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He doesnt know if he is going. We leave in less then 48 hrs. I could've gone with family or not been put in this situation.

I am taking in all the advice that Im getting. All I'm trying to do right now is be positive and understanding and patient.

@Friday I apologize for mis understanding your comment and getting aggravated. I actually read what you have to say in other threads often because you are a marine vet. There was no calming my anxiety that day, I had very little sleep mixed with other things like the vacation situation adding to...

Im out. Deleting the thread i dont need this.

@Friday i do trust him, and you don't have to read this thread if it annoys you. I wanted to hear of other peoples experiences. I thought I could learn more hear but clearly i have to "calm my tits"?! Who are you to speak to me that way?! Seriously it was a mistake to write hear. Never. AGAIN...

@Sweetpea76 that is how I feel. I can trust him on loyalty and big things. Has your ever isolated before a vacation or bailed on a vacation?

I guess what bothers me is before he went into isolation. I was asking about the trip he was going to work from the vacation house, so I said "well what if something comes up at work and you have to go out of town, you didn't tell work you were going on vacation" later he said "you dont trust...

Yes but he isn't loosing a lot of money, we used my miles for the car and staying for free at a house family owns, but the house will be empty

I have some time...April 1st. But he is out of town next week for work, so I hardly hear from him when he travels for work because he works late.

Its just really hard because I already have travel anxiety, and he isn't answering.

He hasnt replied, he hasn't said no We have been together for a year. I asked "are we ok" he said "sure". Our anniversary was today. He hasn't responded to anything else. Its hard because others say "why would you stay with him" because of these times he goes quiet.

Well I contacted him. He replied. I guess I always have a hard time understanding how he can easily isolate from me, but he goes to work, does everything else it seems....i don't know because we dont live together.

I heard from him, but he sounded robotic.

Hi bellbird, I'm a bit late to post. I just saw this and wanted to send my sympathies and I pray you are feeling better. All of us in the U.S. feel sad that New Zealand is going thru this. Just know there are many people you can reach out to on this forum from all walks of life to help you get...

I totally sympathize, I am in therapy for my GAD, and have been proud of myself for sending nothing but kind texts to him. I haven't yelled or sent angry messages. I'm just being patient. I just struggle with isolation and not talking before a trip gives me anxiety because traveling itself gives...

@anon1234 are you a ptsd sufferer or supporter? Just curious what you mean by you have a tendency to catastrophize? @Friday he actually came over by the time Dec 24th came, and met my family. Which was a big deal, we had been good since then.

@Friday its a new isolation cycle. Can arguing set off the need for isolation?

So as stated in a prior post, I'm with a combat marine vet. He is really wonderful, great guy. He tends to go into isolation, which I am getting better at dealing with. However we recently had a argument, I have generalized anxiety disorder and that day my anxiety was particularly bad. Well...

Ive not had a consistent relationship, I was hoping this would be it. I had a emotionally abusive ex who would ignore me intentionally. And we were together for a long time, then I stayed single for a awhile. So im not unfamiliar with distance. But I was hoping this time I around I would meet...

Any more advice on how to deal with a relationship when someone has combat ptsd and isolates?

Bf is a combat Marine veteran, who isolates for weeks at a time. He currently is in isolation. Im frustrated because this is our first holiday together, but he is not talking or answering texts, he wont be around. I understand it's not fair to him for me to get mad at him, as he can't help how...