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Historically speaking people lived in relatively small groups. Villages and towns were maybe a few hundred people. There have always been *some* cities, but lots of people have had fairly isolated lives forever. I don't see why it is "wrong" to do as our ancestors have done because it feels more...

I think it partially depends on how you structure it. I tell my friends, "I'm feeling very overwhelmed by life. I'm going to need to go dark for a bit. If you don't hear from me in a month... poke me and remind me you love me and want me to come back."

I feel a little weird about "don't chase money". I've been very poor for most of my life. I'm not poor any more. Mostly because my husband is a computer programmer. He does consciously pay attention to his salary and he tries to get increases over time. I have a hard time believing it is so bad...

I call it going on vacation. I always resurface after a few weeks. :) I think it is good for me.

I was incredibly impressed with the way Lizbeth Salander was portrayed in Girl With the Dragon Tattoo. She clearly had PTSD and she was a fully fleshed out, complicated character.

Yay you!

I believe that the world would be better if no one was abused. I don't think we will get there.

If your old therapist wasn't awesome, keep hunting. Lots of therapists out there.

Well, you do want attention. You want attention because a lack of attention is causing you serious problems and you *need* help. That's not selfish. That is self-help. That is self-care. That is necessary for survival. I've been told that I should never talk about my past to anyone who isn't a...

Well if you are afraid the trees will jump out at you.... yeah that's going to be tough.

I think for me, part of it is I am capable of feeling happy with being safe in this minute even if I think bad things will happen again in the future. There are certain minutes during the day when I can be relatively sure nothing traumatic will happen in the next 10 minutes. My life is kind of...

If you aren't allowed to want anything it isn't a relationship.

I go through intense interviews with therapists. I need them to be a good fit and therapists are just people. They are not all the same and they don't have all the same experiences and abilities. Be highly selective and fussy and discount people who won't work for you. Being really picky will...

This is awesome! Thanks for sharing. ;)

Uhm, I would dump him for being a jerk. I wouldn't take that as setting boundaries I would read that as "I'm not that into you and I only want to pay attention to you when it suits me and I want you to be invisible the rest of the time." Wouldn't fly for me. But I've always been very happy to...