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It sounds like you are applying a lot of patience and thought to the situation. Unfortunately, large difficulties often do have the effect of weeding people out of our lives. It feels very unfair because a lot of us face these losses while already feeling we are stretched to our emotional...

I can definitely see where that would not be helpful. Is there any kind of work you could do where you were not surrounded by people? The nice thing about work if one is able to do it is that it can drag us out of bed even when we would rather forget about life. Dogs are the same way, in my...

What you are going through is a terribly big deal. Anyone who tries to minimize it is probably lacking in any related experience. I am sorry.

I think the important thing right now is that you are talking about it. I've spent my whole life having a very unique story that people mostly don't relate to and I have gotten some shit advice and really short-sighted comments in life, but that happens. I have found that even here, I don't...

I don't either. I wish I did. I have not read all of her whole journal and don't know if it would help but the woman who was here (@Kittie ) who was in a plane crash has a journal still available for reading called Kittie's Journal which you can search for here. She also introduced herself...

That part I can really relate to but in the opposite direction that probably isn't much help. They "fixed" my face when I was 15 and I went through about 10 years of adjusting and I still don't have a handle on the changes or how people may/may not see or respond to me. Ironically, it was not a...

We had a woman here for a while who had been in a plane crash in her 20s and lost an eye and whatnot. It would be great if she showed back up. I imagine she would have greater wisdom than I do. All I know is that the only thing that kept me going in spite of my face was developing myself in...

Hello @Jane19. I am very sorry you are going through this. People can be very ridiculous. I was born with a severe cleft lip and palate and a jaw deformity that can go along with the other two. I've had 15+ surgeries and many of them did not go as planned and some messed me up worse which was...

I went through this with my friends when I was your age, only I was not so aware as you are that they really didn't know how to handle me. Ultimately, I ended up taking a lot more damage because I felt very hurt and abandoned over how they dealt with me and I didn't always handle it well. I had...

Thank you for saying so. I often feel very alone in that, but it is my life. I don't seem to have any way around it. That's not really a complaint, though; it doesn't bother me that I have been forced to get into reasonably good physical condition. Otherwise, I wouldn't have -- not me -- I am...

I feel overwhelmed and relieved at the same time. I also feel annoyed and worn out.

I am curious: would you able to focus on intensive reading after that? So far, I have found that I need to exercise later in the day because once my adrenaline gets going, I can't seem to concentrate, but I do a lot of reading. If I were doing things other than reading, it would be fine. It bugs...

+15 minutes of dancing

I sped my normal 40-45 minute routine way up and cut out a few things to end up very winded at the end of 20 minutes. I may get back to it, later, but I am behind on other things.

I am grateful for pickled ginger. I may have overdosed but I could eat that stuff and nothing else for the rest of my life, I think. I am grateful for having time to sort shit out. I am grateful that my hamstring hurts less this week than last week.

Geez. I am sorry. I went through a lot growing up but never hit foster homes or boarding schools -- both really scared me. I can't remember hearing anything good about either. The boyfriend my mother had when I got kicked out had untreated bipolar. This had a lot to do with me being kicked...

It was 27 degrees during our hike. I guess we burned a few extra calories. We did 3.3 miles and saw some deer on the trail. I was pleasantly surprised by having much less pain in my hamstring than on Wednesday or Friday. 👍

I have a routine down, finally. It's gotten pretty regular. Since I am fighting with extremely hypermobile hips and hypermobile-enough shoulders, I spend a lot of time strengthening, these days. I am up to 15 exercises on the 3-4 days a week I don't hike/walk -- some with resistance bands and...

I think so. That said, I am going to get back to the above, but I am not around much on weekends because I am hanging out with my husband. I hate leaving people hanging... Enjoy your weekend! 🐳

Thank you. I just added that to my toolbar. I need to be more alert to these things.

Thank you. I was very high-maintenance as I entered adulthood. My mother stopped parenting when I was about 10 and kicked me out at 12. Between that and a whole lot of other trauma, I was not ready to adult, and I very insecure, clingy, needy, extremely anxious, paranoid, etc. My friends also...

If I could I would realize that what I expect from myself is so completely and bizarrely outside of the ballpark that no one on the planet could possibly want anything like that from me. I would also realize that I could tone it down a few ulcers and not disappoint a soul (outside of myself...

Oh, I hope you didn't think I did. 😂 I only have one real-life friend and my husband. I had to be taught to create boundaries as an adult and now they are very firm and I don't let myself around people long enough to connect, anymore. I used to go out and attract people who needed me (or what...

Everyone is different. It's great that you are able to go to a job -- a job I cannot imagine having, of course, in large part because I am too emotional. I wish I could shut mine off, but no off button exists that I can tell. So, I have to have a buffer around me at all times which severely...

I do the homework 10 times. That's why I resent it so much! 🤣