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Isn't that designed for children and adolescents, in conjunction with their parents? I'm in my 40s. And neither of my parents is safe enough to be involved in my therapy at any level. I might just need to go back and try emdr again with the current T. Maybe it will be a different experience...

I tried a lot of things through church before starting work with a professional T...I wouldn't recommend any of them for working on trauma issues. Those people didn't have a clue what they were doing, and did more harm than good. The long-term T focused mostly on CBT and IFS. He also referred...

Yes, I read constantly. Any suggestions? I live about a half hour from a reasonably sized city...pop. less than 200K. I just found one T in that city who lists cult abuse as an area of specialty. He works for a group where I saw another T there when I was first pursuing an assessment for...

My step-father convinced my mom that it was his job to teach my sisters and me how to have a sexual relationship with our future husbands. The whole household culture revolved around sex, day in and day out. He never raped me, but he did a lot of touching, talking, teasing, kissing, caressing...

Trauma T told me he's out of ideas on what to try next to treat the trauma. I started seeing him in May when my long-term T moved out of state. I was in the middle of a crisis with my mom, so that's been the main focus for the past few months. Then recently, I told him I didn't want to waste...

I'm willing to address it. I just don't know how. I sit with it until it loses its energy. But then it gets triggered again later. Or it doesn't, and I find myself feeling numb. I can accept myself okay when I'm alone. But around other people, I feel so isolated and different, on the outside...

Well, the clinical psych thought so. Strongly so. The social traits show up the worst in unstructured, face-to-face social situations. I'm much more fluent when writing because I can think through what I'm saying and edit extensively before posting. This is very true. I've said this exactly...

That's an interesting thought. How might that happen? It feels safer to be invisible. Not just for the obvious reasons: to avoid being targeted by someone else's dysfunction. But also, I'm afraid of hurting other people in the ways I've been hurt, without meaning to, simply because that's all I...

Had a session with T today. At the beginning, I showed him a pic of me and my sisters so he could put faces to names, and said maybe this would help him keep the names straight. He studied the pic, and then we went on with the conversation. About halfway through the session, he did it again. I...

Yeah it hurt, but I wasn't angry about it. Maybe that's part of the problem, though. Maybe I should get angry when someone does something that hurts me. When I posted this originally, I expected the usual, "That sounds like a good thing to talk about with him. Maybe you'll get some insight into...

Oh good grief...that's awful. I can see how it could happen, though, and feel "normal." My mom is pretty soft-spoken but also very manipulative and enmeshed, so Ts' caring, kindness, consideration, and acceptance usually feel fake to me, even when they insist they genuinely mean what they're...

I wondered that, in my paranoia...but isn't that kind of manipulative to test people like that? When I first started therapy, I thought the therapist would see directly into my soul and would present all kinds of tests and twists and subconscious challenges and pressure. Because that's what I...

Y'all must have a much stronger sense of self than I do. I can't imagine actually getting angry at someone for mixing up my name, even my T. My DH maybe, but that's about it. I had a boss who called me Kim (not at all my name) for a few days, and I never pointed it out. He only figured it out...

That's what I figured... But how would he know if a new client is related to an existing client until the new client starts giving names? Unless his existing clients have listed off all the people they're related to, the T wouldn't necessarily make the connection until, possibly, months into...

I should clarify--he does get my name right sometimes...most of the time. And yes, I've mentioned my sister by name. My sister and my mom are big issues I'm having to deal with right now because of our family business (I work with them), so her name has come up more than most other names. So it...

No. I always wanted a good nickname, but my name is too short to be shortened and too simple to be played with (at least, not in a nice way). My step-father gave me a nickname that was somewhat derogatory, but obviously that wouldn't work here.

Just to squelch my own sense of paranoia... Is there any chance an otherwise ethical T would be seeing two members of the same family without those people knowing? It makes me sick to my stomach to wonder if maybe he's seeing my sister, too... (or worse, my mom...)

So I'm not overreacting to be bothered by this? I really thought I was just being too sensitive.

My new T keeps calling me by my sister's name...the sister who is my emotionally abusive mom's golden-child and who I struggle to get along with. I'm sure he's not doing it on purpose, and I have pointed it out, and he did apologize. But he keeps doing it, even in writing. There are no other...

This is wrong. If you can't say 'no' and have that respected, then you can never truly say 'yes.' Part of the problem, though, is that his behavior keeps getting reinforced when you eventually give in. You and I understand the reasons you give in, but from a behavioral psych perspective...

I thought that was normal in dreams...to sometimes be watching yourself, or watching someone who seems to be you but really isn't. That describes about half of my dreams, and oftentimes I'll switch back and forth between being myself and watching myself in the same dream. So is that not normal...

My regular T, the one I like so much, is moving out of state. I just found out on Friday. At first I was absolutely devastated. I'm slowly shifting into a more productive place, so now I'm wondering what all I need to accomplish between now and his move (scheduled for June). Background: This is...

Can you touch on one of those emotions for a few seconds and then back away again? Can you talk about it for 2 or 3 minutes and then change the subject to find a comfortable place again? It's called pendulation...you go into something difficult and painful very briefly, and then back away again...

Yes-- All. The. Time. On both points. I don't understand what my part of this is supposed to look like, or what I can reasonably expect from the T or how what they're doing is supposed to help. And I never really feel understood. Maybe they understand about a specific point, but they don't...