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Thanks so much ? Therapy is definitely not a guarantee that all will be well...it may help him to get better. I want him to get help for him...not for me...not for us...for him. And yes...it takes two to tango...so to speak. I googled PTSD in order to learn more...I was especially interested in...

I am just going to be single for a long time....for the first time in 32 years. Sexual chemistry...there was a lot of that....crazy much...but before we became involved we developed a really good friendship over four years...we shared things we didn’t share with anybody else....we just clicked...

I totally understand that....I did all along even before I found this Forum. Whenever he pulled away, I would leave him alone, but I am only human so it it would piss me off when he could spend the entire day with female friends....especially since I knew that they were all crazy about him. I...

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Avoidant attachment...the push-pull....he only did that with me, because it is much easier to spend time with family and friends...both male and female....because they are just friends...whereas I was so much more.

He told about the assaults app. 6 years ago...maybe 5. How he was assaulted by mentally ill, violent men at his job. I am not sure that his PTSD only stems from that though...I think it simply got worse and worse from being trapped in the system for many years before he obtained early...

Well I guess that is a matter of semantics...? let’s just say, that for a few weeks I saw who he was before The last time we were together he said, that he had wanted me for a long time before it actually happened, and when it finally did, things didn’t just fall into place for him....somehow...

Thanks ? I was married twice before I became involved with my ex sufferer...for 13 years with my first husband and 17 years with my second husband.....so I know all about the long-haul ? As for my ex sufferer, we had been friends for four years, so we knew each other well. The first few weeks...

No there will never be a time without PTSD, but at the beginning I saw the real him...the one who hugged me and kissed me...the one who wanted a relationship...then PTSD kicked in and his head couldn’t cope with it. So what might have been....the real him I saw....that is hard to let go of. My...

Thanks? I already feel better...I have to let go of what could have been without PTSD.....I have lost one who was my friend for four years before we became involved for two years. Six years...that hurts...maybe one day we can go back to being friends....it feels so absurd and drastic that we...

Thanks❤️ All input helps. These two years have been Limbo for both of us....me craving intimacy and him not being able to figure out, “what to do with me”....torn between being selfish and see me, knowing that he hurts me and stop seeing me...which he could not...I had to say stop and because...

Update; Over a month ago I posted this thread. I did not see him for 25 days...we texted some times and he asked me four times if we could continue. I stood my ground and said no. After 25 days I went to see him...thought I could handle it...bad idea! We just talked for little over and...

I completely agree with you! Moving on is hard....if I contacted him today and said, let’s continue....I am okay with no intimacy and just sex and no relationship, he would be torn between saying yes, because I am his drug and no, because he would feel guilty for not being able to give me what I...

Thanks ? Actually this is what I like about this Forum...that a “thread” can develop into a “conversation” which at times wonders off the original post, but can some times actually be helpful to the thread starter and several people who follow the thread. As an ex supporter, I struggle with...

Thanks so much for sharing. I suppose it is the same for my ex. He bolted whenever I got too close or I pushed for intimacy. Had I known a few months ago what I have learned now from all you wonderful people in here, I would not have pushed him so hard....maybe then we would be in a better place...

I am...oups. Thanks so much! I am wondering why you can’t do intimacy....is it fear of getting too involved/being vulnerabel and maybe afraid of being abandoned? Deep down do you long for intimacy? And what about love....when you get involved with somebody, do you feel numb? What I mean is, are...

Can I ask you a question regarding your intimacy issues? I am not getting back with my ex, but you remind me of him and in order for me to move on, I need to understand his intimacy problems.

I can’t imagine what that must be like for you?....it sounds like my ex...especially the intimacy part...which we supportes can’t do without...I did...for two years. My heart goes out to you

I left my sufferer a little over a month ago after two years with no intimacy outside the bedroom and hardly any in the bedroom (just sex)...he can’t do intimacy as that equals relationship..which he has no energy for. Like you, I spend a lot of time wondering, who the real him is...what was...

Maybe you have just met the wrong men so far ? Don’t blame yourself! I too have a million questions for my ex but he is so self protective that I cannot trust his answers...so forget the questions. I image it must have been quite the bombshell to learn about him seeing her sister as well...what...

Wow...not cool...not fair. Get mad! Shake it off...PTSD or not, that is simply immature and hurtful. You are entitled to get really mad at him...spend the entire day having an imaginary conversation with him in which you tell him how he hurt you....use a lot of swearing ? and let it all out! It...

I was a supporter until a little over a month ago. My guy has CPTSD ....friends/neighbors for four years before we became involved for two years. I found this Forum around the time I decided that enough is enough and being here, reading stories from sufferers and supporters has helped me...

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You got me mixed up with “Allconfused” ?

It truly is! I have an overwhelming urge to contact him now...ask him why he stopped to talk. Maybe that is what he is hoping for...maybe that is why he stopped. I want him so bad