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Thank-you @tobunika, just the boost I need :hug::)

@stormysea00 I see a therapist, currently my partner does not. There's a few interesting posts about me attempting to broach the subject of therapy with my partner and some good advice on how to do it. They are towards the end of this thread, : Criticism I hope they help. As for ground rules, it...

This is very much what my sufferer says she does on a shut-out. Thank-you for posting @Fadeaway and putting it so clearly. I suffer from abandonment issues too @stormysea00 and a shut-out makes it hard for me too. Especially when you see your sufferer appearing to carry on as normal with their...

Thank-you @J'qel for your advice, which is a really helpful way of broaching the subject. The good news is we have agreed to meet up on Monday and Tuesday to talk things through. We also both made a promise to be open and receptive to whatever is said, which is really positive. In fact, I feel...

Aww bless you @tiredtexan we're all here for you sweetie :hug::hug:

It makes complete sense to me @J'qel. I have weekly therapy sessions myself, I find it enlightening and although difficult on occasions, its such a relief. I have absolutely no idea on how to broach the subject though. I'm worried it will trigger her. I suppose the only way forward is going to...

You're a star @brokenEMT! :hug: :)

Please continue make fart jokes whilst paying your light bill @Sweetpea76. In fact can you post them on here as I think we can all do with a laugh, ha ha! :laugh::D:p

Its a pleasure @tlc anytime :)

Oh, you've just described my past week of torment @tiredtexan. I asked for a reassuring hug after a tough few days and my sufferer became so angry with me and shut me out. I left at that point. We are just tentatively in touch by text. From the amazing woman I fell in love with, where nothing...

@J'qel I really hope, if we get through this current distancing, she will consider therapy. Its the only way in my opinion. She just seems to be stuck in the same cycle.

@Friday That's a great post, which helps lots. If/when you do get an anwer to how the symptoms differ, it would be great to hear from you. Thank-you :)

@tlc, @Newtoptsd and @brokenEMT, Although I knew in my head I wasn't alone, I still felt alone. Thank-you so much for your support, its helping enormously. :hug::hug::hug::)

Thankyou for your Jensen hug! that's helped so much @Jensen :hug:

Thank-you so much @Junebug :hug:

I'm sorry to read about the torrid time you have been having @grimalkin As a supporter of a sufferer for just 7 months I don't feel qualified to give a perspective on this other than that I can already see so many similarities in my relationship. You have come to the right place for support...

Thankyou @Naoru :hug:

Thank-you and back at you @Bristol1485 :hug: I'm sure I will get back to form soon.

Oh its horrible! After all the ups and downs of the last few weeks I feel physically, mentally and emotionally exhaused. I also feel really alone and low. :( Any virtual hugs from you guys would be greatly appreciated and cheer me up no end! :)

I think this is such an important post. Thank-you so much @Nomoneywoman. I won't comment on it yet as I will need to read and re read it to see how I can learn from it as a supporter.

My sufferer has CPTSD. In trying to understand the symptoms of CPTSD I read a lot about PTSD. However, are there any differences, subtle or otherwise, between the symptoms of CPTSD and PTSD? Many thanks

That's a good question. As you say maybe it could be a test to see how the supporter deals with an initial opening up. Could it be that there is no deep emotional attachment to the supporter at that point, and the sufferer is able to share without concern about how it could upset the supporter...

@J'qel Thank-you for sharing your experience as a sufferer. I am also a fixer and love to communicate. I see it as really important. I appreciate your suggestion for contact during a shut out. This has been on my mind so much today, as I just don't know what my sufferer wants from me. When in a...

Yes, very recently, while in a more receptive moment. Before a shut out she tended to barrage me with blame texts, she would then go silent for a few days. I asked her not to do this. If she did, I would delete them unread until she stopped sending them for a while. To be fair, she hasn't done...

@Panda Bear Its certaily becoming clear since reating this forum that the shut-outs are not to be taken personally. Even though its sometime hard to understand, I think I'm now getting it. My sufferer said she did this to protect me. I couldn't understand that at first as I felt worse in a shut...