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Feeling a bit bummed and not sure how to take a friend neglecting to tell me that she's changed her mind about going to a festival with me on friday? A bit bothered from the heat and a little bit down. A bit mad actually. I feel unimportant to her...or at least that it wasn't important to her...

Yes, it's kind of insulting to speak down to someone as though they aren't aware that something is bad for them...even a teenager who knows more than anyone that the adult world thinks he 'shouldn't' drink. I agree, and that's how I've also been taking otakujome's posts...as a venting to help...

Yes, I'm addressing mr anonymous.

No one said it's 'not so bad' to be drinking ms spock. Instead I focussed on the fact that he is drinking without breathing down his throat about it, and by saying that I understand why he feels like it's the only thing he can do at this time. Do you really think lecturing him is going to be any...

Showing understanding and listening to someone in pain will do far more to help them than jumping down their throat and telling them what they need to do. End of story. He didn't come here asking for advice, but people feel the need to shove it down his throat anyway. He came here to vent his...

Did I say drinking is ok at his age? I think I said that he was doing the best he could with what is around him, and none of us know his situation, or how easy or not it is for him to find help with this issue. I think showing him some understanding and empathy might be a bit more helpful to...

I don't know that 'shoulds' are very helpful in this case? Where is a 14 year old kid gonna 'get himself into a programme'? He's trying to cope with what appears to be a very tough situation and isn't doing too well. You're speaking to him as though he is an adult and knows what to do in his...

Do you write them down...your dreams and nightmares I mean? They can be scary at the time, but very valuable if you take the time to write them down and work out what they mean to you. If you have a lot of repressed memories then this can be one way they will surface so you can face them in a...

Parents like yours are the reason some people do kill other people...or their parents. Hang in there...they aren't worth losing your lifetime in prison over. Go kill a punching bag or get a baseball bat and just beat your bed to death. They aren't worth it.

The help I was asking for was related to telling too much about myself, too soon...like the title of the thread said. I did not actually ask for any help in regards to my clearly reckless behaviour. I have not mentioned half of what reckless shit I get up to here, for obvious reasons. I'm the...

I didn't ignore her advice, at all. I have taken it in and I recognise the truth in it, even as I replied in a reactive way. I felt triggered by the amount of questions that were being thrown at me, that's all. It felt like I was being lectured, but as I acknowledged in my post to ms spock, I...

Well, I had clear understanding of my boundaries when I was younger, but my trauma occurred when I was around 17 and then further traumas unfolded after that, which slowly eroded whatever sense of self I'd managed to have up until then. In a way I am re learning how to keep my boundaries strong...

I just read over my original post and I just wanted to clarify to the people who responded initially that I was speaking about my blood relative brother being on ice...not the guy I was over sharing with! I couldn't work out why some of you were hinting towards him being on ice, but now it makes...

I did read on a forum just before, a young woman had written a thread basically saying she was behaving in a reckless manner and being impulsive, in much the same way as I have been, and a couple of people suggested it was because she was feeling angry, lonely and being self destructive. I...

Well, it hasn't had any bad consequences so far...at least not to my knowledge. I can see the potential for it to though. I don't think what happened has been too much of a problem...more just made boundaries a bit messy between us, and that might cause some trouble unless I speak to him about...

Anyway, I realise I can be a bit reckless and impulsive at times, and this is a dangerous way to be. I'm not sure why I am this way? I think I just get bored and as I don't have many friend and it takes so damn long to make close good friends, and haven't had much luck with that in this city, as...

That's what I thought too. Him talking so openly about his housemate gave me the feeling as though we were friends, but my conscious mind the next day knew that we weren't...we'd just met. I initially was not going to go to the party, because of the weirdness and I did not know this guy well...

Yes, I had a similar thought later on. Appeared like he was genuinely shocked that women really are so harassed as they say, and seemed like he was finally getting it, but then didn't want to hear about anything else on the subject. I continued on because I think people need to hear that shit...

Yes, I know when someone is tweaked. This guy wasn't tweaked. He'd had a few drinks and a tiny bump of mdma. He was speaking well and openly but not in a tweaked manner. I would have left if I felt uncomfortable. I don't hang around people who do ice. My brother said some VERY inappropriate...

I'm seeing my counsellor tomorrow so will speak about it with her and see if I can be helped to understand this more. I don't know that him sharing about his housemates suicide was inappropriate, as his friend prompted him to talk about it. He said later that he didn't want to talk about it but...

Am I supposed to never take any risks in case the people turn out to be not safe? I feel a bit interrogated ms spock. Recognising that you are concerned for my safety, I take that into account. It also feels like you are putting all your own fear onto me here. I feel like I'm being mothered and...

I'm wondering if anyone else has the same problem with this that I seem to have? I have a bad habit of sharing too much about my issues with family, bad experiences and things that have happened in the past with people I don't know very well, but like. Just got back from a fabulously fun and...

Good luck with your school year ahead! :) Relationships can be very distracting, so I think it's probably a wise decision for now. I'm just starting to now open myself up to a relationship again, after years of being totally closed to the whole thing. I also start school in a few weeks, and have...

I had the same intention @Ellabella44...to stay away as long as it took in order to get stronger. In the state I was in I would not have survived if I had continued to let them be around me. For my situation I did not feel that it would be a forever situation...however, as time went by, I also...

That makes sense. I think it's great that you are so clear about what you actually need and want in a partner, and as you improve with the help of your therapist, I'm sure it will also change the pattern of attracting the kinds of unhealthy, co dependency that you did with your last ex. It will...