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Well had the second session today, and I think my fear is becoming a reality. She seemed completely uninterested in my family background or past, and she even smirked at me when I tried to explain to her about my mother, like she thought it was funny or stupid. She referred me to the...

Yes I agree. I wish I had figured it out long ago.

She does things like that on purpose to hurt people. For a long while growing up, I thought she was just so unwell of mind that she literally would forget other people existed, or didn't know any better when she hurt people. But then there were eventually several moments in my life where she...

My mother and her husband left last night for another vacation. They'll be spending a while in Mexico. I'm currently living with them, so I can take care of things like the mail and such. It was evening time and dark out when they left the house to go to the airport, and on their way out, my...

Volunteer/Charity type work or donations helped me some. It's one of those things where you don't really get to see the impact you're making too often or much, but you can conclude logically that it helped. This could be something as simple as buying a bundle of nice comfy men's socks and...

No I am not, I have just done a ton of reading on certain topics, and have also thought about things on my own. One thing that I thought was very telling was how repressed memories were at one point widely accepted and understood, when the focus was just on war veterans. When the topic of child...

This. Growing up my parents didn't just give me a a swat on the butt when I was doing something potentially dangerous, in an attempt to dissuade me from doing it again. They would just lose their shit, lose control of themselves to extreme anger. And it got worse over time. It started with...

Repressed memories are not that crazy. As we go through life, we collect thousands upon thousands of memories, and so they can't all be at the forefront of our conscious mind 24/7 or we wouldn't be able to function at all. Most of the time we have to focus on the here-and-now to be able to...

Yeah it's kind of flustering, for sure. Like you have to recognize that it's a trap, as far as quitting the battle to get better just because you are feeling better. While simultaneously not forming an association of "feeling better" = "bad things will happen soon".

I think on the contrary, abuse and resulting trauma issues are a lot more common than most people are comfortable believing, so validation is scarce, and healing is much less common than it should be. It's only when people who have been traumatized through abuse start speaking up and taking a...

I go numb for periods of time, but I am also barely functional during those times, too. I don't care about anything. Like getting up or showering.

I can't pinpoint exactly when they started, but I believe some time in early adulthood. The year after I graduated from high school was when things all really started to dive downhill in general, so I tend to associate the start of many symptoms with that time period, though. It's always...

I think comments on effort could be agitating if a person has put in a lot of effort but didn't get any results, especially if they were surrounded by people who didn't need to put in much effort to get results (with anything in life). Even more so if a person has put in a lot of effort with...

It happened again today. I stepped outside to have a cigarette this morning, and there was this intense smell of gas, like the type that would come from a stove. There wasn't anything outside that would cause this, and the world is covered with snow right now, no people were around. My anxiety...

Are you seeing a therapist? If not, would you be willing to see a therapist to help you with these things? It sounds kind of similar to "splitting", with a mix of hypervigilance, getting triggered, disorganized attachment style, etc (just all stuff you could search up on for validation, maybe)...

Maybe that would be a good thing to have a conversation with him about? Because from what I read in that post you linked, it sounds like he is gearing up to try to push you into some breakthrough-type progress, but if you don't even know how he would react if you had a meltdown, I think it's...

Okay walk with me down paranoia lane for just a moment. 1. Why did he message you privately, instead of sticking to the threads where other people could also see the information and also benefit from it? 2. Why is he trying to take on the role of your therapist, instead of just sending you...

My mother had it done, it went well and she is happy with the results. She was experiencing non-stop heavy bleeding and it may have been related to menopause (not sure), but anyway that is what her doctor went with. My mother over-shares pretty much everything with me, so I assume the heavy...

Well my honest first over-protective thought was "online predator". There can be some creepy people on peer support sites, it's like a buffet of vulnerable individuals for a malignant, predatory psycho type person, so it does happen, and just because someone is a moderator, doesn't make them no...

What if you did? Assuming you mean in the therapy session, with your therapist. I mean I am assuming you have had meltdowns, disassociation and/or flashbacks outside of therapy before, right? So how would it be different in the session? I know there is no tone in text, so I should also clarify...

Well it's not your responsibility to know how, it's his, that is what he gets paid for. So don't sweat it, I would say. It sounds like he is actively engaging you in therapy and helping you along. What you described in that link was actually some pretty solid progress for a session, not sure if...

Ah. Well honestly nothing. It's been years since I was in a relationship, though, so the memories of those times are getting older and faded like photos. But I don't remember anything going on in my head, except for maybe anxiety and frustration that it wasn't working. I mean I tried everything...

My only thought on it is, if things go south with this person, go right to your therapist about it. Try not to harm yourself or do anything else, just hold on tight and get to your therapist as soon as you can. It could be that your therapist is expecting it and wants to be there when it...

Link Removed I read the link describing your therapy appointment. I like the sound of your therapist. Sounds like he is trying to help you unlock things and trying to walk that fine line of pushing you without pushing you too much. I also agree with the feel I get from BlueOrange's post. For me...

Yeah no. If your "mother" abused you, then she wasn't a mother. She was just the organism that biologically spawned you, and then she was your abuser. To actually be a mother is a wonderful and impressive, even sacred thing. Some of us grow up with an abusive organism that claims to be our...