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Bell, In the past ten years, I have been in two other relationships.

Barconian, When my friend is thinking clearly, like when she sent me the link to the video as a form of an apology for all the times she had been mean and/or critical, I knew then, that I mattered to her. Because, She has never called me a derogatory, profane name. She has said the occasional...

@AJJ, I try to keep busy, but it doesn't always work. @Barconian, That is true.

Anonymous, In a previous relationship, where the woman was both a victim of child abuse and diagnosed with Bi-Polar Disorder. I supported her, not only by making sure she took her medications. I also had two therapists, one for my own peace of mind. But I had second therapist that...

kahlan, That would work, if I had a 3yr.-old running around.

Breeze, Military combat can be different from some other causes of PTSD. But equally , so can working in law enforcement. Where the only way they differ from other causes if PTSD is, the ongoing exposure to trauma, on a daily basis. In the 'ongoing trauma' vein, EMS personnel could also be...

Blackbird, I appreciate your 'chiming in'. I figured, it was her way of saying that, emotionally in the moment, her cup was full. Because, In August 2012 after she was released from the hospital, she sent me the YouTube link to the Faith Hill song 'It Matters To Me' Yes, One thing at a...

Julesnaz, I know part of it has to do with my own thinking. I can handle the push/pull. But when she isolates, I get worried.

How does anyone else handle the push/pull of the PTSD sufferer, along with their isolation?

I am looking for a support group for friends n' family of people with PTSD.

Bell, I have known her since 2003. When her (late)fiance(U.S. Army Lt.) broke up with her in 2004, not telling her why. She told me in utter tears. While it may seem like I bullied her. I got her to give me his Yahoo Messenger contact info. I contacted him. He naturally initially gave me a...

@Chesapeake, Don't sell yourself short. Yes, She could be surrendering and escaping. I do think her emotional strength has been brittle for two years, definitely. Because of the chaos going on in her life. @bell, I know, I want a relationship with her. Even with her PTSD(and potential NPD).

Barconian, How do I know, what? Can you be more specific as to which part you are asking about.

Sandi, I don't take it personally. What makes me sad, is not that she doesn't care what I think(since I know that is probably just an 'in the moment' feeling). But that she is so down, she doesn't care what happens. Because, In the end, I know what I say matters to her.

When they say "I don't care", after you say you do care. How do you respond? I am asking this question, because I was curious how others reacted to the PTSD-Sufferer saying this.

Al, I am thinking about that. I won't push her hard. At least for now, I will give her more time.

Barconian, Thank you for the input.:happy: Scout86, Thank you for your points.:happy:

macca, Great input!!! You also gave me a lot to think about, thank you.

Gingerly, That sounds a little like my online friend that I have known for ten years. She would say the most hurtful things sometimes. Even telling me multiple times that she would never speak to me ever again. But each time, it has lasted less than a week. So, like you, I won't give up on her.

anonymous, I think you pegged it. I also found a post from three years ago, by 'ISupportHer', that the pulling away can actually be interpreted as a form of love. I guess where I have a problem with the poor communication, is that it doesn't allow the PTSD Sufferer to realize how much they are...

Trying not to be assuming.

I am having trouble with this mentally. Because I have been turning it over in my head. If someone with PTSD has a fear abandonment. How can they fear abandonment, if they don't communicate?

BBE, Compromise is not an absolute. Yes it is tough. I was thinking compromise, not so you would have to bend over backwards in compromise, but so you both could help each other.

Ditto I told my online friend the same thing about her breakup with her (ex)boyfriend. I told my friend I was concerned about her safety because of her (ex)boyfriend becoming physically violent after their nasty breakup. Her response was that he has never been abusive. Abuse doesn't have to...

BBE, This may not make sense. But, The length of his tour of duty, steadily shifted the 'emotional need' balance from 50-50, to practically 100-0. Yet, You are still in the 50-50 mindset. It has to be brought back to 50-50, from 100-0. But, He is a military veteran, so getting back to 50-50...