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I am so happy for you. Not for you being in pain, but having opened up to family and receiving the support and care you need and deserve. I think opening up to people who do genuinely care are sometimes the positives in the middle of what feels like hell. Your family obviously do really care...

I think there can be more damage and the journey to healing harder for those who have suffered abuse from a very young age. I have often wondered who I would have been if I hadn't had abusive parents and multiple severe trauma's occur in my life. I don't have a pre-abuse me to compare. I...

Jaret, I trusted too easily during my childhood and teenage years and got badly abused as a result, but I have now gone to the other extreme and don't ever trust anyone. Trust issues are inevitable from bad childhoods, where trusting our own parents led to abuse and pain and not learning healthy...

Beautiful hot sunny day with the all important breeze :) Listening to my boys laughing and playing in the pool :inlove: Amazing friends who care even when I push them away :inlove:

If it is possible to take time away from working to work on improving health, I think that is important. Neglecting mental health can be further damaging and cause longer term issues that will be more lengthy and costly in therapy to deal with in the future and can affect or break relationships...

Britt.F7, I also joke with safe people about my mental health and that's always okay when they are people I know mean me no harm. I think having a sense of humour can help. I think it's a good thing. I'm glad some people in your life have come to more accepting, it truly helps. My post was...

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I don't think we are crazy. Crazy to me is someone who is mentally insane who does not know they have a mental illness and have little or no insight into the cause and why they need help. Having a mental health illness isn't crazy. And in trauma terms - which is what PTSD is caused by, our...

I agree, your family are a stressor. My husband and children are often stressors. In fact they are good daily stress as well as bad stress. It all adds up and causes overload. Triggers are things that directly relate to my trauma.

I relate to how you feel in some waya. I feel at my low points like I have no purpose. My PTSD is severe and I can't handle too much of any brain activity, including good and bad stress, so my daily acitivities are limited. Maybe as you have a need for structure, you could decide on your own...

That's what made me trust my T, she doesn't want to dig for memories and only wants to deal with the memories I have. And my gut tells me this is the right way to deal with it. She did say that more memories could come up through processing trauma, and we will deal with that if it happens.

I know that suppressing traumatic memories is absolutely possible, as I know the period of time I have no memory - 3 years, I was in the hands and complete control of a very sick psycho, and it would absolutely have been traumatic. Having flashbacks without clear memory of the actual event...

Dear Abstract, I don't mind you asking at. All my nightmares and flashbacks are things I do remember, although I have been remembering added details to some of those abuse situations. I think the periods of amnesia is probably just more of the same abuse. Our brains are very good at...

I don't know if unprocessed traumatic memories coming through in nightmares, can be stopped. Maybe someone will come along and say they can and I will be interested to know how. Medication can help, I know Seroquel helps me, not completely, but it does lesson the nightmares in intensity and...

EMDR is not a therapy designed to recall hidden, or suppressed traumatic memories. So, I would say that the emotionally abusive memories you are able to recall is a good starting place. Just stick to what you remember. My T specializes in EMDR and trauma and has said we will not be digging for...

Raven123, I am really sorry you have not had a positive experience with therapy. It upsets me when people are on the receiving end of bad therapy. I can hear how badly you have been burned with this. I think you are a lovely person to have helped people and I'm sorry there was no-one there for...

Many really positive points have been said in these more recent posts and I think it's almost impossible when in these cycles of severe internal pain and trying to see the positives, to ever see how we will achieve full healing, which is the topic of this thread. It can feel like we will never...

I prefer the forum front page as it was before as well.

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I think when you have very abusive parents, who do not model love, but show the opposite, and many more people abuse you, you don't learn how to fully love, or trust. There is a deeply ingrained protection system in place, and after 40 years, for me, is almost unbreakable. I love my children...

Yes, I always believe everything is my fault. A lifetime of being blamed and shamed for everything starting very young by my parents and then other people, has conditioned me into always taking blame even, when I am clearly not to blame. I internalise it all and hate myself. And because I do...

Today I am feeling blessed that I am able to love other people and help and care for them. Rather than just focussing on who loves and cares for me.

KP, hope it's easing further and not so painful. So far today, nothing is making me angry. But hugs for everyone who needs one (((((hugs))))).

I think the way the T handled this situation was very wrong, it doesn't appear she explained fully her reasoning for why she didn't feel continuing T with her was appropriate. And I totally understand the stress and upset this caused. However, if she did believe she could not help you due to...

My 3 year old swam for the first time today by himself with no float aids, we were all very excited :D :inlove: We had a delicious meal provided for us by wonderful friends :) I get to see a very dear friend soon, give her a hug and can share some food with her also :inlove: Life does...