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Ma'am, I think you mentioned some pages back the idea of getting a pet. I don't have one myself now, but I do have a good alarm system, and I'm in a fairly low-crime area. Might I suggest that you consider adopting a mature rescue dog? Many of my friends have done that, and some of those...

@Medic72, as I alluded before, you are wise in feeling as you go, and not suppressing your emotions. FEELING the present, experiencing even the worst factors and managing as many of them as you can, in whatever way you can, can perhaps keep you strong. And being able to be alone to do what...

This is the kind of realization I came to sadly after losing my wife. I still become angry whenever I see a mated couple ignoring each other, and certainly when I see hurt or resentment between them. I've almost stepped out of bounds when seeing spouses take each other for granted or putting...

I fear I'm in trouble. Triggers are coming more quickly now, and I've done and said some things that don't fit me. My anxiety level seems to be rising to the surface, and I'm scared. I started this thread, but I ruined it, letting my mind wander. I don't know what is causing it or where it...

I won't single out any specific quotes from you @Medic72, because there are so many fine ones to choose from. You have amazed us with your strength, intellect and ability to write even the most painful things. And you are profoundly talented in LIVING. You have described so much genuine...

Hi @Sandstone, I owe you an apology. I'm sorry that my reply to you was so rambling, vague and irrelevant to your question. Seems I've been rather confused these days, but that's not an excuse. I do think your mother's seeming lack of concern after you returned home was inadequate. I think...

@Sandstone, I just noticed this thread and have not read the whole thing, so forgive me if I'm redundant of someone else. I just wanted to point out that the way parents react to their kids' problems often depends not only one their education in parenting, but also one of their generation...

Thank you for your concise, logical, respectful, non-condescending, non-sarcastic (rolleyes) reply. It is what the public needs to know. Young and old can understand it. People with little free time can read it clearly and, for a change, be more motivated to vote. It is gently persuasive...

Damn. My mouth dropped open when I read this message. The hair still tingles on the back of my neck. Exactly the same thing happened to me on my last day before retirement. My last ten years there had been horrible. Nasty office politics began right after losing my wife. But throughout...

Thanks, I guess. But I somehow get the drift from most of the foregoing that people on this thread consider me ignorant, rude, spiteful, lazy, passive, cowardly and now lying down and whimpering? I thought I was a guy who has voted, marched, written political news releases, and met with three...

Good information for everybody! Main question, re-phrased again, was: "What can anyone suggest that Bernie and his supporters do differently from other dark horses to win the Presidential election and implement his ideas? (Given the power of the opposition, media bias, finances, Electoral...

Funny that? I don't understand why you are throwing spitballs like your playground remark. And I have not meant to "strike back" offensively. I just want to read some sensible discussion about how Bernie might overcome the factors against him and become President. Nobody seems to want to...

I've been talking about how to win the Presidency and succeed in office. I guess I regret spending my time asking what I thought were worthwhile issues. I don't need to be pilloried for not joining the RahRahRah.

Thank you. This is the kind of historical pattern I'm familiar with. Media bias is part of the system that has clobbered every independent I've voted for. I imagine it will get worse, and be fed by both big parties. It underscores yet another challenge for Bernie. Especially with the big...

Great! I agree that we disagree. That is what real debates are. Now, perhaps someone here will stop sloganeering long enough to offer people like me some believable strategy by which Bernie can win. Tell us how he can beat the very consistent pattern of history? I don't want to debate on...

I think EveHarrington speaks for all of us here. I hope you can find some rest after dealing with those things today. You are amazing. I doubt many of us could communicate with us so well the consequences of sudden suicide. Take care ma'am.

This is basically what I believe. The Republicans are going to stay in lock step as long as they can. It worked to almost paralyze a whole branch of government (Executive) for eight years. Regardless of what could be ideal, some of us may have to compromise our private wishes to select a...

Keep a mental catalogue of the phobias others have. If you simply have to break and run while burdened by one of those people, say something that obliquely reminds them of their phobia.

I'm fairly sure I was ordered to leave the thread when I didn't follow the school song. So I left. I just happened to drop in last night, and I read that EveHarrington might be questioning the authority as I did. Maybe I got it wrong yet again.

@EveHarrington, Didn't you get the same memo I did from BlueDream? This is a pep rally, not a debate.

You sound so healthy today. I'm glad you went somewhere by yourself and did some active things you like at your own pace. We know there are downs that follow the ups, but just knowing the ups come next can be a great relief. I think people all to often think of grief as an event with a...

This is a fascinating thread. I hadn't really thought about it for some time, but I sometimes hug my (female) therapist and sometimes not. Sometimes after a very emotional session, i just do it spontaneously, and I think she expects it. Other times, I don't think to do that. Odd. And hugs...

Hi @Medic72. I hope you got some sleep and maybe that physical pain has faded some. As I said yesterday, I recall having some symptoms like that. When they didn't go away quickly, my doc went through my meds with me and identified one that was harming my stomach when I didn't eat something...

My god I remember that feeling! That and sore jaw and facial muscles from keeping a "game face" while dealing with bureaucrats. I wish I could recall for you anything I might have done to relieve it, if in fact I did. I finally did have to just break down at my bank, and after that I don't...

I agree entirely with @gizmo. As I said, it took me more than a year to think about dating and that was too soon. I wasn't equipped for the cultural changes, much less the more important emotional changes in me. The rest of what I said might be something better suited to your sister, if it...