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I like to think of the triangle as an exercise in perception. So often we are backed into a corner and held there by our belief system. By learning this theory I can better understand the interactions between myself and another person, either in an antagonistic role, my persecutor or someone...

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@Valentino, thank you. I have been trying to find a site that gives some examples of how to start moving out of the cycle so many of us get into. This one is great. It gives me a starting point in black and white. So many times I know what I want to do but to vocalize it is sometimes a...

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This is the recipe that I use all the time. I like having the little bit of citrus that the orange juice adds. Don't be scared to change the amounts of the spices to make it a little spicier or a little less. Good luck! Ingredients: 4 eggs 1 1/2 cups brown sugar 1 (12 ounce) can evaporated...

@Eleanor the link was supposed to be a diagram I made but when I posted it became what looked like a link. Sorry, I did try and edit it but could only list the words. What I took from the talk yesterday is what you said you were going to try and do, just step back out of the role of rescuer...

I have drawn a diagram for the triangle. I hope this makes it a little more clear. By knowing where you are in the triangle and what some of the underlying motivations are is how you can figure out how to get off of it. Victim - I'm Blameless Persecutor - I'm Right Rescuer- I'm Good and in...

I wish I could explain it better. There are a lot of times people come to me because they need to talk about a crisis in their life. Usually that is the only time they ever talk to me, but I find they want sympathy, they want me to do something that I really don't want to do and they try and...

I had a discussion tonight in my group session that I thought I would share. It was about how people, any people, can get hooked into a triangle. The 3 corners of the triangle are 1) victim, 2) persecutor/abuser and 3) rescuer. I can understand it to a point but to actually start to talk...

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Avery, what you described is a lot like I felt most of my life. I knew something had happened, I just didn't know what. The fact is that you may never know or you may wake up one day and the memory of will come flooding back. It could also be that what you are feeling is totally not related...

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I would be very careful, even though it has been 3 years this sounds like the start of an abusive relationship. When one person thinks of another as a possession it can get really scary. He has already cheated on you, he has shown that he does not care for your feelings and even brings up...

I am with the others on this, those 2 small children need to be safe. If you want to help your EX-husband with a place to stay maybe make it contingent on him remaining sober. One drink and out the door. You are divorced and your ex is a grown man who can take care of himself if he needs too...

I have received the other 2 packages from Kris Kringle today when I got back from being away this past week. One was in the mailbox and the other waiting for me at the post office :D Thank you Kris! They are going up beside the one I received last week...3 parcels to taunt me for the next...

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Life is a series of opposites, we can't know angels without touching demons, we can't appreciate beauty without knowing ugly. For most people knowing horror can only be achieved by watching movies or reading books. To know only one is making that single extreme more normal in the balance of our...

I am not a veteran but I know that I avoid conflict or aggression of any kind. I even avoided any sports that involved contact and rivalry. I know it is a direct result of the trauma as it involved a very angry person that inflicted a lot of pain. I am not much better even now that I know the...

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