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to be honest i struggle with CBT based therapy, i dont find the model at all helpful, its far too restrictive to be useful. I know it does help some, but there are many other therapeutic approaches

its been pretty terrible "trying" to be an adult. Nothing has come naturally about it, i feel as hopeless and unprepared as a child would be trying to pretend to be an adult. I feel as if ive never grown up, although im responsible and most people would say very together - on the face of it...

indeed, my problem is over the years i have been expecting her to leave - for no reason other than i think she should. really hard to explain, and this could be the one thing she cant handle. but as you say, thats better realised now. Yeah i think i will speak to my T more about it, see if she...

i think id feel very uncomfortable with someone else in therapy with me, the way im trying to think about it is if this is something she cant handle, then me hiding it isnt helping anything, so im best knowing that now

true enough, i feel telling my partner might help explain why life is just so difficult for me most of the time, shes very accepting of my anxiety and depression mostly, but she does struggle to understand why its so constant - as do i to be honest. maybe knowing this might give her a chance to...

Yeah thats it totally, expecting some kind of catharsis - then there is none, which makes sense - why would there be. I dont know what i expected but i dont think i expected not very much. There are people id like to tell in my private life, somehow it feels like i should, but i cant see that...

Ah yes wouldnt that be nice lol! Thank you, thats kind of you. I guess after not speaking about it for so long and finally telling my T - she was so cool about it, and accepting - i did feel a sense of relief, but also a kind of....well now what! What on earth do i do about it now kind of thing

Thanks a lot for replying, i was driving myself mad with not knowing if how i was feeling was typical - if there is such a thing! denial and minimization is exactly the right words! A couple of years ago i tried to talk about it in group therapy, and i did try to minimize it, unfortunately...

Well, a bit of a long story so please bear with me. Ive recently started with a new T, and i find her really easy to talk to. I found myself telling her about something that i never have spoken to a T before, even though ive wanted to ive never had the courage. When i was around 7 or 8 a...

i know what you mean, ive had therapists like that. in a sense - he is right, a relationship is just a set of rules we each create to deal with another person - we may not even know we are doing it. so in a way, a relationship can be good or bad depending on the rules we may have set in place...

i think religion is a great thing - if its what calls to you, just as important for non believers lack of religious belief to be respected, so it is for those who believe. I hate when non believers give those of faith a hard time, but i equally hate those who have religion try to push it on to...

just whenever you want to, as you say there are no rules. sometimes its best to just take a deep breath and say it - its nothing they havent heard before, and they have no interest in judging you - sometimes the longer you leave it, the harder it becomes. Sometimes best to right at the start of...

Thanks, do you have space to discuss the past? I know.some forms of therapy don't encourage this, but for me it's what I'm looking for

thanks, thats good to know - that sounds good, i think i know pretty well what i want to talk about, but like you that might not be sustainable for too long, be interesting to see how it works out

no im assured its not cbt, i was very clear that i have no time for cbt - while it does work for many, i really dont like it. from what ive seen its supposed to be client led, which sounds interesting

I believe so, its her speciality, ive been in different kinds before, this is my first time with this approach

Hi all Does anyone have any experience of person centered therapy? im due to start soon and just wondered what to expect Thanks

Thanks a lot, its strange - the first time ive ever talked about it online - feels quite numbing in a way. another aspect of what happened was, although i felt a bit nonplussed by it all, i did know what was expected to happen during male on male sex. i cant think why i would, what kind of age...

im waiting to start therapy soon hopefully, its just the opening of the mouth part which is hard, as soon as i try something just drags it back inside. but i really will try this time around, if for nothing else just to get it out of my head - its always there!

a few years ago it was really playing on my mind, and i was desperate to get it out - so i spoke to my three sisters about it. however i was really stupid and made it seem as if it was both of us doing it together - i dont know why i did, maybe to make it seem more acceptable. i really wish i...

hi there, thanks. thats whats always troubled me the most, that he was very close in age to me - i feel almost as if i shouldnt be bothered by it, but i really am, it makes me question an awful lot of things - and its always on my mind

i would agree, even for london that seems a very high amount to pay for a single hour, even half that is higher than the average, she sounds like a bit of a chancer

thanks for that. i really built myself up to saying it in group, and to have it dismissed so quickly by another group member just really made me feel embaressed and i havent spoken about it to anyone since, im scared to bring it up again in case the same thing happens again

Hi all When i was roughly 8 or 9 - i cant really be sure, a neighbours male child (slightly older than me), initiated sex with me (im male too). At the time of course i didnt really understand what was happening, and didnt do anything to stop it. There was touching and simulation. I think...

i struggle with assessments too, people who have no idea of anything about me, and they dont really try, they just sit there and select meds which they want to try me on. so like you - i tend to not be happy at that. to the point where i say, i am not here for meds, i want therapy - or other...