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Beginning to date again can feel as awkward (and hazardous) as it did when you first dated anybody. There is no timetable for that and no script. Our society goes blank on how it is done. I made a lot of mistakes in trying to re-enter close relationships, and I had never been good at dating...

You dear, have had the privilege of an honorable, true love. Many people never know that feeling, even for a moment. I fully understand your feeling. I have it. I salute your anger at small-minded people who have to settle for mythology lessons to sooth their own self-doubts. When it gets...

Some years ago on a solo road trip to the pueblos of the desert Southwest, I stopped for a while to talk with an old drum maker of the Tigua tribe. His inventory of handmade drums was magnificent. Each a separate work of art, made of elk hide stretched tightly over sections of hollow tree...

I'm sorry. I'll not add anything else. I honestly was not trying to push you around. Just thinking aloud in the wrong place. I think Bernie is cool, too.

I'm just weighing the odds. I hope people don't waste their votes on someone with slim chance, as they did by voting for Ralph Nader, supposedly to protest both big parties. That was stupid.

If you have a king-size bed and nice sheets, make it up once. Then sleep only on one side of the mattress, with a spare sheet under you. Should anyone ever want to sleep with you, stash the spare sheet behind the headboard and share a fresh bed, free of cracker crumbs.

Better yet, don't wear underwear. It only gets dirty and you have to stack it.

No point in emptying the dishwasher and putting things away. You're only going to put them back in to wash after you've filled the sink with them. Cabinets and drawers are better places to hide quick snacks.

Thanks Seedling. I'm afraid of knowing what happened during some crucial moments of which I have no memory. I've denied that for many years, possibly manufacturing a fantasy to fill the gap. My sister will know, and will be kind enough to tell me when I ask. But I'll wait until some other...

If anyone peeks at the landfill of your garage, tell them you're gathering props for a screenplay you've written.

Put empty buckets out front to catch rain water, and only empty them if they're really gross or it's mosquito season. They make you look like you're helping your neighborhoods' thirsty pets. Tend them only at night, so you can do it in your robe.

I can't agree more. The idiots who hate Hillary enough to switch parties I think are more than misogynists. They are fools in choosing a megalomaniac like Trump. To them, Hillary is not only a woman, she is an intelligent woman, despite the Republican smears that began with Bill Clinton...

Thanks Medic72. I think another thing may happen is that in our loss, we become more aware of the signals and salutes we begin receiving. Some are dramatic and others are evident only to us. There was another time when I had taken my daughter out of school for a check-up and stopped by the...

I apologize for tripping down the bunny trail above. I'm pretty confused right now, and maybe shouldn't be writing here.

Stinging tears today. An old wound opened by therapy yesterday, on top of having written so much lately about human frailty and loss. Kept hidden, protected in my heart, away from my faulty mind. It could be the missing piece, or it could reveal my worst. Only my sister would know, yet I...

My therapist put my mind at ease about her "retirement". She's not quitting yet, just reducing her office days to three days a week, which she says she has been doing for months. She was very kind to say that if she does retire permanently, she will do so with at least a year's notice to her...

Bernie is interesting. So was Eugene McCarthy. But the reality is, we have system of two powerful parties whose money will always bury a renegade. We are faced with world crisis, and cannot gamble again on a rational voice as we did with Obama. The Republican party has successfully paralyzed...

No doubt I'll file a report on our session, at least about what's relevant here. Been thinking more about losing her eventually and it has made me sad.

Well, I"ll see my T tomorrow and tell her what's been said here. She'll be pleased that I've been talking with people here. And she will also be pleased to know I'm planning to go back to artwork. I have enough talent to entertain myself sketching, as I do with writing short stories and my...

Yes Ma'am, He is in you and will stay. You may feel him when you least expect it and smile one day. Once at the park where we put my wife's ashes under a tree we donated in her memory, I was sitting alone...wishing... And suddenly one of the park's big peacocks passed in front of me...

Thanks so much Albatross. I'm sure you are a devoted care giver too. I'm ordering the book you recommended through Amazon and should have it in a couple of days. And I've decided to get back with a group of artists for weekly figure drawing sessions. We don't talk much or disturb each...

I know that I have maybe magnified empathy for people in trouble. I'm just a care giver extreme, and I get satisfaction from comforting or helping to relieve others' problems. Even in my career as a government journalist, I did my best work handling public emergencies and mass disasters. I've...

Hmmm. I've thought for the last four years that I was working on me...Hundreds of pages of journals, essays, fiction, continued therapy, utter sobriety, a few activities, knowing a few people to whom I can always say yes, good health, refining my artwork, being friendly when I see people...not...

Oh I understood that. I only pointed out that I have some good female friends that remind me that I'm not a bad guy. I like those ladies just the way they are. They help me know there really are safe people to befriend. Romance is not my sole interest. And I don't feel as if I have anything...

Oh I love my sisterly friends and never will be gay, but finding any partner to trust is all uphill. As much thought as I have put into it, I still can't fathom why I am such a sucker for charming but harmful women. I'm not a masochist. I don't look for them. I fear them.