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I think you’re quite right with the overthinking! Thanks.

Hello. I come here for sage advice. I have admitted to my t the desire to connect more between sessions and his solution is to allow that. Adding an addition secure messaging appt as well as emails (which have always been allowed) and working up to phone calls (my idea in lieu of the messaging...

I had a few sessions and it really helped me change how I view a certain memory that was really difficult. It was also the first time I’ve ever been able to show painful emotions to someone. Highly recommend.

This was incredibly helpful! Thank you so much for it. I’m gonna give more thought to the whole denying attachment thing. The email to him ended up being a really good thing as we had a great discussion on everything and worked everything out. He admitted to not knowing a whole lot about trauma...

I appreciate everything you said so thank you. The reason for saying the apology in person is not to manipulate but to own it with sincerity in person and not send him yet another email. I also said I was remorseful about the response so don’t know why some of you are still trying to shame me...

So say something like THAT instead. Relate to people. “Hey, I was angry, too. I mind read, too”. Offer something before the harshness. Otherwise it just sounds like you think you’re better than us. I appreciate a lot of what you said and I generally do take what I need and leave the rest. I’m...

I’m not snapping at her. I’m finally standing up for myself. I’m tired of her coming on my posts and acting like she knows everything about therapy. Usually I just feel bad when she comments. And same with you. But I’m getting better at having my own voice here. I don’t think this is an...

Which is entirely possible and a good reason to listen to what he has to say. Which I completely will. I think I let the horror stories I heard scare me and got angry instead of vulnerable in my reply. Like “how could he want me to do THAT and get nightmares” when he was probably thinking “Hey...

Yeah exactly! It’s completely jumping the gun, right? Like I think I had reason to be freaked out! I get he’s really excited about just learning it but damn, I really don’t want my head messed up like that. Especially before trust is even solid. Thanks but I don’t think I’m playing games...

Yeah mine says he prefers complete honesty. But yeah, not the healthiest. But geez, we’re in therapy for a reason, right? Lol. Thanks for relating! I don’t feel as bad. Yeah! Thanks for all this. Yes, I’m in a good space as far as not being too down, you know? Making healthy changes to my...

Hahaha!! I know, right? For sure. That would be a good thing. :p It’s cool. I have my apology prepared. It wasn’t that bad, just very honest. We’ll be ok.

You know when you’re angry and no one is around to stop you you do things you may not otherwise do? Well I replied. Angrily. And I hesitated to send it cause I knew I’d calm down but you know when you’re mad and writing an email, it just feels really good to hit send. And so I did. So my...

So I wrote my t an email telling him how I’m having a hard time as I’m so obsessed with what I think HE thinks about me that I don’t want to talk about much. It was fine for a few months but this has been showing up. We’ve had a few small talk sessions and while they’re nice for rapport, I want...

I was sorta like this with my last t. Her replies would upset me. She took away the privilege. It is a PRIVILEGE to write to them. My new t allows emails and I’m very careful to only appreciate his responses and not criticize. And not to take advantage of that privilege. I really hated it when...

But what if it’s a healing experience for you? This stuff will keep coming back up until you face it head-on. It’s awesome you told your t. Keep talking about it when it comes up. And it will. Omg it will. But if it’s a small thought and feeling you have one session and you DON’T say it, it...

I had maternal transference with my last t and wanted her to adopt me. It was hell. She was very kind about it and normalized it as well. In the end she did NOT opt to adopt a grown woman for some weird reason. :p

It’s hard when it’s all mixed up. Like I had clean clothes (I think). I mean, they were thrift store clothes (my mom got the good stuff) but I had clothes. I had food to eat. Sometimes it was just wonder bread but I ate. I did the grocery shopping a lot of the time and cooked for my mom. I...

I’m so sorry for what you went through! Thanks for the virtual hug. Same to you. <3

This is such a great thread as far as relatability. I told my t I wish I would’ve been beaten as a kid cause as least that’s an OBVIOUS trauma. Like calling emotional neglect trauma to me sounds crazy. But that’s the only life I knew so I guess it could be? Like my mom was/is an alcoholic with...

That’s my main issue and I minimize the hell out of it. Honestly I think if I were to actually feel those emotions in the room with my t he would think it was laughable that that stuff even bothered me. So I barely go there.

It’s called “spiritual bypassing” and it’s pretty fascinating. It’s badically doing things “for one’s own betterment” that take us out of our current suffering. It’s a way out. Like “looking on the bright side” and a billion other forms of it. Meditation is incredible and CAN be used to take us...

I asked my last t when she thought I might be done with therapy. She said a few things about my progress and estimated it at about 6 weeks. I was SOOOOO upset! I made a big deal of it for like maybe the next 4-5 weeks, bringing it up like “how could you think I’d be ready to go?!!! I still...

It’s starting again with this new t. Worried that he’s annoyed and thinks badly of me. I had it SOOOO bad with the last t but I had strong maternal transference with her. With new t I don’t think I have any and I don’t put him on a pedestal. Why is this happening yet again?! I don’t think I can...

Omg this is hilarious!! I fear this happening lol!!!! Good job on laughing about it with your t! I told my t I thought he wanted to murder me the first few sessions. Lol!!! I didn’t quite realize how irrational that thought was for awhile... it’s still embarrassing to think about. But...

Lol!!!! Oh that’s so good!!!! Omg did your t start to laugh, too?