from day one he's been honest about his PTSD and I know he's still battling it everyday. He recently went to rehabilitation for two weeks worth of therapy, when he came back we were scheduled to see each other but it didn't happen...