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i was sick and abandoned as a young woman and found myself in not terrible, but somewhat compromising situations which were excaberated by my lack of self esteem due to growing up in a really miserable, abusive home. every now and again i will have an experience which will put me in touch with...

i guess i don't feel degraded, just misunderstood. it's hard for ppl who don't have experience of victimization to understand.

i think the people who did this to you and the ones who stood by and let it happen are the gross ones. not you. it's not your fault. therapists are there for telling things and i'm sure with time you'll feel comfortable enough to get it off your chest. it's maybe not great that you're seeing...

i've survived serious illness, crushing poverty, medical, financial, sexual, physical, emotional abuse, starvation, revictimization by the legal system which was supposed to protect me, republicans, and i'm still here. but i'm finding i don't really like what this means in the long run; it's...

hey guys, i was sick for a really long time and then i suddenly got better, and i think i'm a bit traumatized from the experience. the illness was really, really bad and i experienced episodes of paralysis with little support from friends and family members & at times even abuse! obviously i...

i think you also deserve a lot of credit for surviving not one but two horrible, violent relationships. you must be stronger than you think.

my questionable advice for the OP is: find another shrink, get new meds. or simply hire someone to talk things out, this probably works better. develop a "grounding" practice (i do yoga, but there are other things) try to expose yourself to the things that scare you over time, like leaving...

hey guys, mostly recovered me/cfs/fibro patient reporting in. i wanna invite you all to really take care of yourself and your bodies; really make the effort to come back to full health, or better health, or slightly improved not completely utterly terrible health. do what it takes. love...

@Ms_Spock, do you really view your cfs as somatisation? there are a lot of us in the community who might be offended at that. I wanna tread carefully here: i don't want to deny your own experience but for those of us who have what is known as "Myalgic Encephalomyelitis", it's really hard to...

yes but like many on this forum i have an unclear idea of my rights and boundaries, and the people in my life aren't helping. i've noticed that i am meeting a lot of people who interpret my "assertiveness" as irritability; it's tiresome to have to keep the edge out of my voice as i direct these...

my guess is that you've never actually experienced love so you take anything that might remotely ressemble it and users exploit this need. get your validation from us, we're not awful.

hey guys, i'm a really f*ckin angry person, and while this is generally aimed at people who deserve it i sometimes wonder if i border on becoming abusive. how do you all deal with your anger and is it even worth it? i will typically take a deep breath and reconsider for a few moments if i...

i was assaulted at work too and when i reported was treated like a bitter, vindictive bitch with an axe to grind. take care of yourself mate, no one else will.

have been having a lousy week and knowing i am not alone in my neuroses has helped considerably. thanks fellow members for your wise insights.

here's a third. :hug: just now extracating myself from a relationship with a narcissist, if i can even call it that. if you have grown up with really horrible people like you and i have you have to be really aware of your attractiveness to predators. i'm not in the psych ward but i did have...

i used to work with kids like you, and i could always tell. burned me right out of teaching. **internet hugs** to you for your considerable emotional pain. i guess there's this burden on women that we have to be good, that we have to be caring. and it's freeing not to be that person. part...

anyone find chronic pain causes anger issues? i found myself becoming much more selfish as i became sick as i knew others did not have the burden i did. generally speaking i had a much lower threshold for my emotions and didn't really give a shit if i was borderline abusive at times, although...

remember that you're the boss and you can fire the f*ckers as you please. helps to know your stuff; docs complain all the time about patients with internet connections but that's just because they got lazy with the continuing education.

holy f*ck OP what a mess. as a woman you're going to have to deal with all sorts of shit in the doc's office. if it means anything at all, **I** believe you, and you definitely need to find a way to believe very strongly in yourself, so you can be your own best advocate, as clearly no one else...

hi OP. I live thru 8 years of myalgic encephalomyeltitis, some of which was severe. never visited the hospital although i needed to be in assisted living; family abandoned me and i went without food or heat or medical treatment. i'm in remission and my life is normal now but i'm so f*cked in...

my mom is a bipolar sadist whose bad moods were always my fault. my dad made excuses for her temper and watched silently and she, and later my brother, punched, bit, kicked and insulted me. i entered adulthood, shy, terribly insecure, and with a fear of anyone touching me. i let people take...

not to hijack the thread but i thought this was beautifully put. as i grow older i know how to calm my emotions, but i'm afraid that one day my propensity for these two may turn against me; although they were the violent ones then others will point their finger and say, "look, this is the one...

holy f*ck OP that's a dealbreaker jesus christ leave this guy

hi everyone, thanks for taking the time to chat. i'm in my late 20s now and i wanna say the incident was about 7 years ago. it's hard to pick up on my original line of thought but i think i'm trying to get to the bottom of my sexual & attachment issues. i was severely abused growing up...

yes definitely, but even if you don't he should respect your right to say no. there is such thing as marital rape after all! is there something about this man that triggers your symptoms? **hugs** to you; you're not alone in this.