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I broke it off with my sufferer in May after two years of push-pull...he suffers from CPTSD. There is nothing wrong with you or what you did. I found this Forum after I broke it off and that has helped me enormously to try and move on....which is not easy! If you want to give him a chance, then...

I agree...over analyzing is dangerous and self talk has to go and most days I don’t do that anymore...some days I do...especially over analyzing because he is so self guarded to his heart. So no more of that crap ? Thanks for always offering sound advice?

I am not good for him...as I have stated several times ? and he is not good for me either. I openly admit to having a hard time letting him go...if it was easy I would have done it a long time ago. Now it is a working process...some days it is going good...some days not so good...all part of...

You are right. A part of me wants us to be friends and another part knows it is not the smart thing to do for neither of us. It is “simply” a matter of breaking the pattern. I was quite surprised when he broke his own block on Messenger and contacted me after only ten days....he knows that as...

Thanks ever so much for all of your comments ? and rest assured, I am not taking him back. A part of me wants him...which is only natural since it has only been two months since I broke it of with him...these things take time. Some days I feel really good and strong...some days I just miss...

Thank you...you always break it down and have some good points. The thing is....when supporters post their stories, I also think; get away from that guy! Wake up and smell the coffee...he is no good for you. And I obviously base that on the little information I am given, which is far from the...

Thank you so much. You just said it...you said it to push guys away, and I believe he does the same to me, because his actions with his ex and with me, shows that he is faithful to the core and that I would be enough for him...that is why I stayed for so long. And yes...I called it quits and...

I was married for 13 and 17 years as you very well know....so how can you ask if it is a patterned to go after unavailable guys? I have been married most part of my life...so there has been no time for other men in my life...available or not? My ex sufferer is the first man, apart from my two...

Thank you so much ❤️ It is definitely not, that I don’t feel I deserve better...I know my worth. I have been married twice... for 13 and 17 years and I know men find me attractive. Actually my ex sufferer is 11,5 younger than I am ( I am in my mid fifties, but people think I am mid forties)...

It is running all over the place that is why I left? and that is why being with me is bad for him...and he knows that...the irony of it all is, that he used to work in family therapy and he claims not to have the energy for therapy because he chose to buy a house in January and has spend all of...

I agree...and seeing me is harmful to him and he knows that...it messes with his head

He stayed with his ex for seven years....she had big mental issues as well as problems with her stomach...and they had sex about four times a year because of her issues...he stayed anyway. He stayed monogamous when he was with her for seven years. He has said some pretty awful things for sure...

Thanks again ? He is not in therapy and coping on a day to day basis. He is definitely not attracted to anybody but me...that is for sure. It would be so much easier for him to have a friend with benefits...so much easier than being with me, who has pushed for intimacy for two years. Being with...

Thanks ? We have been completely exclusive and he knows that if he gets the urge to see others he is not for me. I know that he is desperate to keep me at an arms length in order not to become too involved because then his CPTSD flares up...at the same time, he can’t let me go...so I decided to...

Update; As I posted on the 9. of June he had to blog me on Messenger in order to control himself from contacting me and asking if we can continue to be casual, but exclusive. So yesterday evening...just 10 days after him blocking me, in order to try and find himself without me being there to...

Best wishes...hope to get some really great updates from you ? and I will be alright eventually, it just takes time to let go after six of knowing him?

Don’t feel bad! I am glad for you! Your man is obviously in a better place than my ex was and that is good? I was VERY patient with my ex for two years, but that got me nowhere...over the last year he just backed away from me more and more due to me needing more than what he could give...and...

Thanks....I do deserve better...most of us do ? and some of us stay way too long with our sufferer, because we believe that we can love PTSD out of them...when the only thing we can do, is offer love and support...which only helps them, if they are capable of receiving it, which my ex wasn’t. I...

I am an ex supporter and the only advice I can offer is to give him space. It is hard, I know! You feel the urge to contact him all the time probably....I know I did! But that is likely to just put more pressure on him! You know, the thing I admire most about the sufferers in here is the fact...

I know that feeling all too well....is he with another woman? I completely understand, why you have no self control and think the worst possible thoughts! My ex of two years has a lot of female friends. He is extremely attractive and charming and women are crazy about him. To make things worse...

He will probably come back....mine did for two years...we were friends and when we became involved, I had no idea, he suffers from CPTSD. So the question is, when he comes back are you strong enough to cope with his push-pull....the dissapearing for days and days? Is he good at...

My heart goes out to you....I recognize the pain you are in...the two years with my ex tore me apart...I felt that each day, I died a little inside. I still miss him....some days more than others...today is one of those days. I had to leave him though, he is not in therapy and is not ready for a...

You are definitely not alone! I found this Forum at the end of May, just after I had decided enough is enough. Even when you know that when they disappear for e.g. a few days, a week or two, that it has nothing to do with you, that their feelings for you are still very much there, for me it...

It was exactly the same with my ex sufferer! We were involved for two years....he would isolate from me and could see everybody else....be very social with them. At first, I didn’t know his trauma has caused CPSD, but I figured out that he only isolated from me, because he couldn’t handle his...

Thanks so much and I wish all the best for you ?? and please take care of yourself....being involved with somebody with PTSD is super hard and I can’t do that anymore...if he was capable of cooperating, talking things over, to try and overcome his fear of intimacy....then I would still be with...