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Hey How do you think about it now? Me and vet do not discuss this a lot anymore (apart from him telling me not to panic) but I can tell (from his reactions, trembling and needing to puke when he heard about Korea and Italy) that he is very scared. At the same time he pretends that he is not and...

His friend had sepsis. I think that contributed to him being a germaphobe. Typically he realizes that his fears are silly and I realize that it is just his ptsd but this time it is different. However he stopped discussing it with me now while I still realize he is very stressed. I hope it is not...

I think that unfortunately it is common. When we were newly married our communication was not good at all - now it is better (not perfect, often it still is a problem but better). I think that there are some things they never discuss with their spouses (but only with other ones with similar...

@Ronin: Fear is Never being helpful, is it? But it might be justified. My husband has a long history of being afraid of germs (PTSD related) and typically his fears have not been justified which he knows... sort if at least... However in this case he is very worried... and he knows a lot about...

Hi, just wanted to know if any of you/your loved ones is afraid of the new corona virus? My guy started to be worried about it circa ten days ago and talked me into doing some research now I am starting to be increasingly worried too while my Vet is getting more and more stressed. We always had...

This! My guy has felt suicidal in the past, first time he had a bad time he didn’t tell me. He told me only much later. Second time he told me and it was very stressful for me to hear but I am happy he had me to trust in. @bellbird You asked what made it easier for us. For me he made it easier...

The most difficult? Lack of communication... for example he didn’t tell me in the beginning the he was triggered by crowds, triggered by people/busses/trains not on time. He also tried to hide when he had a ptsd attack - but I noticed anyway. So I noticed he was very, very stressed by a bus...

Might I ask which kind of health problem it is? I think Tai Chi is actually ideal for those who have health problems but I might be wrong. what about another hobby? My guy likes to paint. What about taking photographs. Whatever else he likes and helps him relax.

I think that @Sweetpea76 s idea is great but that maybe you could also help himexplore something that helps him cope with the feelings that make him drink - for example you tell him you won’t be with him when he drinks but that you will help him explore something that reduces his stress (if...

Sorry I didn’t answer. Just wanted to let you know that I don’t think you are crazy. I am not sure if my guy has the same kind of fear about restaurants. I think not... but I know it tressed him a lot when he heard that there was plotting poison attacks. It was on the news here. A terror...

@adrift I am not in a position to tell you what to do. I hope you do not mind me asking questions. Do you know why he drinks? Because he is sad, because he has trouble sleeping without drink, because he has nightmares or why? Has he tried medication against the symptom? Has he discussed it with...

Maybe just explain it like this. Just say “it’s a daily battle“. I typically don’t read here. I just clicked on this thread because of the topic and because my guy said something similar. He said that it feels like a war for him... and I think I understand what he means. Maybe just say the...

Ny vet actually thinks very highly of women. He holds them in much higher regard than men. This is the reason why he dislikes the idea of women being in harms way and why he acts paternalistic towards them. He also holds civvies in high regard, he just things that they are a bit idiotic but he...

Its being traumatized and being confronted with a trigger. What if a woman was in an abusive marriage and was triggered by physically strong men now. Would you also call her sexist?

My vet is much happier now in his work place then he used to be, one reason is that there are vets working under him now which didn’t use to be the case in the past (he had a say in having them hired) and the other reason is that he got them work together as a team now. But he used to be very...

I think my vet expects nothing but stupidness from some people. I think he has the core belief/cognitive distortion “everybody but me is a bleeding fool“/“I am surrounded by idiots“ (one typical thing my vet always says “does one have to deal with only bleeding fools here?“ - but he doesn’t tell...

Guess my vet is really a bit different because he sees women and actually a lot of civilians as sheeple so that he doesn’t expect them to be anything but helpless... and that’s actually bad for him cause he is always busy saving everybody and feeling responsible for them. Maybe it would...

@Friday: Aren’t you a woman? My vet is actually quite nice with women... most of them time... actually a bit patronizing but I think that this is not because it is a Vet but because he comes from that kind of old-fashioned family where he told him that it is the main job of a man to be...

Is he your boyfriend or just a friend?

No, my vet is not mysogynistic. More like a white knight. He thinks that women are weaker then men but he doesn’t hate them for this but is protective of them. Which is annoying too but not as annoying as what you describe. What your guy like apart from that?

Are you sure he is okay? I think 24 hours is a lon and unusual time to sleep... or maybe he was awake in the night while you slept. I would be worried.

I totally agree with that opinion. I for my part do believe that there is most likely a global warming and that it might cause problems for humanity one day. I am following some people on twitter who post about it but I was shocked how some people on Twitter just exploit this catastrophe to push...

No, it’s not embarrassing. It happens to the best of us, can happen to literally everybody. Can you try to think of ptsd as a wound instead of as a failure? Remember how you told me your therapist told you to see it that way. I might have advice for hurting hands ?. Do they get very, very cold...

Stupid question @Sweetpea76 and every supporter: What do you do if you are at a restaurant and you notice your Vet might be feeling fearful? We have a code word for when he wants to go but unless he does say that he just wants me to ignore it. Sometimes he wants to put one arm around me (but...

It happened to my guy too. He was feeling very emotional (because she didn’t wait for him in therapy, you know what I mean, he wanted a stop - not stop seeing her - but a pause (sorry for my English) - but she didn’t want one) and told her and she basically told him that he wasn’t because very...