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In Structural Dissociation (which isn't DID precisely because the bits have access to each other - albeit limited access) there is an ANP (apparently normal personality) which takes care of daily life. And then there can be EP's (emotional personalities) which are "stuck" in experiences where...

You could also try just asking. Specficially, when he is feeling really grounded and present (see above) ask the elbow what it needs to say, and what it needs to feel better. Make friends with the pain. Give it what it needs. I found it helped my H a lot when he was "out" to stay VERY centered...

I'm not sure what this means. Can you explain more? Here is what I would say - they are always "real" before during and after integration. The eggs in my cake batter are real. They were real when they were just eggs. They are real in the cake. When I eat the cake... I assimilate the eggs into...

Sorry @RussH that the thread got so hijacked. I think the hijacking indicates that there is a lot to feel ambivalent about here. Some people do take photos and other media portrayals as permission to abuse others. Some people take leaving your keys in your car or your door unlocked as permission...

Yikes. Hope!!! Rant away. This one seem a bit abbreviated for the sheer VOLUME of crap that has fallen on you all. Glad your dog wasn't skunked tho....

Our ashes can go next to each other in the mausoleum, in the "don't mind me.." aisle. HAHAHAHAHA....

One of the (many) thinks I have learned on this site is this: There are a lot of things I've assumed were true all my life and can easily count as common knowledge, and... they aren't. Despite lots of people who do agree, they turn out to be false. It is the BIAS inherent in our uncritical...

I hurt my shoulder when we were out on the lake with friends. They have a boat and one of those big raft-y things. It had spaces for four. Three sitting in the front and one kneeling behind. There were handles. I kneeled behind. My foot (or something) caught as we were going fast and my right...

I'm with you @scout86. I like unicorns. :) And @somerandomguy, your question is much more to the point than mine. Thank you. And I would ask that too; what support are you here to get, Dana? A PTSD forum seems like an odd place to choose to try to school people on the systemic badness the world...

So the world would be a better place, (maybe REALLY it IS!) Your idea of reality is... pretty solipsistic. (It is a world that only you inhabit...) My point is that I am NOT calibrating my information intake at all. I am accepting what the world presents in all its messiness. And that doesn't...

I am CERTAIN they are - No physical abuse in my past. Zip. Only emotional. (see, see you guys, I didn't say "only emotional neglect" I am making progress here...) The hip thing I've known about for several years and is clearly about anger. It comes and goes. Structural or just dissociation. I...

SIGN ME UP!!!!

But common sense (and ample evidence) is NOT hammering me over the head. Quite to the contrary, I am happy (well, not happy) to take a serious look at all the evidence, and toss or modify a theory when there is significant evidence against it - or at least admit that I can't answer the...

Thank you for sharing this. Lovely and clear.

You actually should really read Kuhn. So far from throwing out science it furthers the cause of science (significantly!) by demonstrating how our interpretive frameworks (aka paradigms) can shape our perception. If I had to sum up a lot of this conversation with you, I'd say people were making...

Not so, actually. My own position is that social norms are emergent properties. Social life demands inter-personal coordination - interpersonal coordination, to be efficient at all, needs conventions. Conventions emerge necessarily from social life. I didn't say anything about rights precisely...

I'm not sure if you mean to be as defeatist and disempowering as you seem to be. The bullet metaphor implies a inevitability in the reactions, not just now but forever. That's a pretty defeatist attitude. Right up there with "women can't do math." Here is the thing: if your take on the...

Ok. A little slow to the party here. "HEY! I have lots of various aches and pains these days, maybe it is NOT just because I am 50 years old! Maybe ... I am feeling my body for the first time and noticing stuff that's been there for a long time." Evidence for this: Grad school boyfriend...

??????? As a pretty active feminist since the early 1980's I've gotta say that unless this is some "term of art" of a particular discourse (like "standard American diet") I have no idea what this means. The idea that there WAS (or even, god forbid, ought to be) a "standard feminist narrative"...

It is a big world. It is a complicated and diverse place. There are Christians and Muslims who are sadistic animals. There are Christian and Muslims who are the soul of compassion and charity. There are mentally healthy sex workers and mentally unhealthy ones. What the relative populations of...

Me three @Valentino! Really interesting and helpful. I have to learn more about pain. I learned a bunch some years ago, but there are more and more people doing pain research these days, and in much more helpful modes than before. Both my H and I dissociate pretty well from physical pain. He...

The more and less real part - not to that degree, but same in kind... parts of my experience come and go. :brb:As my H used to say after an episode "But it seems so REAL." Honestly guys, coherent writing does not appear to be a problem for anyone here. How strange is...

Amen to that. I am very VERY much in favor of the people working on "body positive" and "sex positive" efforts - and hope that their efforts will make it clear what is objectionable about the value system in place now is, and what a better one would be.

@Ed Norton, I looked up the case, googled it too....lots off hoopla on the blogosphere... but no interview with her.... I wonder how she feels about having her assault discussed in public? It is one thing to be a porn actress, and quite another to be a victim of violent crime. Maybe she doesn't...

And what would you have them say? That this is a horrible crime and the police should hunt down the perps and put them in jail? That she should have access to rape counsellors and therapists who know how to help people heal from violent crimes? That rape is outrageous no matter who gets raped...