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That doesn’t sound strange at all...I felt the same about 1,5 years into it....and then he pulled me back in and I felt miserable again until I finally decided that enough is enough. If I text him right now...say “ ok let’s try again...not relationship, but being exclusive” he would jump right...

Hang in there and if at one point it gets too much...then run like hell and don’t let him pull you in again. I let myself get pulled in over and over again...which was just plain old stupid, but I wasn’t ready to let go of him...he told me to run, to let him go because he couldn’t let go of me...

Amen to that! I keep saying no to him, because I know he can’t do relationship with me or anybody else...he is crazy about me, but doesn’t act accordingly. If he went to therapy, swore he was ready to communicate, see me on the same level as his friends....I think I would still run for the...

Ex supporter here. Obviously you are going through hell and I am sorry for that. I left my sufferer in May after two years of push-pull. He suffers from CPTSD. We were friends for four years before we became involved, so I knew him quite well. Here is the thing...if your man suffers from PTSD...

I second that! Especially the disappearing act! It drove me crazy for two years! After I left him in May, I found this Forum and learned that disappearing only on the person you are involved with, is normal....I had already figured out that he pulled away just from me, because he couldn’t handle...

Ex supporter here. It was the same for me....he could go to the movies, restaurants and so on with his male or even female friends...not with me. Spend hours with them...where the amount of time he spend with me, would get smaller and smaller the more I pushed for time and intimacy until I felt...

Give her space and don’t push her...I did that for two years because I didn’t find this Forum until I broke it off with my ex. Me pushing him made it worse....made it impossible

You Got me mixed up with @LovingH ? I walked away in May after two years of push-pull...mainly pull and he has tried to get back together eight times since then...not happening. But what you say makes sense

It will be hard to run into him. If you are able to keep it to a minimum of interaction that would be the best for both of you.

Here is the thing when you are involved with somebody with PTSD....in my experience anyway. It is sooooo impossible to figure out what is simply PTSD self protection talk....like he doesn’t miss the relationship. It could be him being honest because relationship is exhausting and messes with his...

Been there, done that for two years and gave up in May. He has tried to get me back eight times....to continue to be exclusive, but not in a relationship...and still no intimacy outside the bedroom, because that equals relationship and he can’t do that...claims he wants to be single the rest of...

Don’t date if you are not over him...and obviously you are not. It is not fair to the person you date or yourself! You are still so blinded by him, and I completely get that, that you are nowhere near ready for a new relationship. Spend time with friends, if you have the energy. I tried to date...

I truly appreciate you telling me this! Compared to you his back pains are nothing and I can’t in my wildest imagination imagine what you have been through and go through on a daily basis. I have admired you for always offering such excellent advice, for being open regarding how PTSD effects...

You are as always right! I shouldn’t have to figure everything out for myself and when I analyzed his words and actions, I wasn’t even sure whether I was right or just making excuses for him in order for me not to run away! I quickly gave up on asking him...I knew I couldn’t trust his answers to...

Everything you just said I had figured out...by myself because he wouldnt admit to it for a long time. It is really good to hear it from you also. He always says he has to protect himself...if he didn’t love me, he wouldn’t talk about self protection for two years. Even though I have let him go...

He doesn’t want to talk about therapy or his CPTS...so being with him is a no go. He wants to get back with me...be exclusive again but not in a relationship.So I asked him; do you want to be in a relationship with me, but you can’t. He answered; I don’t think so, but I can’t really feel myself...

And he says he doesn’t have the energy for therapy....he pours all of his energy into fixing the house he bought in January...maybe the house is just an excuse for not going to therapy. Maybe he is really so numb that he can’t figure out what he wants with me....if he wants a relationship or...

The reason why it is so hard to let go is because of all the questions I still have. I stopped asking him these questions a long time time ago. He was so guarded when it came to his feeling for me...so determined that we were exclusive, BUT not BF/GF and I felt that in order not to get too...

It sucks big time.

As a supporter I guess you can become a little paranoid when you are the only one he pulls away from...you start thinking; maybe he just prefers their company over mine? These thoughts stated creeping in even though I knew he had always loved my company. At one point in November I was so fed...

Yes before May ? And I could have accepted the pulling away, had it not been for the fact that he only pulled away from me...not from friends and family. It took him two years to admit that he only did it to me, because he doesn’t have to “relate” to his friends...they can just hang out. With me...

I left him in May....as long as he is not in therapy and is not willing to work on us, I am not going back. And maybe not even then...too many things have happened.

Amen to that! The missing part and not telling them...when I asked my ex, if he had missed me, he would say ofcourse I have. When I asked why he never texted me and told me that, he would say...I don’t have the need to do that. He once said...so if you don’t hear from me for a while, do you...

Hi? Ex supporter here. When I left my ex in May, I was so pissed at him, that I decided to pay for a month on Tinder...as I did a year ago, when he did something which made me flee. And let me tell you that a LOT of men, and some women probably too, are only on Tinder and other dating sites, to...

You are not at fault for letting him in...you fell in love! He is not a fault for trying/wanting to build something with you. At one point, I was so pissed at my ex, for telling me, he was in love with me, when we were friends (sure I was attracted to him), for telling me, he wanted a...