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The word you're looking for is stigma @Echo It's as old as humanity (think leper colonies) and is no easy thing to overcome. It is easier now with the advent of the internet and nearly constant media barrage but the problem of 'fact' remains. Sometimes the media in any form can't be bothered to...

Trust is something that has to be earned and deserved. Those that it's invested in also have a duty to preserve it. That is what makes abuse such a terrible thing, it's very often the breach of trust that does the most damage.

I know that it's far from simple @Echo and I understand all you've said... The switch is more like a circuit breaker - very fast to trip off and not able to be reset until the 'fault' has been removed. What I hope for is that each sufferer can begin to find the way to unpack that baggage and...

Thank you and all the others who have replied. It makes a lot more sense to me now than when I started the thread. I don't have hope that my ex can regain her trust in me (too much distance and too easy to stay isolated) but I am encouraged that many of you have or will someday be able to do so...

Feelings are what life is, a daily score of music that defines the melody of each of us. I'm sorry yours are of a nature that they are. But someone else wrote here, feelings aren't facts. I hope that you can someday find the means to change the melody that plays as defined by you to a happy...

I'm just saying to take the risk. You might find that not everyone wants to hurt you and some may even wish to share your pain and try to help you. Don't polarize your thinking to they point that you've decided everyone will reject you before they've had the chance to know you. You need not...

I think your dog has taught you a wonderful lesson - that there are people in the world worth trusting and loving. You are one of them. I am glad the two of you have found each other and helped each other on the journey through life.

Not only can it hurt a supporter not to understand but it can destroy the relationship entirely. That hurts both of you. No one is perfect, not even close. We are all broken in some way. Relationships with others are based on trust and communication, be they friend or lover. If there is no...

I don't think I'd have been able to handle to details. I'd like to think I could but the anger from just knowing what part of it I did was huge. I think it is enough for a supporter to know that there is PTSD from acts of trauma and a general idea but unless the sufferer needs to share the...

Sometimes one's first reaction to a 'risk' may appear to be the best one for yourself and those in your care. But when further considered they may not be. If you choose black and ignore white with no thought of great then have you really made the best decision? It isn't easy to think it through...

I have no idea what will help her @Junebug. She's made her choice to live her life as she has. My prayer is that she and the children are happy and will be healthy. Prayer is all that I have left of her other than memories. Her eldest has admitted that he's 'depressed' and will seek the help if...

@gizmo you are even luckier than I thought. To reach such a place after such a long journey is an accomplishment to be reckoned with. To be able to share the 'real' you with your granddaughter should make you happy every day.

Not much better than that feeling @gizmo you are truly lucky.

Sometimes a small bit of thought can lead to a lot less confusion... and less confusion leads to less risk.

Those walls can form a safe haven or a prison cell. Depends only on which side the door is locked from and who you trust to keep the keys.

This disturbs me to read for some reason I can't seem to pinpoint? Maybe I just don't understand.. If someone is treating you as if you are "not acceptable as a human being" that is abuse. I understand why you would want to avoid that, but is that the way to continue your path to recovery? You...

In your case @Never Give Up it sounds as if she is in control and it is possible that it is too late for you to persuade her different. If she insists that she doesn't have a problem and refuses to seek treatment I don't think you can force the issue unless you have some legal grounds to have...

Don't 'soft peddle' the problem. If you have any knowledge that the one you care about has suffered abuse or trauma DO NOT allow it to be ignored. Find a way to get professional help. Period end of story. Don't diagnose, don't push but gently persuade if you can. No matter what has happened it...

"In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.” - Acts 20:35 Despite the religious citation and my own imperfections the concept/ideal contained in...

Just trying to help @Junebug Support in life comes in many ways and giving it is as rewarding as receiving. All of you have helped me, wouldn't be very nice of me not to try and return the favor.

*** Trigger warning**** My 2 cents? As a leader he has probably lost men and women under his command during the course of his duty in Iraq. I wasn't there but from what I gather from a friend who was, and what the media did report, this may have been the most dangerous duty of all to have. It...

Carry on all you like @Junebug . This is not *my* thread, it belongs to all the participants and I think it's stayed with it's original course closely enough. Your words might indicate that you've decided you have a certain lack of trust in yourself. I'm hopeful to see as we go along that will...

I think this is how I'd prefer it to be handled if it were me. Maybe share some things on your timeline that indicate your awareness of PTSD if not the fact that you suffer, maybe organizations that offer support and education like this forum. Even if this person does not respond you are helping...

But by expressing that haven't you seen what you need to see? The very fact that you've recognized that there is doubt to be had, from whatever source, begins the process of questioning and then erasing (or at least overcoming) the source and fear of that doubt. The 'threat' that @The Albatross...

I saw the gorilla.... and lost count of the passes. SQUIRREL!!!! ;)