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It is so hard to make decisions in a vacuum, or when we don't feel like we have all of the relevant information. But, unfortunately, sometimes that is what we are stuck with. When you partner pushes you away or disappears it can hurt so much and be so confusing...especially when you feel that...

It is even harder to ‘get over’ a relationship when you have to see them. And when you aren’t expecting’ to run into them that can definitely throw anyone off. When they have a new partner it is even more devastating. We have to give ourselves room to feel anger, hurt, betrayal....all these...

I am a supporter. I am also a sufferer from being in an 18 year abusive relationship with a narcissist. There are several things that you said that caught my attention (my ‘red flags’.....and obviously biased by my own experiences): When people who claim to love you use what you have shared...

‘Do not revise history’ and ‘live in the reality’ of what is/has happened. Hojay, you are so right on. I am reading this thread and currently giving myself a lecture, because it is my ex’s birthday today and I am ruminating and wondering why it seems so easy to listen to someone else’s...

I understand the pain you are in LovingH. And I understand the overwhelming urge to reconnect. Just remember you deserve more than breadcrumbs. The torture of not feeling safe in my past relationships still haunts me. And by 'safe' I mean emotionally not physically. Come here. Go away...

Hello Shereejo, I am so sorry you are experiencing all of this. People can exhibit some narcissistic traits but not necessarily have narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). There is a ‘spectrum’ when they do. I would talk to your therapist a bit more about it to gain more awareness of...

Sorry. I just realized this thread is older, but maybe it will still help the next person who is dealing with a similar situation. I hope you are doing alright.

It this extreme reaction is not something you have experienced from them before then perhaps you do need to have someone check in or him. However, you also said this.... It sounds like he has ‘reacted’ to you in a similar way before....you say you have learnt there is no reasoning with him...

I understand exactly what you are saying about sex because I have also experienced something similar to what you experienced. My ex husband who is a narcissist (no PTSD) did the same thing. Slept with 2 women in one day (before we met) and once had me orgasm a dozen times in one go (that can...

Right! But that is what I found so difficult during my relationship. When he left over and over again it was not for another woman. He wasn’t with anyone physically during that time. I had found this forum and read up on everything I could and from what everyone was saying I thought it was...

No, Monica. In my experience, the only thing that is likely to happen here is that he will continue his pattern of leaving, being with another woman and then returning when he needs you again. I have allowed that to happen almost a dozen times in the last 4 1/2 years. It doesn't stop. It...