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I've been in your shoes more times than I would like to admit. It's devastating, confusing, lonely and you feel a desperation that overwhelms you . . . And your constantly scratching your head and wondering what you did, where you went wrong and quite frankly . . . What the he'll just happened...

Hmmmm. My best friend offends me all the time and that's what I love about her. She is who she is and shoots straight from the hip and doesn't sugar coat as anything for me. That's why she's my best friend. I can always count on her truth. She is always who she is and we don't see eye to eye...

PTSD isn't fair!!! It's not your fault. You didn't ask for this so please don't blame yourself. I know your husband doesn't trigger you. He's not the trigger but something he says or does triggers a response in your brain. I'm sure he doesn't mean to, and doesn't understand when he does but...

I'm a supporter and all I can say is that we truly don't understand or get it. Our brains are designed to just get over it after a heated discussion . . . Someone with PTSD can't. We don't get that because it makes absolutely no sense to us. I used to get so upset because I felt I was my...

@NewBeginnings , I am soooo proud of you!!! You took the first step and it didn't end in a world war 3. Believe me when I say that PTSD or no PTSD, this is very normal when you have a loving women that has a good heart and one that loves her family more than anything . . . This is normal. We...

You are NOT a failure!!! You are a strong women. You've been doing ok ALL for so long and that's strength, not weakness. You have taught him how to treat you. I know, I taught my husband a long time ago that I could and would do it all. Then I became resentful but it wasn't his fault...

One thing my T bright up is that we tend to think of all the horrible things PTSD has done to us and it leaves us all bitter, resentful, hopeless and confused. He told me to go home and when I looked at my husband, or thought about him, he wanted me to remember a happy memory and think of all...

This was a huge wake up call for me in therapy too. I am a strong women but when this came up I realized this is my weakness. I'm not just this way with my husband, I'm this way with everyone. You are right when you say it's should be so simple but it's down right agonizing for me. Also I...

My husband has PTSD from childhood. He had a horrific childhood. We've been married for 35 years and I know very little what he endured. Like you, he does not shar ed these things with me. I don't know why but it's okay. It's taken me a very long time to not take it personally. So don't...

Good for you!!! So happy for you. Isn't it amazing how life looks differently when you work on you? When you don't set yourself up for failure with your mind. For years I prayed for my husband to change and when I stopped praying for that and started praying for me to change my life and my...

I'm with you sister! I am a people pleaser by nature. I'm a giver and have always been the peacemaker. I was like this before I married my husband. Call it my upbringing, personality or whatever. I too struggles with either asking for help or expressing my needs. Just to get up the courage...

For 35 years I've done it all. Raising kids, working a full time salary job at 60 plus hours a week, doing laundry, cooking dinner, paying bills, grocery shopping, etc. I have been super women for so long that it just has become my norm. My T said the same thing. I did the same thing you did...

You go girl!!! My win today is busting my ass at work and coming home to a prepared and cooked dinner made by my suffererer. I usually do It all but what an awesome surprise. And dessert for me wad realizing he washed the sheets too. It was awesome! Hope all goes well on your date night!

@Snowflakes I'm in the same boat. My sufferer does the same thing. He can be the most charming, outgoing person with strangers and he will totally isolate around me. I used to get so hurt by this . . . Thinking it's something about me. My therapist (Who is a male and helps me understand a...

My husbsnd gives gifts to his T and she lives them!

I've been going through the push pull and flight or fight for nearly 35 years. I guess I was sort of lucky because he was 19 and I was 20 when we got married that we were to young to realize all the crap that PTSD does to your relationship. But after a horrific accident 16 years ago, his PTSD...

Okay, I'm probably going to totally piss off some sufferers here and I apologize if I do. I would like to give a different perspective fro a supporter. First, I do believe he crossed the line in reading your journey. He crossed a very firm boundary. But that being said, we have all crossed a...

It breaks my heart that you don't feel loved. I agree that you need to love yourself first. Build your confidence in who you are. Everyone has beauty and good in them and everyone has their faults and struggles as well. Dating and finding love is difficult. But I believe if you put out...

Hmmmm. I see this totally different @cactus_jack. The sufferers may sense this is abuse but the supporter is only trying to support in the only way they know how and it's mostly done out of love and concern. We as supporters don't understand how it is to be a sufferer. We didn't go through...

I agree. PTSD or no PTSD we have all lied at sometime or another to protect ourselves. It's a defense mechanism. If someone says they have NEVER lied you can be reassured they just did.

Okay, confession time here. I as a supporter have done the same thing as your husband is doing to you (Not anymore . . . Thankfully). But let me enlighten you as to why. Suddenly without warning there would be a shift in his behavior. It could be aggression, irritability, avoidance or...

First off, we all have our insecurities and we all do stupid stuff because of them. So don't beat yourself up over it. Second, stop caring about what others think of you. If they don't understand disability and PTSD just forgive them for their lack of knowledge and move on. Don't feel you...

I went to one of my husbands sessions and I know he was terrified. But first you need to realize that you have a signed confidential agreement with your therapist and they will NOT indulge any information you have shared with them unless they get your convent first. It helped me a lot because...

I've been where you are soooo many times it's almost embarrising to admit. I'm a giver by nature and for me I struggled with setting boundaries in fear of hurting anyone but I finally grew enough strength to set those boundaries and realized I was actually hurting my sufferer more by NOT...

Life of the supporter of PTSD. I've been in that rabbit hole to many times to even mention. Thank goodness it's been a while since I've been there. I've learned that it's so true when people say that there's a fine line between love and hate. We are only human and being a supporter has made...