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Yes, I have. For example he often has nightmares those days... and sometimes wakes up yelling... and then he checks if everything is okay... and then he watches TV and drinks. Then I asked him “What is it“ he is just like “nothing - just a nightmare“. So I discussed it with him when he was “not...

Yeah, I see what you mean but... to give an example: He is unhappy with something and pretends he is not... or he cannot sleep and pretends it is not the case. Or wakes up screaming and pretends everything is fine. Then I cannot give him any comfort and I think that would be good for him if...

I am close to my vet even though he is tough (at least when it comes to some things). I don’t think you cannot be close to tough people. I think my vet, too, feels that he is halfway privileged and he feels that privilege comes with certain moral obligations - and I don’t really agree because...

Does he have ptsd?

I think my vet had a freeze reaction to the corona crisis and the fact we aren’t protected because he has lots of trouble eating and he stopped planning for our futures like doesn’t want to discuss 2021 with me or want to make plans. ??

Thats a cute thing to say. Women soothe you? I like having that power.

Not sure if you got what I was trying to say. My vet doesn’t want people to be empathetic and doesn’t want them to do something quietly because they noticed his limitations. He would hate, hate, hate that - at least if he knew the reason that they did it because of his limitations - because he...

I just wanted to thank you for wearing one nevertheless. I like to compare it with wearing a bra. Wearing a bra is far more discomfortable then wearing a mask. At least for me. Yet, society expects us to wear one and do we hold anti-bra-rallies? No, we don’t. I am not sure if all of them...

Thanks for sharing.

I see what you are saying and actually @Sweetpea76 and @Freida have been telling me: it’s better everybody but the Vet having fun than nobody having fun... but otoh it makes me angry some people even don’t try to find something that he can enjoy too and in fact don’t even notice he ain’t...

I don’t know. No, I don’t think that all women or all women with ptsd want your empathy. I think it depends... I guess the women with ptsd on this site could say more about women with ptsd wanting/not wanting empathy... I think in maybe even in most cases they don’t. I just thought of men (in...

Okay. I see. But I still think many men don’t want that kind of empathy that you understand they are feeling terrible (if they are)... and i think it is actually hard to understand what kind of terrible a person with ptsd feels, like watchful-terrible, hopeless-terrible, stressed-terrible?

I agree with the rest of what you said but not fully with this: I think it depends. I think my guy often doesn’t want somebody to listen and hug and care... or not care for his ptsd so to speak... care for other things (for example I brought him a watermelon when he couldnt eat and really...

In my native language the word we have for empathy (Empathie) includes sympathy so to speak. It becomes clear to me only now that isn’t the case in English. How would you define empathy?

Do you know how to show a man empathy in a way he is comfortable with? I mean it’s different to see the world from another persons perspective, isn’t it? I think all most people can do is acknowledge the perspective is different. For example: Jim is a vet and John is not a Vet. Can John really...

So we decided to do nothing... because the time is too short to do anything. It came as a surprise that they really decided to open the schools without possibility the socially distance. They say they would do it - if infection numbers they that low... Infection numbers didn’t stay low. It was a...

The context was something I wrote on another thread. I didn’t want to derail it. To give the context: I noticed that children often are more empathic than adults - but as they grow up society expects them to become less empathic. To give a few examples: hunting/eating flesh/watching others take...

I think they don’t. How do you think?

Is it an academic question or a child-rearing question? If it is an academic question: I think it depends. I think that there are some people who are wired so differently that nothing ever touches them but I do not think they are the majority of all criminals. What is considered a crime is so...

@Ronin und @Freida Do you think that “Smith“ because of his ptsd has to believe mask wearing is killing people? Because his hypervigilance makes him think so and is not to blame for having a stupid opinion?

I have the same theory. And I know other parents who have this theory too. I cannot understand why they don’t let the parents who think so homeschool for just one or two months. There have been both parent protest in favor of opening schools and parents protesting against opening schools here...

I have to look that up. Never thought of it.

Phew... really? Before the pandemic they where always searching for people to send them abroad (and even paid them better + things are cheaper, so that they had a high standard of living). However right now most things are online. I mean there are a lot places in our country that are a lot...

I just love this thread!

Yeah, am I weird to feel like this about school during the pandemic? In our country everybody with very few exceptions everybody has to be in school... but I know homeschooling is allowed in other countries. I wish so much that homeschooling was allowed (at least for the parents whose children...