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Yes, I've read up on it. It can coexist with asperger's, or maybe be considered a part of it. I still think AS fits me better because of my patterns of trying to learn how to socialize, and how socializing is basically just following rules for me, not something that happens as a natural...

Yes, I realize I'm not truly alone. My DH loves me, my kids love me, even my dysfunctional family loves me as best they know how. People at my church seem to appreciate my being there. But, well, I'm not sure how to explain it. How would a color-blind person explain what they don't see? I watch...

I'm sorry. That sucks. This sounds like a trust issue, which is, of course, valid. I think I tend to trust people too easily with my story (while still not having a clue how to share my emotions about all of that). But when I share it, even if they respond in a healthy and supportive way, and...

There's nothing I can say that will solve the problem for you, I'm sorry. What gets me through times like that is simply choosing not to give up. You don't see the way through, you're not even sure you'll ever get through it, but...you can keep choosing to stay alive and stick it out. Have you...

This sounds to me like being afraid of the intimacy on a conscious level. But...you still have a choice, right? You can, as they somewhat-a-little-bit convince you that there are no ulterior motives...you can find connection and relief in that space?

Is there some level, though, where it IS helping? ...so you don't feel so alone inside of yourself? Maybe it doesn't feel "safe"...But it's a relief and feels like progress and (with that someone safe) you want to try sharing again?

Actually, I never noticed it myself. I just grew up thinking, she is who she is. I didn't have other women we were close to for comparison (we were very sheltered). I don't really remember her switching much when I was a kid. There were so many other problems, that was not at the top of my list...

I like the sound of that one...interesting, thanks. I love that folksy sound.

...do you feel closer to the person you shared them with (assuming they respond in a loving way)? Like...here's a quote from an Link Removed that describes the phenomenon fairly well: Today in my session, we talked about how alone I feel inside, and then worked on trying to help me identify...

I can keep nearly everything locked up on the inside, except my INabilities. The worst part for me is what this is doing to my husband. My kids...I put on the Mom mask and do fairly well. But my DH...I can't fake intimacy with him. I hate how this is hurting him. It's really easy to get into...

Me too...my mom was dx'ed with DID after I left for college, so knowing that was part of what I grew up with made me really resistant to the whole IFS thing. But it's been several months now, where the T gently brings that perspective into the conversation from time to time, and I've done tons...

Kinda OT, but...I'm not so convinced anymore that this is true. So, I know the scripture says, "perfect love casts out all fear"...but until love is perfected in a person (probably not in this lifetime), I think they absolutely coexist. I was beating myself up for feeling any fear, and telling...

I started teaching myself guitar as part of my recovery efforts...started almost 2 years ago. It does help, but it's certainly not a cure-all. It's helped me understand "process" better, and gives me a chance to connect with emotions in a different way. But sometimes it requires just straight-up...

I was dx'd with irritable bowel syndrome (IBS) about the same time as PTSD, 20+ years ago. I took an Rx for the IBS for a while, then figured out I could control it just fine with dietary management. When the PTSD reared its ugly head again a couple of years ago, the IBS has slowly become more...

I haven't read the article yet...about to...but what you said here...hm. It just occurred to me, for real, on a deep level, that my T respects my boundaries, even those boundaries I haven't figured out where they should be yet...he already seems to know where healthy boundaries should be, and he...

This is the way I feel about Asperger's, but not about PTSD, depression, anxiety, what-have-you. With AS, it's an underlying, neurological wiring that can affect how therapy should be administered and what expectations we can have regarding outcome. That's why I'd really like to get a formal...

I totally get this. My feelings scare me. When I start to feel something...anything...in therapy, well..."flooding" is a very apt term for it. It's like my brain gets flooded with fear and especially shame, and I can't think straight. Sometimes I can't even talk...there just aren't words to...

Went through my Encouragement playlist and picked some of my favorites: "Beautiful" - MercyMe "Beloved" - Tenth Ave North "By Your Side" - Tenth Ave North "Everything Falls" - Fee "Healing Begins" - Tenth Ave North "The Hurt & The Healer" - MercyMe "Let the Waters Rise" - Mike's Chair "More" -...

Been thinking on this. So...I do think I visualize the somatic layer--I "see" emotions existing in my body-space, or I visualize blockages and tension in my body. But it's not for the purpose of changing what is there. It's for the purpose of understanding reality. I can visualize just about...

I just realized two days ago that there is a place I feel safe if I visualize myself being there without my body. So I don't know if that qualifies as grounding...but it sure does feel safer. Whenever my T asked me to visualize a safe place, I couldn't do it, but the closest I got was seeing...

B.R.A.V.I.N.G....what a great acronym for her message. Thanks for sharing the video. And I second the book Safe People...one of the best books I read last year (and I read dozens of books last year, lol). The challenge, for me, is finding people around me who are actually that safe. Those of us...

My T said he was noticing that I had started to "quarantine" certain voices in my thoughts. I thought it was interesting that he used the word quarantine instead of something like abolish or replace or extinguish. Not sure what all that means, but it stood out to me. Anyway, it's like those...

Me too. I told my equine T yesterday about the session with that other person...she just about exploded out of her seat at one point (but she did manage to restrain herself, lol), and could hardly believe anyone would have said to a trauma client the things that were said to me in that one hour...

Hm, I'm thinking I actually visualize the somatic layer...let me think on that and I'll come back.

Visualization comes very naturally for me...always has, even as a young kid. My T tries to direct it some, give me ideas of what kinds of visualization might be helpful, but that's about it.