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I really want to know what the gift was? You don’t have to share of course but I’m dying to know! I wonder if she really wanted it but just couldn’t take it.

Omg the pine tree is such a cool idea!! Sorry you were humiliated after your first gift. That would be really hard! How did she say it?

Awkward and bad but I could deal with it after a little bit of work on my thoughts, self-compassion and all that. I doubt he will decline it but I guess he could. I almost want to ask him first.

Ok thank you! And thanks for not thinking my question was dumb!

I think it’s also cause he has been thoughtful. Like the first day we met he said he was gonna get tea (he didn’t have any yet) and he asked me what kind I liked. He ended up buying a box of it for me for the next session. And he sent a text saying to be careful on the ice and follow ups that...

I think I just want to be kind. I saw it and thought of him. That’s how I am. Or rather, how I was. I turned off the thoughtfulness switch a long time ago but have been opening up more to people in my life and being considerate but this is still new. And I have only seen him a few months, we...

So my t has tea (haha!) and honestly, the ones he has kinda suck so I bring in my own sometimes and an extra for him (cause I think it’s rude not to offer). Today I found a box that seems like it would really go well with his philosophy (like the words on the box match his message sort of)...

He hasn’t killed me (had a really irrational fear of that when I first went to see him and for a few sessions after). He’s thoughtful and kind. He listens to my concerns and isn’t defensive. He seems to sincerely care about me. His sessions are an entire hour. He laughs at my jokes and...

I was thinking that. And considering like just setting a timer and turning the little clocks around. I prob check the time over ten times each session. Would be nice to just go by how I’m feeling about the session and he’s easy. Meaning he would really be ok with absolutely whatever I want to...

I relate to being super emotional with therapists! I haven’t gotten yet to the point where I’m overly focused on his words and tone and things but I am starting to question those things. Like after our double session when I share more I think I will wonder if he now hates me. But that will be...

I’m actually starting to freak out a bit. That’s a LOT of attention.... He did say we could end it at 90 it I wanted to. And I said we could take breaks. Like I know it doesn’t need to stay or even be super intense but I’m hoping I can access something other than the anxious perma-grin I rock...

That would bother me a bit as well. It’s really great to practice being direct with what’s bothering you. I get that you feel you’ve been complaining a lot but maybe you can tweak that thought a bit. Instead of saying “complaining” consider maybe saying that you’re speaking your mind, saying...

This is exactly why I haven’t tried it. I don’t see how it could possibly help long term, more subtle abuse. Plus I can’t remember all the fine details of everything as I was a kid so I wouldn’t have much to say...

“When I said (whatever you said) I felt you didn’t understand me. Can we talk about that?”

Well, he said yes. So this will be interesting...

For my very first t I drank tons of kava tea to calm down. It really helped and she didn’t mind. My current one told me “buzzed therapy” wasn’t yet an acceptable practice when I jokingly suggested it. But if you have a prescription for it, why not? Geez, this stuff is hard, why not make it a...

Whoa! How did the even longer sessions go???

This is exactly what I was hoping to hear! And cool, I was wondering if a break in the middle might be good. Was there more charged for a double session? Like I mean I imagine it’s just twice the price but since it’s so much focus I’m not sure of how that might be charged. I’ll obviously ask...

Thank you for all the information!! I don’t think I would waste more time with 2 hours although that’s a very good point!! I think I could set a 15 min limit again on small talk and once I’m rolling with other stuff then I can keep going. Well, except if and when we land on the harder...

I just emailed my t requesting one as I have a long list of things I want to talk about and we barely make it through a fraction of them because I like to spend the first 15 min shooting the $hit (or else I’m not comfortable enough sharing). I’m feeling really nervous waiting for a reply like he...

I had reiki done for a long time. It was nice but didn’t change anything. Was just relaxing at the time. I also learned to do reiki for awhile before I gave it up. Also saw a shaman who did 2 soul retrievals and a lot of journeying. Have also done ayahuasca. Honestly all of that was fun to try...

I so agree with everyone. GTFO of there!!! Find someone who will actually HEAR you, ‘cause this lady sure doesn’t!

No, I have a good t now. A healthy relationship with one. I would never go back. But I learned a lot about how to treat myself from her.

I didn’t. She left me. Is taking a long sabbatical.

I have to have a prop. It used to be a water bottle and I’d just kept drinking it constantly (a great way to stay hydrated! Lol) Now, my current t has tea so I hold that and drink that. When it’s gone I play with my shoe. He sometimes looks at my shoe as I’m holding it and I wonder what he’s...