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It's difficult and confusing. And having DID doesn't make you immune to 'normal forgetting'. I forget normally all the time, but being unable to recall the address where I lived with my ex-wife, two weeks after I moved out & having lived there for years? That doesn't seem normal to me at all...

PTSD is (among other things) a deep-seated conviction that the Bad Thing(s) will happen again. So, if you have PTSD and you were betrayed in an intimate relationship, then you know in your heart that it will happen again. Simultaneously, you fight desperately to stop it from happening again. (If...

You mentioned having difficulty paying for everything. Social workers can help with that - they know how to get things out of the government and community organizations. In that case, quite seriously, why are you seeing a therapist at all? If you don't have a problem, then why are you spending...

The flashbacks are real, however the events that you remember might not have happened. What we know with confidence is that your thought processes are being disrupted by intrusive memories. That disruption is real. We don't know with the same confidence that the memories are accurate - memory...

It sounds like you're doing all the right things, and handling this recovered memory well. I wish it was easier, less tiring and less painful! It sounds like you are working through it, although I understand that it's easier for me to feel confident than it is for you.

The DID label is a scary one, and hard to digest. It also means that recovery will not be quick. Your therapist does seem committed to your welfare, I can see why you want to stick with them. It may be worthwhile to get in touch with a social worker, to help you navigate the maze of healthcare...

An assessment of the evidence by an expert is called an opinion. (I know this because I've worked as an expert, and given evidence in court as an expert witness. (Regarding phone records.))

Mostly, I used to forget the bad things that happened. This made it possible to smile around my parents, and that was really important. Later, I tended to forget the good things. This made it possible to leave. And after lots of therapy, I'm getting much better at remembering everything. If...

This post was quite short by comparison with most! This isn't Twitter ;) Your husband's behaviour sounds like it would be difficult to cope with. Is he in therapy for his PTSD? We tend to want to go it alone, and going it alone tends to fail.

The holiday example sounds like it falls within 'normal' to me. Your mind was focussed on 'I haven't had a holiday in a long time'. You forgot the most recent holiday (which wasn't really very recent). As soon as you were reminded of the most recent holiday, you remembered. I've seen normal &...

It's OK to have those feelings. But I think you'd agree that the assessment supporting those feelings is flawed.

Excellent point. Thanks for being patient with me.

I can see how it might feel that way. As a person who has a history of frustration with aspects of this site and the culture here, I understand better than it might seem (track down my diary for supporting evidence). It's really important to understand the limits of what can be diagnosed over...

Fair point. I didn't understand why you used the word 'insulted' and got carried away. Why did you say 'insulted'?

My work has tended to suffer much more from 'not being in therapy' than from 'being in therapy'. It's a bit like going to the gym; it's painful, uncomfortable and tiring. But when you stop going, everything else gets more painful, uncomfortable and tiring.

CPTSD is essentially "PTSD with some extra stuff" - the extra stuff varies from person to person.

Ewwwww! So, he's returned the gift to her with a polite note about ethical rules, right? Which means you can trust him to keep her at a distance, and this isn't something that you need to manage for him, right? If not, then I'm worried that he might not be setting safe boundaries.

Ah, like me, you're finding it slow and painful. I've had periods of remission up to 5 years long where I was able to work full-time in stressful, high-paid work. A lot of my issues focus around unavoidable workplace situations, and I've tended to return to work as soon as I can force myself to...

My therapist reminded me if my father for the first few years of our relationship. Those were tough times. I would go, and struggle to engage, and not feel like I got anything useful out of it. And I'd talk to my friends about how stupid he was, and how useless he was. And, fortunately for me, I...

Welcome, @NoAnna . I'm glad you found this place, and I'm sad and angry that you had a reason to look for it. Caring for and living with someone who has an untreated mental disorder can be really dangerous; please don't feel that you need to justify your presence here, or to disclose anything...

With therapy, the symptoms do get more manageable, and some people do experience a total remission. You'll always be a person who experienced a bad thing. You'll always have memories that hurt. But you can learn to lead a normal life again, and you don't have to be a prisoner of your anxieties...

One very positive thing from this is that you would also think of a teacher as a peer. We often expect therapists to be perfect, and I've expected that from teachers too. But if you've done that job yourself, then you'll be aware of how teachers face difficulties, and that sometimes, you need to...

Damn. Sorry if I've reopened any wounds there :( Insulting? Hmm. She may well have told you everything she knows - being a sufferer is extremely confusing. I understand that you'd be unsatisfied, but she's demonstrated that she's not capable of meeting your needs. Just because you got hurt...

That sounds constructive to me. A good therapist relationship is indeed very different from a friendship, and from a lot of other 'helping' relationships.

I was really surprised by the impact that wiggling my eyes had, it incapacitated me at first. Well worth it in the end though. Glad you're taking care of yourself :)