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Oh man! Thanks for joining me. It wasn't easy to puke up all that I said in the "botched circumcision" thread, and I was beginning to think I had said too much too soon. I agree fully that adapting to the "treatment" is all but impossible when the whole matter has to be kept hidden. I had...

It is known that fathers with hypospadias can pass the gene to their sons. My father didn't have it (I don't think), but someone else in his family might have. I don't know, just as others with the condition don't often know who else might have had the condition. BECAUSE IT WAS ALWAYS A...

Nikie, that was only a joke. I'm smart enough to still be here (whatever that means). I do think, though, that after such a traumatic birth, both my mother and I were perhaps more prone to fear. Fight or flight responses were what kept me alive, at least during my first hours and days...

Oh no, Nickie, I probably shouldn't have told that story, since it could confuse people. I was just mainly writing to say my mother was always close to me, responding to what you said about moms and their kids, Just rambling again about something else. Don't worry. Unless my mother was...

You're right there. My mother was a simple country girl, but she knes how to love. She and I almost died together when she bore me. She was sick and weak, and was left in hard labor for 12 hours trying to push me out while her doctor went home. The staff called him to say she couldn't do it...

Terrific! Not sure, but I suspect her pushiness has in fact been there all along. She has an agenda she wants to involve you in, and you know it's not good for you. I'm so glad you stood your ground.

Ain't it the truth! I grew up in the Bible Belt, where any kind of pleasure is still publicly suspect. (Although, hypocrisy is rampant because of the repression.) A practical question, only if you don't mind, is whether you have found any successful lubricant to reduce risk of chafing for you...

Are you in a medical profession?

Hi Lucky, thought you might want to know that I have opened a new thread: "Genital Surgery: Ever heard of hypospadias?" Thanks for your encouragement.

Thanks, Anarchy. I will welcome discussion trom transgenders heartily. I would like to emphasize though that hypospadias is most often not an intersex condition. Most often, it occurs in fetuses who are already developing males.

@Anarchy, @Mit, and @Nikie, I have just opened a new thread on our subject. See "Genital Surgery: Ever hear of hypospadias?" At some point, if people pick up on this, I might need help moving some of what we've already said to that thread, but I don't know how. Take care, and thanks for...

This week I have, by accident, virtually taken over another's thread called "Botched circumcision". I have apologized for that. But I have written so much background that the latest posts in "Botched crcumcision" read like a biography. So I'm starting this thread and inviting anyone to join...

Please join in! It is time to talk about this frankly.

Morning @Nikie! How is today? Thanks for your posts. You are the only woman who has had the grit to comment on the thread I'm on with Mit and Anarchy, and we appreciate your words. It's not a purely male subject. The men affected by hypospadias and other "defects" are everywhere, have...

Do you, as I do, wonder sometimes how many old panhandlers, drunks, junkies and other misfits have gone in and out of therapy, hospitals and jails, never telling anyone about the original reason they can't fit in? I went for a while to a sobriety group on my therapist''s referral. It worked...

I can't say any more. What a horror. There are things I don't have to mention either. Much of what I went through, I wanted to hide from my parents. They were doing the best they could in a day and place where country people were in awe of anyone with more than a high school education...

Please jump in. I didn't intend for this to be a biography, but an "I'll-tell-it-if-you-will" thread. Our years of secrecy, finally exposed, can show others what I believe is a root cause of much self-loathing. There is no way to say how many of us we are, and what psychological problems have...

I've thought that too. I sometimes feel that not "liking" a post shows I don't care, so usually I "like" at least to show I'm listening.

Great to hear you are getting the kinds of help you need. You definitely are a survivor, and it seems you have an excellent plan to ensure that.

I'm sorry I failed to add that it seems you handled yourself very well during the incident. Though you were rightfully terrified, you kept your cool in the crisis. Congratulations. And I'm glad you were not physically hurt. Now you are reacting to your fear in a healthy way. Just be careful...

It really can get better in time, and you are young enough to endure this period of readjustment. You've had your confidence and security shaken, and that is no small thing. For now, do you have anyone to talk with when you are anxious? Somebody to just be there, and maybe listen if you feel...

Hey Mit! Catching up after a long day on the keyboard. I've written a lot about my experiences and may write more, but you are absolutely right in this quote. Man, I don't know if I could have stood more surgeries than I had! Certainly not as many as yours. I didn't spend a lot of time...

@Anarchy, I did not intend to hijack your thread. I apologize. And I definitely appreciate all your help and encouragement to say this much in one place. I needed to recapture these experiences without freaking myself out. And to do it for a purpose. I guess my comments do belong in their...

I thoroughly agree. I think external genitalia are different mainly in the way they are arranged (except for all those intense extras that women are gifted with). I'll always envy that. The closest a man can come to that is carefully helping them all work so well!

OK, so here is more about the second surgery and its aftermath: When I could bring myself to watch them changed my bandages, I saw that I had been circumcised. At first I didn't realize that they actually had had to use my foreskin in creating my longer urethra. Though I know now that they...