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You might be right, I suppose ambivalence is an option. Still though, I don't think most people are ambivalent and I'd still say a large majority of people likely make the choice to try and move past.

It is a choice in a way, but I do think it's a choice almost everyone makes. I think the only way to make the other choice is basically to kill yourself, so most people alive have made the choice to move past. Even if they seem to be entirely living it, I think the fact that they are still here...

I was watching an Oprah show about this kid who was locked in a closet and starved, neglected, and abused for a long time. It wasn't exactly pleasant and it made me nauseous at times, but it was interesting I suppose though I don't know why I watched it since I've never liked Oprah's style. One...

Blimey! It's the Zimbabwean horticulturalist killer! LLDGFJ

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Hmm, I think this may kind of be it for me. I have on and off tinnitus, generally pretty mild. I think potentially during the dissociation it got more intense and seemed like words because everything else just sort of seemed further away. It probably was amplified by bad mental health, but I...

I did as a kid a lot, that was sort of a low point during trauma though so it's probably when my mental health was at the lowest point. Generally it would be during episodes of derealization/dissociation, and only rarely by themselves. Still get them on rare occasions these days, but they're...

Huh, that is very weird. It does sound like an irresponsible move on their part, hell I'm surprised they were even able to just put you into foster care for a couple of days without giving up custody.

I mean it's cool that it's the first study to verify this, but it does seem like common sense. It reminds me of a study that confirmed that having a visor periodically obstruct your vision will negatively impact driving performance, like it was the first one to confirm it but the hypothesis...

I unfortunately don't have anything to contribute, but if it's not too much to ask, why did they want to put you in the foster system? I mean if they were good people and you were a decent kid I'm curious as to what led to that.

You actually have a point here, I hadn't thought of that. You've actually described the exact feelings I have towards my father, but I guess I really feel most of the anger towards my mom. I feel much more negatively towards him, but in terms of only anger it's more towards her. I guess it's...

I blame the perpetrator mostly. That doesn't mean I have no ill feeling towards the bystander, but I definitely think it's more logical to resent the one who actually did something wrong. Not that standing by and doing nothing is right, but it's clearly better than being the one who's actively...

I feel like it'd need a good run though, at like a legit dog park which is surprisingly tough to find some places. In general though this guy didn't want to walk it more than a few times around the block per day, and that's a recipe for disaster for most dogs. Luckily he did give it away which...

If I had to guess why, I'd say it has something to do with our natural instincts. I think humans have a survival instinct telling them when something is safe, and being in a peaceful lush environment activates something about that ancient instinct telling us we're safe and should be there. All...

It's nice that you hike with your husky. This is kind of off topic, but I've known a couple of people who get huskies because they look beautiful, but them keep them cooped up in the house the whole time without any exercise and are pissed off when they are the most irritable and badly behaved...

Yeah hiking is great, there's nothing better for anxiety for me. Something about being outdoors and just exploring nature is so freeing, like it's all so big that my personal struggles kind of fade away a bit. Also the mundane task of just putting one foot in front of the other gives me just...

Yes I think we should all focus on this. Even if people are offering suggestions (which I believe you should take to heart), the fact is that what happened was wrong and was sexual assault. The fact that maybe you could have done more to protect yourself doesn't diminish the experience at all...

I don't want to derail this, but I had this exact dream yesterday. I was in a pavilion by the sea enjoying myself, when all of the sudden the water level dropped by about 20 feet. We all ran to higher ground but the wall of water built up and was right by my heels when I woke up. I'm curious...

I try to think of this in much the same way as I would other crimes. For instance if you left your car unlocked and then came back to find things missing from it, much less serious crime yes, but still sound in principle I think. If this happened, I would say that the car owner should have...

From what I've read it's basically when certain parts of your brain fall asleep too quickly, and there's a sort of shock when things aren't working correctly. It's called a "hypnic jerk" actually, if you want to look it up.

So I understand that you see them as very different, but what would you say is your definition of torture then? What separates the two?

@Link Removed If we got really existential in here, I could make an argument that lashing out is simply a misplaced attempt to fulfill your unfulfilled desires, but I take your point. I kind of thought the "to get something" is a useless qualifier since all actions that humans undertake are...

See the thing here though is that if the sexual abuse were intentionally done to harm the other person as the primary motivator, not simply for sexual satisfaction or dominance, but just to see the person suffer and it were done in a calculated manner, then I would see that as torture. The lack...

Well I suppose that pain would be quite intense, it's just that I don't know, something about that quickness of pain wouldn't really seem like torture if it wasn't long lasting. I suppose it could though, it's a bit of a grey area: on one hand it could be considered that way, but on the... same...

Ahh yes I should have mentioned that, of course all torture is also abuse. I do understand, but still it's awfully vague. Pain is subjective, and judging levels of pain is even more difficult around psychological suffering. Maybe that's just the nature of the question though, just having a...