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He is not in therapy...he bought a house in January and is pouring all his energy into making a lot of changes...when he really should focus on therapy. It is ridiculous...before he worked with mentally ill, violent men and got assaulted app. 100 times until his back got wrecked, he worked in...

With open communication as to why the running occurs....running is not a problem in my book. I knew he ran, when I got too close...when it started feeling like a relationship....when I pushed him yet again. My biggest issue with him was his “Pretty woman police” namely no intimacy outside the...

Thanks❤️ I love him and I know that we could work it out with open communication, but he never really gave us a chance and that pisses me off. He wanted me for a long time but we were both in semi bad relationships. When he finally had me he panicked...PTSD hit him hard. He said he wanted a...

I wouldn’t mind the withdrawl if it wasn’t for the fact that he only does it to me. He can spend a whole day with everybody but me...because, as he puts it, they are just friends and they don’t expect anything from him...when he is with me, it me Amen to that! It sucks big time...been...

You are right about boundaries....I didn’t set any...too scared of losing him...I have only seen him once (a week ago) since 22. of May. He has asked me on Messenger four times if we can be together again...and I said no...showed some backbone ? I am doing okay actually. I miss him naturally...

It most definitely is and that makes it hard to walk away....I am used to having him in my life, but as long as he is not in therapy and runs away constantly, I cannot see him.

If only it were as simple as that...I can only speak for myself and letting go of someone I have known for six years...first as a friend for four years and then two years as much more is hard! It is hard to wrap my mind around the fact that despite the fact that we have all the right emotions...

Amen to that! I am sure my sufferer was serious when he wanted a relationship with me at the beginning....two years later we were still together, but he kept saying, he was single...that he could not take responsibility for anybody but himself. We were friends for four years before we hooked...

Amen to that! And why is it so difficult to let go?! When deep down you know that it is not likely to turn out well. I was beginning to move on. Had not seen my guy for 24 days. Had said no 4 times to hook up again. So Monday I visited him...just for coffee...I wanted to see, if I could see him...

I am going to move on...one day at a time and not see him for a long time. He can’t let me go so I have to do it...not easy

You are getting ready to leave...slowly, but surely. My guy and I were neighbors 5,5 years until he moved out end January...that has helped me a lot...so you seeing him every day...damn...not helping! He will not end this...just like my guy...they will hang on to us...but...this is me letting...

I know it all too well...it took me two years to finally accept that it not going to work out. If you are not ready to leave, then you are not ready! I have known my guy for six years...four as neighbors/friends and two as....I don’t know what. I know it will be much harder on him, me refusing...

I feel you! My sufferer desires me like crazy....I am his drug as he is mine! Two years together now....he can’t do relationship or intimacy outside the bedroom....then it feels too good. I cut him off 24 days ago. But he still texts me....like I said...I am his drug. Part of me want’s to shake...

Hi all you lovely people ❤️ I have been involved with a man for two years. The word relationship freaks him out, he loves intimacy but refuses to show it outsider the bedroom...because if he acts on it, in his world that equals relationship ( he is a regular “pretty woman”.. protecting himself...

Ouchhh? My heart goes out to you in a big way! And please don’t make the mistake I have made, when my guy told me something similar to this...don’t contact him....don’t try and fight for him. It will only cause you more pain. Having been on this Forum for only a week or so, has taught me so...

Thanks. He actually loves intimacy...but holds it back, because in his book intimacy equals relationship, and he is no state to enter a relationship

? Well it is your call really...run like hell or stay...I’m finally running..that just took me 2 years. If he want’s to get back with me, he has to open up to therapy, communicate with me and show intimacy...totally unrealistic??

It is rough I know. I have “decided” to move on now...easier said than done. I know for a fact, that we if we stay away from eachother for say 3 months, we will have a hard time controlling ourselves when we meet. So the best thing for me would to never see him again...maybe for you too?

Exactly! If you can be his friend? Will the emotions cool? Not likely...just saying ?

I know “the wall” so well from my guy. I doesn’t matter how carefully you choose your words to make him understand how you feel...I have been there so many times...there are sooooo many things I would like to talk to him about, so many questions....but I have given up, because I cannot trust his...

It is Okay to get angry! That is survival mode! I get mad sometimes....we don’t know if our guy is acting out of pure PTSD or a mixture of PTSD or the “real him” without PTSD! How can we possibly know? I hope you will feel better soon! I know it sucks! I have not seen my guy for two weeks...I...

I feel you! I guess it is the dream of what it could have been like, had they not suffered from PTSD, we cannot let go of. It certainly is for me...I had a few weeks with him where I saw the real him....where he would kiss and cuddle and hold me....then all of that stopped, because the thought...

Because the love between us is there...simple as that. But you are right. I have to let go. He is struggling with wanting me and being able not to go through with it. We texted last night...he said he can’t see me for a while....then he gets weak and want to be with me...that he has to “find...

Thank you! And you are right. However it is hard to let go. He is the first thing I think about when I wake up and the last thing when I go to sleep...for two years now. I think about him all the time. But I cannot save him. So no more! If he insist on not seeking therapy now, then nothing changes.

I am truly happy for you. Unfortunately he is not ready for therapy...and will not talk about it. We agreed to be just friends in June, but he does not want to see me for a while...it messes with his head. I have to let him go for now...give him space and not contact him. But it tears me apart.