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@Freida I really love what you said here. Have you ever wrote your husband a letter? I find face to face communication so hard but I can write really well thought out letters. Or can you write him a letter when your feeling how much you love him, then when your going thru a rough time he can...

Thanks All for your help and insight.

Yes a committed relationship bf/gf.

@lostforgottensoul I'm sorry to hear. Everything ok? I'm all ears if you need to vent here.

We are just dating, and don't live together. So there isn't stress in my home.

2-3 weeks, also around memorial day and veterans day

The communication during isolation has gotten much better. Length of time hasn't changed.

Is there a way to get the isolation periods down to a week?

Well the airlines refunded all my miles as a courtesy. Probably because I told them they need to have more compassion for mental health and other peoples limitations, and to show more compassion for others. Lol

@lostforgottensoul, that is true. I like the "ill give you space but send a text every "x" amount of days" that would help me a lot.

Not allowed to just disappear and leave me to stress and worry. Relationships take work and even if its hard people can't just run.

He never has yelled or been mean. Just isolates. Yes I would like more communication to happen. That would be my boundary. Can't just bail on me and not talk.

I think he needs more time with his Marine buddies. There is a brotherhood/sisterhood there I can't give him, although I wish I could. As far as giving ultimatums like "go to therapy", I'm not going to do that. He is a grown man who fought in a war and did things and made decisions I never...

I'm in therapy for my GAD, using the EMDR technique. I personally really like it. Its amazing to me how it works, and would recommend it to anyone. Even those with out ptsd or anxiety, I feel could benefit from therapy. Going to me is not a weakness. Its practicing good health. He is not in...

Its thunderstorming all day, every single day we were suppose to be there, we wouldn't of had one beach day. Lol. See not meant to be!

I would have done anything that makes it easier. But he needs to communicate what works for him and what doesn't. But yes foing fwd road trips. @EveHarrington if you don't mind me asking what stresses you out about flying?

I got travel Insurance, they told me my reasons were not valid and the policy doesn't cover it. It would have to be a serious medical issue in order to be refunded. Having Anxiety disorder is not a valid health issue to them. Jerks.

I agree @Freida there is no shame in bailing. Everything happens for a reason. Now if only I can get him to believe that statement. And to add to that. I've learned so much from all of you and from him and from this situation and how to move forward. None of which I would have learned if this...

@lostforgottensoul Thank you for all the insight. I will take a look at the ptsd cup One thing. I think you are confused and mis read something. My anxiety attack happened well over a month a go, totally separate from this whole ordeal. So the two don't have anything to do with each other. I...

he wont talk and feels unsure about us..... Yes I'm out money etc but I'm content with my decision of not going. It was the best decision for me. @Freida it helps to know what sufferers go thru as well.

What's done is done. I'm not going to fault him for having mental health issues. I will just give him love and understanding. I want him to feel better and be at peace. I am grateful for all the insight you have given me. @Freida is that why he also said he messaged that he hoped I went on...

I'm mad at myself for not going, loosing my miles, loosing my flight money. I could have gone but I was so upset last night I didn't want to go anywhere. And now im stuck in this crappy state with grey dreary skies and I blame myself for not just going. He lost out on a couple hundred dollars...

I don't know what is going thru his mind. He is avoiding talking to me, drove to see marine buddies over the weekend ( which is good for him). But Now is staying in a random near by state, no friends there. I already told him that its obvious that we aren't going on our trip. Its ok. It wasn't...

Thanks @anon1234, you know what is also bothersome with enough notice I could have asked someone else to go. Its really crappy. Im still deciding if I want to go with out him.

Thanks for asking @anon1234. I'm confused, hurt, and sad.