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he hit me with the i need to focus on myself and you need to focus on being happy text so i accepted im 100% ok with that just slightly confused because it doesn't sound like a break up but it could be . so i left a vm telling him i respect his need for space and when he's ready I'll be here...

does therapy work better if you're not in a relationship ? i want this person to get better ...so perhaps leaving is the best option

when he does say something about us when i dont ask and when he's snapped he screams that he loves me and i cant help but feel like that upsets him or if in that moment he's not sure why he loves or he loves me but really hates what's happening between us . hell could be all three but its never...

for me i was sure that i wanted him in my life regardless of all the "drama" lol but i actually dont know if it's the same for him..im willing and wanting to work through everything , but that's just me . i have no idea what he wants or doesn't want anymore and i feel like i cant ask because idk...

i need to write that down somewhere haha i wish i could my forehead !DONT ENGAGE!!

first i want to say i love you! and always look forward to reading your posts and i thank you tons and do not care about the length of the post ! lol i have to laugh because all i keep hearing is exactly why i feel like this relationship isn't working and it's because im not learning everything...

thank you for your reply litha! i wonder if your username is pronounced the way my sisters first name is. haha omg! i find this relationship is pushing me to my limit and then it goes beyond my limit.i guess we call it growth and it's painful, it's really painful . i am not sure if im even...

what is or was hubbies reaction when you blamed him?

this is not why we fought ..but he also said something that kind of got to me but confused me at the same time. in this case an argument did not start because i just accepted what he said and moved on . in april he seemed very symptomatic. not sleeping well, panic attacks, reoccurring...

thank you sweetpea. i dont feel like like i did anything wrong as i am not the one who caused the situation.yes my reaction was pretty bad, especially since I couldn't respond with a clear mind.the word apologize isn't even on my radar because of me, its there because of other people. If i were...

ah!! lol this was kind of funny as i personally like cleaning the bathroom. i wish we fought about things like that instead of the things we do actually fight about. in my case i felt disrespected not so much what he did just that he lied to me , before i thought he had lied about some things...

i never asked myself that question. disengaging is something i truly need to learn to be able to do . there's so much i have to work on with myself and it all keeps showing in this relationship. i hate that more than anything. i know that this problem escalated because of my insecurities from a...

i wish i knew how to fight effectively...in my mind i just think i have to stand up for myself in this moment or at least let him know this is bothering me .but when i do it's not received very well, and i admit it can also be the delivery. since we got into a relationship we have both known...

well i dont want to argue but for some reason it keeps happening . i think i am using poor choice of words . i do not want to argue with him but i feel like arguments keep occurring. there's so many things that go through my mind when it does happen, such as please don't let me say the wrong...

how do you argue idk i know thats not a good thing. stress cup everything i know and im trying my best at least i was how do you argue with someone with ptsd without things getting explosive?

Robert thank you so much for your response ! therapy and having someone to talk to is helping me a great deal . i found this whole situation really difficult in the beginning, but now that im working on myself and taking time for me, I'm in a much more positive head space! i have and i still am...

Thanks eve! actually made an appointment for Thursday. Never said i didn't want help just said that it made me anxious for certain reasons. Thank you for your reply . "Whenanxiety or insecurities are up don’t communicate until you have them down and under control." I appreciate this...

..idk I don't even know why my anxiety is so high I've been wanting to see someone about it but that makes me anxious too

Lol omg! Is it terrible that i laughed at that last bit? When you say it like that makes what I'm doing seem so stupid and half the time its because i dont even know what im doing or what i should do

This was wonderful to read and i needed to read it Thank you for your meaningful replies freida

Idk ...idk what to do anymore Idk its hard for me to cope with the ugly side of this relationship. No everything wont always be good. But i think this is an extreme for me. Its hard for me to admit but this relationship brings out the ugly side of me . apart of me i didn't even know i had until...

Also i asked if he wanted to talk on the phone a few nights ago he said he couldn't i said ok and was completely fine with it He then said he would call me after his paintball match that seemed to last from morning until 5pm he never called which is unlike him he texted for a few minutes and...

Let me say this is why i think he's lying Things that he has said that i think he's not being completely honest about. He said he didnt text me back during those weeks he was ignoring because his phone didn't work.. I asked him why didnt he try and get a hold of me in some other way to let me...

I feel like he knows he can use that as an excuse as it's something i will believe and if i felt like he was telling an ounce of truth i would have continued to be supportive as i have through the dry conversation etc im chasing him and im over it Ptsd or not i expect honesty and i expect...

I can see your point .. but i said all of that because i dont believe him.he just seems like he's not being honest