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That's one of the things for me though. I feel like...I feel like my life is so unbelievable to most people that I can't trust what people say as paranoid or whatever. I feel like I've basically tried to work on cognitive distortions right into being abused again, because what I'm being told...

Not living there now, though it took me quite some time to get out. Contacted law enforcement, which really served only to make the situation much more dangerous for me. He was very careful to cover his tracks, even setting up plots to make it look like I was vengeful and out to get him. He...

The abuser I mentioned, the one that had me trapped on the first time I met him? Therapist. I can't do therapy until I can feel safe enough that the therapist can't tell anyone at all that I'm a danger to myself or others, because them being able to say that is too much power and means they...

The trouble I'm having is not with identifying them - I'm identifying them just fine. It's just that there's almost no time from meeting the abuser to having them entrenched in your life. Most of these cases I'm getting at most one conversation, if that. More likely they just sort of come...

My trouble at this point...I've had repeated instances of trauma, and in all but one case when I went back over there was nothing I could have reasonably done to avoid it. I've gone over the situation with experts, everything, and it just keeps coming back, I did the best I could and I still...

The way I see it there's two big issues I have (1) Seeing the difference between genuinely bad situations and situations I'm overreacting to. The trouble here is I feel like a lot of advice I get only applies to the latter. It's a universal calm down but doesn't really give me the ability to...

I don't think people mean things as blame, if that makes sense. But a lot of people, therapists included, come across as basically expecting a certain paradigm. And I feel like I'm offered solutions that are built for people within that paradigm, even though they don't fit what I've...

Not entirely, @radicalgratitude. I don't really think of what I said as living in the past. It feels more to me, by analogy, like the way therapists see the present and the way I see the present are too different. To use an analogy, it's like a rich person telling a poor person he's too...

I've found some sort of CBT-esque approach has been pretty common to pretty much every therapist I've seen, even ones that didn't advertise as such. I think a lot of it comes down to what I've mentioned - that I've been told my thinking is distorted, that I'm seeing things as true when the're...

This is one thing I've never been able to understand about the idea of cognitive distortions. It's not that I don't get what they are, but I don't get how you're supposed to tell what is and isn't a distortion. And I'm just left in a place where I feel like cognitive distortions seem to depend...

I wish I could run! If I ran though I'd never have a job. I mean, I would if I felt physically threatened, but I also don't have the option when it's frequent to leave just because some guy won't go away. Typically we're dealing with such actions as getting in your face, blocking paths...

Honestly it's as much that I just plain feel helpless. Like just walking outside by myself means I suddenly lose all right to have boundaries and be treated respectfully. Most of the time they're not physically threatening, just plain maddening. It's when you ignore a guy and he starts...

This has been an ongoing problem for me. I've been in a lot of places in life where street harassment is just inevitable. I don't make enough money to avoid the "bad" areas, especially since I don't have a car and rely on public transit. Harassment just seems to be a constant - we're talking...

I was actually not put inpatient against my will - I was instead forced to go home to a very bad family situation by being told I would be both forced inpatient and kicked out of college if I didn't, as well as having confidential information told to my manipulative mother. I'm curious where...

Anyone? That's my big problem with CBT/DBT stuff. I understand the idea, I really do, but then every time really bad stuff has happened in my life I've been told I'm overreacting and seeing things too black and white and overthinking and everything. And then I listen to people telling me that...

I think you're misunderstanding things. It's not "why me" in that sense. It's more a mismatch between the world as I experience it and the world a lot of treatment seems to presuppose. It's that a lot of times I'm coming up with a sense something is off. And I'm being told no, that's just...

Part of the trouble I'm having is, with crisis after crisis after crisis, I'm finding I can never get out of crisis mode. And the thing is, my life story is the exact thing they say don't worry about because that never happens. When you've heard 3, 4 times, things are better now it won't...

I don't know. If I say anything about having had trouble with treatment before, I feel like I have to explain a lot to be believed. But if I don't say anything I feel like I get written off as uninvested and not willing to accept help, because the trust issues can't be addressed. I don't feel...

I was not a minor for any of it, except the one bit when I was really young and forced to keep with a treatment that was making me suicidal because I was supposedly too young for suicidal ideation. The thing for me is I'm not chronically or even frequently suicidal, I just tend to have a very...

The trouble I'm having is that I've often found - like I said earlier - that saying I've had these issues before makes them more likely to be scrutinizing my behavior for signs I'm suicidal. And I'm constantly afraid that I'd end up back in a position where I'm being forced into treatment, if I...

As far as the system goes - yes, I do need meds from them, much as I hate having to rely on them for it. But also, it seems every other avenue I pursue sends me right back and tells me we can't do medical stuff you have to go to a therapist. And I don't have any money to pay for stuff that's...

It's sort of all tied up together. So for me a major problem is, well these things happened in the past. But I keep being told that strings of events like that don't happen. So with therapy, for example, it keeps me really off balance, because I feel like what I'm being told the risks are...

I think...I think the first thing, the thing I really need, is for someone to explain things in a way that makes sense. My life, my experience, is trauma followed by trauma followed by trauma again. Often it's out of the blue, even someone you thought you could trust. I can't believe the...

I've just been through so much...I'm at the point where I'm feeling like for all intents and purposes emotional abuse is totally ok when a mental health professional does it. Because that's essentially what happened, but there's almost nowhere I can talk about it safely without being bombarded...

I don't know. I mean, if X happens, I won't really have any option on the table that I would find acceptable. I don't find going along with treatment that I don't think is needed to be an ok option, no matter what. But the situation I'm afraid of is being forced into exactly that. What I...