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You may have read to far but my fault for the verbiage and structure. Whether she comes back or not I need to grieve what could have been. If she comes back and still angry with her it will fail. If she doesn't come back and still angry with her I won't be able to move on. Why I need to grieve...

She was codependent with her ex. What I found out codependency is - trauma from childhood that stunts your emotional growth. Attracted to narcissists. They don't have sense of good or bad without someone elses judgement why attracted to narcissist. Before she met me she had a boyfriend of 10...

When it comes to detachment what does it mean with PTSD and recovering addicts? Does detachment mean they are gone forever or just sorting through things? Want to be clear I am grieving my relationship/ friendship with my sufferer in case they never come back. I am still angry and upset about a...

Best advice I can give. You will have feelings of guilt, anger and hope. Don't get over your sufferer, but let your emotions free and detach your emotions from the situation. I can't " move on" because I have a lot of anger about my situation. Until I can detach my anger from the situation I am...

I agree with your post and found it very educational. She isn't ready to talk right now which is why I am giving her space. Once I give her time I am going to ask her if we can see a therapist together so we have a safe spot to express misunderstandings, confusion, anger and frustration. She...

My thoughts are I am putting this on pause.

It is half way between platonic and romantic. She isn't ready for a romantic relationship and thanks to @EveHarrington on another thread saying when someone isn't ready at this moment in time we aren't romantic because she isn't ready. She asked for space and I need to make self care # 1. I am...

I am currently in space mode with my sufferer. Rightfully so I am exhausted from being patient, waiting and having my feelings ignored for quite some time. Has any other supporters thought about dating or seeing other people while there partner is isolating/ needing space? I am about to and...

When supporters discuss feelings suffers take them as expectations .

Trauma history is none of my business. If she wants to take her trauma to the grave or give a ted talk on it that is her choice. I am not going to waist my breath and explain how knowing certain things would make life easier. Example If someone I cared about forgot to wish me a happy birthday...

Eve I 100 % agree with you about not being ready for a relationship. I apologize if I say anything that upsets sufferers. Something myself and I am sure other supporters struggle with is waiting to get the full story. My suffer would say things to protect her that would end up hurting my...

I appreciate everything you have said and took it as positive . I am taking the time and space she needs to make me happier with myself. I belong to another ptsd group and people have helped me understand her side and what I've done wrong. Something I am learning is she is an addict and I...

You are not sounding rude and this is a forum to help educate on PTSD coping skills. As supporters it is our choice and free will to be with those who have PTSD. Just because we choose to be with someone who has ptsd doesn't mean we want to feel like we are not important part of their life.

@Confused_84 i use this forum as a learning experience. Wasn't meant to shame you or make you feel bad. The setup of this site can be confusing for both supporters and suffers. With that said supporters go through their unique anxiety and stress. Hope everyone can help each other judgement free

Thank you for your story. It gives me more motivation to back off and give space for a time being I know how you feel and it sucks

I take full ownership of being a anxiety drama queen over social media. The thing that bothersome is it appears you put forth all this effort for other people and not the person who voluntarily sacrificed when you needed someone. Me choosing to be there does not entitle me to anything.

@Pippi427 Thanks. Since we are in similar situations may I dm you?

Not saying she wants to be abused want to be clear. It seems that the way she is going about ceartin things would lead to abusive patterns and behavior

She is in therapy. The relationship thing I moved on from till she healed. It's more I have been through a bunch of bad times and patient. I own I get frustrated and upset when I get anxiety or hold feelings in. It also feels like she is setting the tone or wants another relationship that is...

Status is half way between friends and relationship. No I don't know if she is intrested in someone else just feels like it

She wrote me a message saying how she felt bad she broke my heart

Than you @EveHarrington i know you hate giving advice but what suggestions do you have? I wasn't right but starting to feel like a new guy is coming in the picture and she is pushing me away

What frustrates me with my sufferer is she is always saying she needs space and not ready to talk. Yet she will kick me in the mouth on social media and I can't ask her about it

Sorry to hear and hugs Has anyone on here ever had anxiety that their sufferer is dating or romantically intrested in someone else

I apologize for my ignorance and impatience.