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I wanted intimacy....past tense. As I have stated before...he would like to be friends once the mutual attraction is gone...if it ever goes away. He blocked me on messenger, because he couldn’t control seeing me online...then he would contact me...his words not mine. So he blocked on messenger...

I have communicated very clearly all the time that it didn’t work for me without intimacy. I should have walked away a long time ago, but I didn’t. I stayed...that is on me. No more questions please...thank you.

Red flags is not regarding to him...just in general. I tried working with what he had to give...trust me I did. But it was very difficult to be with somebody who can’t touch, kiss and cuddle....who can just do sex with no foreplay....I waited and waited and waited for him to realize that...

Thank you ☺️ I know that therapy will not work like a magic wand. It is his choice to seek therapy. If he does seek therapy he has to it for him...not for us or me. Just ten days ago he said, that he longs to be able to be in a relationship with me, but he can’t. He wants intimacy and loves it...

He wants us to go back to being friends. But only when he “is over me”. He has said many times that it is best for him if we stop seeing each other for a long time....I am not setting limits for him....he needs time away from me, he says.... but he wasn’t able to stay away. I have never ever...

I say...and have done for quite some time now....I don’t want him. You can think someone is still attractive, but not want them. Over him...not quite yet, but getting closer to it bit by bit. Hence the no contact agreement...a month with no contact was an immense help to me...helped me see a lot...

I don’t want him anymore so why would I do that? If we have both gotten over each other I can’t see why we can’t go back to being friends like we were before we got together. If he is not ready for that then I will obviously leave him alone.

My boundary is not that he needs to be in therapy, because too many things have been said and done. I really don’t want him anymore. I hope that he seeks help at one point because he deserves to get better. He contacted after a month even though we both agreed that we would both be better off...

Amen and thank you❤️ I was infatuated with him...a dream...an illusion and then I woke up. Had I not known him as a friend/neighbor for four years prior to out situationship I would not have stayed for two years! I am NOT drawn to drama....I do not need to safe him or any man...why would...

Thank you ? I blocked his number yesterday. I definitely do not want another man I can fight to keep...it is just bad luck it happened twice. My first husband of 13 years was very “normal”....sorry ? We had a good, solid and stable marriage and parted as friends. My ex sufferer never mentioned...

He keeps telling me that he misses me, that he can’t let me go...he keeps telling me he is caught in the spiral...that I have to stop it because he can’t. These are his words...not mine! I said it once and will say it again...I do not miss him. I know that he is simply an addiction, but for each...

It is his choice to seek therapy or not. And if he does, it should be for him...not for me or us. He doesn’t believe therapy will help him. I don’t understand why he at least doesn’t want to try. Again his choice and I have never pushed him to seek help....never...he is a grown man and makes his...

I applaud you for trying when it would be so much easier to isolate completely!

Maybe one day you will be ready to let him go. As for me, he was destroying me and I have reached my breaking point. Even if he came back in a couple of months and was in therapy and could say I love you and would be willing to communicate....I honestly don’t think I would want him back. I would...

You are spot on...it takes boundaries and I am becoming a badass boundaries bitch...this is where I draw the line.

When you think of it, it is crazy how much PTSD can change a person! Extremely scary! It is simply no f*cking fair!

I applaud you for it? As for my ex suffere...apparently he has accepted that he is broken...he wrote yesterday after I told him that we are done (once more); You are right, I cannot give you what you need and will never be able to. I am broken and my life will be one long solo march”. He is...

That I have finally accepted regarding to my ex sufferer. It was a had lesson to learn! It took me 2,5 years. It must be extremely frustrating for sufferers to long to open up to a relationship....to let go of the fear and surrender. To be drawn to somebody....being caught between wanting to let...

Regarding saying I love you; My sufferer says he doesn’t know if he loves me or not...that due to CPTSD he can’t feel the difference between loving me as a friend or a girlfriend. He knows his desire for me is bigger than he has ever experienced. A year ago he texted that he loved me a lot more...

It is definitely not easy to fall in love with somebody who has PTSD! I have been on and off with a sufferer for almost 2,5 years. The only reason why I am still involved is the fact that we were neighbors/friends for four years before we became involved. He has biiiig intimacy issues and...

I was with my ex sufferer for two years. He has CPTSD and constant back pains from being assaulted 100 times from when he looked after violent, mentally ill men. He has not been able to work for app. 8 years. He has a temper, however, he has never raised his voice at me once....not once. We have...

I am from Scandinavia and I guess we are a little bit different from people in e.g. The States, UK and other countries. We definitely do not throw around with I love you. I never ever say that to my very best friends...not even those I have known for over 40 years. I like them a lot! I...

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WTF mostly. He opened up to me, what PTSD is like for him...some of his dark thoughts. I was glad he opened up to me...I felt bad for him, but wished he had told me before. I don’t judge and I could handle what he told me...it would never make me run away. I realize that a lot of sufferers have...

Thank you for sharing...truly! I don’t know how you manage to carry on. I understand completely that he also makes you happy...not just sad, but for me....I was more sad than happy. He never raised his voice at me, never got angry when we talked face to face, only sometimes when we texted. He...