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Good! I'm glad to hear that because I've been pissed off, angry, hurt, irritated, scared, sad, happy, madly in love, ready to push him out of a moving car- even though he was driving, heading down the road to walk away from this mess, ready to fight for what I want to my last breath, ready to...

Thank you Mr. Smith. This is a greater gift to me than you know- he's got depression along with his PTSD, so I would expect that he's had many days along the lines if what you've just described. And it helps for me to know what that can kind of be like. I will read your message many times, you...

Eve and Sweetpea- thank you. As hard as it is to see the words that he is refusing any sort of engagement with me- that's exactly what it is. He is refusing. I have to sccept that and let go. You are right- I can't fix it. And I'm wearing myself out trying to figure out how to. I can't. Thank...

Olivia, thank you for sharing your situation with me. I am obviously trying to make sense of my reality right now and anyway I look at it, it comes down to - whatever the reason, he has decided not to communicate with me and has decided not to respond to what i have said up to now. Some while...

Thank you Olivia. Just for clarity, my sufferer and I do not have a long history together. We met a few days before he departed for the contract job he's currently working in the Middle east, so we're just about a year, but not really a year together.. Because of where he works, we largely...

Thank you, Mr. Smith. True words and I appreciate the reminder. I don't intend to walk away, nor walk the other way should he de-isolate. I'll still be here. I think more than anything I needed to be able to admit to myself that I'm tired of being strong, dammit. I'm tired of being ignored- I've...

Friday- thank you for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate your points about the differences between sacrifice and compromise and your point is well taken. I'm not sure that I've really been sacrificing in the usual sense though. He works overseas and has been isolating via lack of...

I wish there was an option for "like your post a lot" but since there isn't I'll just hit "like" and then say like it alot!

Thank you Joey. I so much appreciate the feedback I've gotten. It means a lot to me. I'm no quitter and for me to loose confidence in my decision as quickly as I have is out of character for me. Being strong has been hard work and I'm not getting anything in return and I'm just out of steam. I...

I've known more than a few people of faith- if you will- who love to talk about how God gave us free will, but then decline to use that gift of free will by attributing bad things to God testing them and good things to being blessed. Why do they not choose to use their gift of free will to try...

I recently picked up a book titled: Presence, Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges. I haven't gotten past the first chapter, so can't say much about it, but the cover notes and reviews say that this is pretty much what the book addresses. I got it off Amazon if you want to do a...

I am not a God- basher and have respect for people's beliefs, however from an historical standpoint, with the exception of Deuteronomy the books of the canonical bible were not an instructional manual. They were mainly works of history or of what we would now call memoir and of course the many...

Thank you Mal- I absolutely accept ! There's really nothing on his side that's changed- he was actually silent on social media for three weeks until yesterday, which I would think is an indication that he's isolating generally, not just from me. I would seen that as a good thing - sort of-...

Thank you. I felt confident until yesterday. Not sure why that crumbled so quickly, but maybe because the foundation wasn't that strong to begin with... I feel pretty raw, I'll definitely be taking things slowly for awhile

Thank you Sweetpea. I've got tears rolling down my face right now- for the first time in all these weeks. I couldn't let it out before. Maybe I'm ready to let the hope or perhaps it was a fantasy- go. If he does show up again I won't cut him out, but it seems less likely as time passes.

Thank you. I wish it hadn't come to this point. I'm very low maintenance and it would have taken very little on his part- but it is what it is.

I'd love some feedback on this, please. Its been seven weeks since my sufferer went dark. He stopped communicating with me a couple of hours after receiving an intimate pic from me- one he asked for. I've been around the forum long enough to know not to take that personally, although I sure did...

Cashew- this is such great advice. I know from experience that's its hard to put into practice, but very empowering and strengthening when I did. My BF has been isolating for several weeks now. He's overseas and his employment contract will end shortly. That's only one of the stressors he's...

Try not to blame yourself for not having recognized the signs sooner or for having done the "wrong thing". Its not likely that you really did anything wrong- you did what came naturally and,honestly to you by trying to reach out to someone you care deeply about. One of the things I've learned...

At the top of the Supporter Relationships section is a sticky thread from Anthony with a link to a series of short and very informative videos about being a supporter. They are to the point and humorous. I would strongly recommend that you take a look at these, soon. I agree with the...

I posted sooner than I intended- my Labrador is begging for attention. Just a cautionary head's up. You may find that friends and family members who are usually a valued support team for you will not be as supportive of your PTSD relationship. They just don't understand. As you read more here...

Well, just goes to show that you can't believe everything you read in the 'net

Welcome- you're doing the right thing by educating yourself about PTSD and reaching out for support. You've come to the right place!

I would like to second that suggestion! I believe that I literally lucked out and didn't make my situation worse only because the first couple of times my guy isolated I assumed he was simply working off the grid and unable to contact me. The inconsistency of the length of time in which he...

For what its worth, here's the advice I was given by a VA therapist- my sufferer is a vet, but I think the advice may be valuable for others. The T advised that the fact pattern that I tried to be scrupulously honest in describing is a classic PTSD pattern of withdrawing and returning. Due to an...