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Nothing much to add, I'm afraid, but just want you to know you're not alone. My husband has felt abandoned by the system, been promised all sorts by the NHS, and his care co-ordinator has repeatedly 'closed' his case even though he has still not had trauma therapy.

This made me think of the saying "Treat others as you would wish to be treated" and how wrong I have always thought it is. Everyone is different. In what they want, need, feel, etc. Does it matter that you don't understand? They still get attached, whether you understand or not. Most...

In the UK the Samaritans (08457 90 90 90) is the main suicide hotline, but you don't have to be suicidal to call them. You can also e-mail them or contact them via their website. In their own words "Just having someone to talk to that isn't family or friends can be a tremendous help. You...

Completely non-related to PTSD, but my ex-husband said I love you maybe six times in the eleven years we were together. It was nice to hear, but didn't change anything as I knew he loved me. Conversely, I also knew when he didn't love me any more, even though from the outside at that point...

I've had this sort of thing a few times, although thankfully not for a while now. It is scary and horrible, and is one of those things you can't really talk to 'other' people about as they don't understand. I found the same as you, shouting his name usually woke him up. And I completely agree...

My hubby was a police officer until he was retired on medical grounds (i.e. PTSD) a few months ago. He has told me some horror stories about corruption and the 'old boys' network, but also about how powerless he/they were in certain situations because the system often works against them. I...

I've never even heard of anything like that. It sounds fab! I have a few crafty friends who sell bits online, or at local craft fairs, is there any sort of website I can show them to see if it's something they could look into?

It isn't always easy to do, but this method has definitely made the difference in our relationship. Not just to give him time to calm down, but also to help me regroup. If hubby shouts at me I often do take it personally, but by removing myself I can apply the logic too. I have also...

As a supporter I would say it depends as it varies from 'meltdown' to 'meltdown'. However my general response tends to be to tell him I love him and to come find me when he's calmed down and is ready to talk. Sometimes I have messed up, although I may not know it, and sometimes it has...

Of course it is. It's always easier to blame someone else, especially if you are trying hard to hide from the real reason. Doesn't mean it's your fault though. On a bad day my husband will blame me for all sorts of bizarre stuff. My 'favourite' was when he sent me a text in the morning...

He can be a source of comfort and support, but only within certain parameters and, as you say, only if he is in a good emotional place. On the whole we have a good system for communication and space. However, he cannot cope with me being truly upset, and it is a big stressor for him...

I'm angry that it's always all about you. I'm the one that had the car accident, you weren't even there. I was the one in shock, and I needed my husband to hold me, not shout and rant at me. I know that it's because it frightened you. But it frightened me too.

You are in good company around here, and very definitely not alone. I love my husband dearly, but hate that our relationship is a balancing act. The very person I should share my worries with, is the actual person I usually have to keep them from.

I totally agree, but the difficulty lies in knowing how much we (the supporters) have a right to know. At what point does a supporter's need/right to know outweigh the sufferer's need/right to privacy, if at all? @Glara I think you handled it well, and totally agree that this place is a...

Good day Live it, love it, cuddle him lots, make plans for the future. So-so day Lots of cuddles, lots of tv, and lots of mashed potato. Bay day Kiss him, tell him I love him, back off and give him space. Really bad day Kiss him, tell him I love him, back off and give him space, cry...

Some people (my sister and mother for starters) think it is their right, or that they are entitled to know. But a lot of it is ignorance. I will hold both hands and feet in the air to say that I was totally ignorant about PTSD before I met S. To me it was something that soldiers get, right...

I met my husband through internet dating, and he told me he had PTSD before we met. He didn't go into details about the cause, other than it related to his police career. So I guess that made it easier than saying to someone "I have PTSD, but can't/won't/don't want to tell you how/why".

Oh, I know this one. My husband gets stressed about x, but he doesn't know how to deal with it. So he will 'punish' me by not communicating. I'm lucky in that I know he isn't a danger to himself, so if I don't hear from him I know it's because he doesn't want to communicate. I will still...

Well done you for getting benefits in the first place, managing to keep them, and getting them to own up to a mistake! I don't have a high opinion of the UK Benefits system as in my experience it has always let down the people who need it.

I don't post very often, but find it very reassuring to come here and read about other people's experiences. For some reason it didn't occur to me until today that it would be good to share happy and exciting news too, so I thought I would let you guys know that we are getting married!

My OH doesn't have Combat PTSD, but he is a blue-lighter which is the cause of his PTSD. As you know, it is different for everyone, and even for different situations. The following are kind of general: When my OH is depressed and/or reflective I hold his hand and actively listen to him. When...

Do I need to know? No, all I need to know is that my sufferer is in pain, and I love him, and will help and support him however I can. Do I want to know what the reasons are? Intellectually, yes as what he has told me has given me new insights and serves to remind me how real his experiences...

By telling him about your PTSD you are stepping the relationship up in terms of intimacy, albeit not physical.

Sorry, didn't mean to hijack. Have posted in the Help Desk section as you suggested @Hashi and will respond to you and @rainy_daze once that is in place. Thanks.

My partner is having CBT through the NHS, and has nearly finished his 20 sessions. He doesn't think it has done anything for him, other than make his feel frustrated and misunderstood. The therapist seems to only ask about his childhood and our relationship. His PTSD relates to his 17+ years...