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There is no option for "I don't know". I have no idea if we are actually matched, or if my husband is putting me first.

You should be able to email PALS. I'd find it easier than phoning.

Clearly they do have a referral, as that started the process. Whoever made a pigs ear of adding your referral onto the system has also misplaced it. Keep insisting they should use the correct start date. If you get no help from the manager it is certainly time to enquire about their complaints...

I trust her professional skills. So I'll be as open as she asks me to be, unless I can clearly see a risk to myself that she has missed.

It would be much harder to merge two records with partial names - it can be done,largely because people turn up at A&E using multiple names, but you would notice you were doing it, especially if both records had activity on them, whereas picking up the (wrong) record and changing the address is...

If it is the same sort of Patient Administration System as I used to use, someone has searched for you by surname, picked up the wrong record and assumed a change of address. The man won't have had your details, as your referral is sitting on his record. Most likely to happen if you have no...

Coming out of hiding to say that my gut instinct is that this is the wrong time to stop. Your recent posts suggest that you are working on important things at the moment, and it would be a waste of of the slog that has brought you to this stage. Can you try to see the money as an investment in...

Yes, I think this whole area is one where we can't make accurate judgements. It's much easier to see that someone else's trauma is traumatic, yet we rate our own stuff as trivial or blameworthy. We need a therapist to help us get things in proportion.

"Get dressed" WHY did they put the hardest thing at the beginning of the day? GRRRRRRRRR

You were a child. You COULD NOT " technically want to", because you weren't capable of making that choice. All the responsibility sits with the adult, so yes, it is absolutely right to feel hurt that they mis-used you. You aren't overreacting, you are reacting exactly as you should. What...

However, it probably isn't OK to think that they have an unusual name and use it to build their family tree on Ancestry. Not that I've done that...Not more than once.

What is DAV , what is MSD? To me they mean Disability Access Volunteer and the Merck pharma business name, but they must be different to you.

I've also noted that we avoid even acknowledging our avoidance. It runs so deep in me, as the way to manage anything challenging. I caught myself again recently. I'd offered online friendship to someone, then as soon as they responded., I blanked them. This is someone I genuinely like. It is...

Isn't it a bit like unravelling tangled balls of wool? If you only have one then it is easier, but when your workbag contains several different wools all tangled together you find that working on one pulls out bits of the others.So for me.working on one trauma pulls out others that are linked...

If your aim is to talk about something specific without it overwhelming you, could you write it down in advance to convey the bare facts? Then you could start talking without having used up so much of yourself just specifying it. If you haven't used up your capacity on that, you may be better...

The supervisor once said in a interview "when you are dealing with someone whose whole world had been turned upside down and where their reality is never clear, where someone abuses you and tells you they love you, when one moment they behave one way and the next moment, things are turned upside...

I'm worried it sounds a bit demanding, suggesting that they should discuss it with me face to face.

You are right I've had my two best nights sleep for ages since deciding not to go, but my mind still isn't as clear as I'd like I've drafted an email as below, and I'd value any comments on it. I know T has let you know that I feel unable to continue seeing her. I'm unsure about what should...

I think that might be the way ahead, though there is always the risk of jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire. I don't know if they will agree. I also don't know if it is all my fault anyway, or if I'm avoiding and will be the same next time. I do feel huge relief now I've confirmed...

From what I've read, I don't think J was the wrong therapist. I wonder if his humanity and un-professionalism ( if that is the word) made him right? I can imagine that the different quality of relationship would make it possible to be more open. So now, when you are facing so much change, it is...

I still don't know. I need to know more today, as I have to decide whether to go tomorrow. I said last week that I considered this our last session, but she said she would be there this week. I think it would be polite to email her beforehand and confirm my non-attendance. The things I am...

I'm overwhelmed, still confused and aware I haven't expressed myself very clearly. I have a house full of grandchildren, who are staying overnight, so they are taking up the energy I can find. I'll be back tomorrow or Monday, hopefully having slept a bit more. Thanks everybody.

And I know, but she doesn't, that I've just had the bowel cancer scare, with all its associated body related stuff and invasive tests. I couldn't talk about it while it was happening, an now it is past it doesn't seem worth mentioning. Still, it could account me being less able to cope with her.

I don't know. Isn't the point that my judgement is not reliable? She said that it was more likely to be that I'm just coming up to my worst time of the year, combined with our plan to increase to two sessions a week. She also said no-one else finds her unclear. I'm feeling that I can't cope...

I’m so confused about what is happening in therapy. I thought I had gone to a specialist trauma therapist, but what I’m getting seems nothing like what I ‘ve read about. As a person she seems quite pleasant, warm and intelligent, but as a therapist she is bewildering. She is very specific that...