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It is when you’re not used to it and never had it before. But glad you have had lots of caring experiences where that wouldn’t freak you out. Some of us weren’t so lucky.

Yes! I feel so adult and it’s such a new feeling and it’s wildly uncomfortable. I want drama! I scheduled a somatic experiencing session in a month, knowing I can’t do both that and therapy. Knowing it will make me feel super indecisive and stressed out. And so, after careful thought, I...

Honestly I’d go there and cry it out. And say the embarrassing thing and cry some more. Why do you think that’s wasted time? I’ve never ever been able to cry in front of another human being. I think that would be an amazing experience to express my feelings and be supported and accepted.

Super crazy, I know. But my new (been seeing him since mid-December) t and I have a very normal and healthy relationship. And it’s weirding me out. I realize this is a great problem to have but I oddly find myself missing that kind of “putting someone on a pedestal and obsessing about what they...

It’s incredibly good. I made the right choice. Tons of mutual respect, I don’t obsess about him or therapy, I’m comfortable but also anxious (since it’s therapy) but it’s a reasonable level. It’s a very healthy relationship. Which kinda freaks me out lol

Tell your t you want to talk about the drawing. She obviously didn’t know how important it was to you. Call now and see if you can get in this week yet.

I just booked my first appt which will be in a month (earliest available). I’ve wanted to try it for a very long time and they are now offering it at a place that does TRE as well so I can ask about that, although that intimidated me a bit. How many sessions does it usually take of SE? It’s...

Yikes! That’s really tough! I agree with the others in how it sounds like you two have a great relationship but oy! I couldn’t handle knowing that stuff about my therapist. I would want to help so badly! My focus would no longer be all on my stuff. Like I’m feeling really bad for him right...

Omg that’s so awesome he helped you on his lunch break! Are you feeling a bit better? Can you get off these meds?

Email or call every damn therapist in your city. Surely someone has an hour today to spare! Or those offices could know if other resources. My other post got deleted somehow but can you just be with family or friends or people in general to stay safe?

Of course. That’s a super normal fear.

You can try again, they have a ton of counselors. You won’t get the same one. Sorry you had a bad experience. Don’t make that mean you suck at getting help. And if you’re really unstable check yourself in somewhere to stay safe!!

I agree! Amazing job reaching out to whatever help is available!! I hope your doctor’s partner can help you. And try not to worry so much about your t quitting. It’s ok to get upset and surely she will understand you are not yourself right now.

Why don’t you contact Crisis Text Line? It would be a good place to get your thoughts out and they provide resources to help cope if you need. I used to volunteer with them. Should get back into that. Hmm. But they’re very good and this sounds like an option that would work well for you. The...

I’m so with you on the writing! My first t wrote stuff down which was super ironic because she couldn’t remember $hit, even with the notepad. I love that my new t just looks relaxed. It helps me feel more relaxed.

Lol. Just stop then. It’s your therapy, you don’t HAVE to do the damn worksheets. I had the same frustration over a recommended workbook. HATED the thing because of perfectionism (makes everything super harder than it is for anyone else) so I just said no. Not gonna do it. And it was fine. I...

I’m so sorry for what you went through when hour first t! So awesome that you’re aware it was her countertransference and had nothing to do with you. How do you trust someone new? Well, what is your other option? Not trusting? Shutting down? Which option serves you better? I understand...

Oh totally talk about the arm thing! She won’t feel bad! She will be glad you brought up something that bothers you. You can phrase it really kindly. “Hey, in addition to (whatever you say about your fear she doesn’t like you) I notice I worry a lot when you cross your arms. I wonder what’s...

This isn’t exactly the same but I feel I want pity from my t. Like when I talk about the past I want people to feel really bad for me. I think it’s a pretty normal want and I also know that, for me, it comes from my mom using that as her way of getting attention. You will definitely see people...

Good to know you all seem to really speak up! Like I said, that’s something I’m working on and trying to do with him. I for sure didn’t come from a home where I had a voice at all so it’s just really weird for me to assume anyone wants to know something they haven’t specifically asked about. I...

Your t may be totally unaware of it. I let out a huge sigh last time and right after so did my t. I think he was just reacting to my energy/feelings but I’m positive he didn’t consciously do it.

tell her about the arm thing! That would totally bother me, too. I do it when I’m shutting down or being defensive. Do you do it there? Sometimes they mirror body language. My current t used to glance away a lot. I told him in an email that really bothered me and he stopped. I didn’t really...

She just listened. She was big in just giving space to things that came up. Smart, really. Had she reassured me that she didn’t I would’ve never believed her. Although I think she would say to just look at behavior as a gauge. She never treated me in any way like I wasn’t welcome. Didn’t help...

I thought my last t hated me. I eventually told her that. It didn’t stop the thoughts but it was helpful.

Last one a maternal figure, one before huge authority figure, soooooo intimidated by her, current one, I don’t know yet. Almost equals but he listens way more. It’s super weird.