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Workplaces where you're supposed to just shut up and put up with whatever is expected of you are rife breeding grounds of abuse - all sorts of it ... I can't believe that so many on this forum are ok with it or just accept it considering we're all suffering with PTSD and we *ALL* have problems...

I am either petrified by fear or angry. It's endless. When I'm not scared, I'm angry, when I'm not angry, I'm scared or anxious. I hate it. It's exhausting and it hurts others.

My mom raged ... from time to time, when things got a bit too much. She was a single mother in a post-communistic hellhole in a middle of extremely chauvinistic society where at the end of the month she had to send me to my grandparents so I could get something to eat. I'm glad she hasn't done...

Thank you very much for taking the time and writing all of that ... It really helped. I'm sorry you were in that situation. I've spoken to my supervisor since and things look better. I'm going to get new cases. When she asked me how things were going I lied and told her everything was fine...

Hm. The thing is that I was so upset the day of the criticism (the day I started this topic) that I actually broke down and cried on two different occasions at work in front of a couple of coworkers (behind closed doors, mind you). All of them seemed to be understanding of why I was so upset...

I'd love to know what you do ... That is partially what my husband said - the boss is probably under lots of pressure and just doesn't know how to deal with it and so she ends up saying what she said and how she said it ... The thing is she's is doing it all wrong in general, not only with me...

Ok, I take the sweetheart back.

Can you be my boss? :)

Guys, I'm sorry if I appear hostile, but I'm in a really tough spot here, I feel like I've gone through hell and back at this job and I really don't need to read anymore posts siding with my boss and what amazing constructive criticism she's given me, which I *know* she hasn't.

Yeah, it is disturbing how that can work. I can see why many positions of power are filled with narcissists and psychopaths ... it takes one to be this horrible to another person, really. I'm going to talk to my supervisor tomorrow (a step down from my boss) and I'll decide on my plan of...

I'm hostile? I feel the need to explain myself, so I am. I appreciate all the supportive and positive responses, not the ones that are siding with my boss. Is that wrong?

Sweetheart, if she gave me 'specific stats,' that would be one thing, but there are no such 'specific stats' at my work. The only stat we have is the stat on the end result, however, what we do has an insane amount of tasks that go into it. Also, as a caseworker, I'm not the only one involved...

--> Do you actually think this is an 'area'? You just described my entire job. Btw my boss never mentioned there being anything wrong with me writing any decisions - nothing that specific. --> This critique I did not get from my boss, but earlier from my supervisor and I promptly stopped...

Again, I'm baffled at where you see specifics.

I have considered writing an email to her in which I would ask her to describe my weak areas and her suggestions in how to fix them. That way, if she responds in another insane manner, I'll have something to show my union. Or get actual workable response ... maybe she just sucks in person.

I'm not big enough of a person ... that needs strength and I don't have that amount of strength. Now I'm thinking about asking my union representatives about advice about what to do next ... Thanks.

Well, actually, she did not tell me to improve in areas 1,2, 3, 4 and 5. She just said: my production is low, I'm nervous, and then she said something absolutely random about some negative reaction of mine to something that had to do with customer service (there is not a soul in that place that...

Yeah, I was not ready for this sort of response ... 1. I'm absolutely new at this job (3 months - 2.5 weeks = 2.5 months of active experience out of which the first couple of weeks were really just bunch of theoretical education, my tasks are complex, not some idiotic spread-sheets) 2. I had a...

I'd like to add that I have said repeatedly to her that I think all I need is more time at the job to gain all the necessary experience ... I didn't know what else to say, frankly. I also asked her if she can think of some way for me to get help or improve and she told me that it's usually the...

I've had an absolute horrible experience with my boss today. I have been hired for a temporary 6 month job. The workload is insane, the pressure is high, but my understanding was that nobody is expecting miracles from me the first few months. I've even been told it takes 6 months to learn to...

I'm sorry you are feeling like this, but the reality is that she doesn't owe you anything and you can't really expect anything of her. She is not ignoring you, she is responding to you and keeping in contact ... just respect it. If you want to talk to her, contact her, tell her that. You can't...

Wow, what a topic. I was abused by a man from age 5-9ish. And then again, by another man, from age 12-16 (with a 2 year break in the middle). Did I somehow choose these men to be around me? Did I somehow elicit their behaviour? No. Full stop. However, perhaps my mom chose certain kinds of...

I'm also honest to a fault - exactly to a *fault* - and it's never gotten me anywhere nice. It has only and solely caused problems for me. So, I've decided not to do that ... whenever I'm in control of that part of myself, because, let's face it, part of my issues is that I am *not* in control...

I know one shouldn't use that word, but it succinctly describes how I feel in these situations - retarded. But why? Why do we go into the 'fright' mode? My head feels empty in these situations ... and sometimes I just start feeling frustrated and can even get angry. I can go from fright to...

Is staring into a wall for an extended period of time while being somehow 'unable' to make myself do anything else (like, perhaps, something I should do) called dissociation? Or is it just 'zoning out?' I used to do that a lot as a kid. I've never thought much about it, but now I'm starting...