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Thanks Freida - I understand how annoying it can be when sufferer is already suffering then being bugged for something they can’t do. My insecurity wasn’t coming from the isolation (well to an extent it added up) but it’s mainly something he did while he isolated (about he ex). I was shocked...

To update, I have unexpectedly met my partner and we talked but he wasn't in his good days. I felt insecure and asked for assurance as it felt like it would be the last time we meet, he said he would stay in touch, but he also seemed to be annoyed and irritated after I kept seeking reassurance...

I agree its important to work on myself. I have started new session with a female therapist and she made me feel more comfortable and not judged. The ultimate goal is also working on myself

Thank you Freida, I will speak with a new therapist today who is also a female. I hope I could feel more comfortable and we could work better together. I also agree that its important to work on my own issues to be emotionally healthy for this. I am aware my insecurity could magnify the impact...

Hi everyone, I have tried to speak with a therapist to work on my emotions and understand my partner more but I found it a bit pushy that he kept pushing me to look at my problems instead and said people with PTSD won't isolate (which I had to told him I heard many first hand experiences that...

It must be tough. Is there anything we can support you here? I am also feeling awful from the other side. It's my birthday today, feeling lonely when my partner isn't around. But Im trying to pamper myself

I have recently opened a thread about my partner isolating himself from me and I am still dealing with it. I have read through different threads and found many supporters have encountered the same/similar issues. if you have encountered the same issues, how are you doing today?

thank you for supporting, I am not having expectation and will pamper myself

thanks - I am prepared and will do something to make myself happy.

thanks - mine is relatively healthy so it's a bit tricky. this is a very good one, but unfortunately, this is a relatively new relationship, not many of my close ones have known him personally, then all these happened. I am glad you got to manage your expectation. does it make distance between...

I admire you to have all the self-respect for drawing all the boundary. Next week is my birthday but since he has been in isolation mode, I have little hope. I'm trying to avoid disappointment. Any advice how I should manage this expectation?

How did you set the ground rule of not tolerating for isolation over a week or you just walked away? apparently he is still in the bad state which make it difficult for me to say anything..

Only got to see this reply when I revisited the thread. thanks for sharing again. it has been tough for me this week dealing with his isolating. I think learning how not to take things personally is one thing, but the other is how you manage to set expectation to the relationship which is...

it's not easy for us supporters being in the other side of the sufferer's PTSD especially when they isolate/ghost. It sometimes inevitably drains us emotionally and people who care about us (family, closed friends..etc) would notice and ask to care. How do you share your difficulties without...

update: my partner has reached out to me but just explained what kept him busy. He sounds a bit more relaxed but at the same time he isn't as affectionate and empathic as he used to be. is that common?

Thanks Freida for your sharing. I will just let my partner know I will give him space if that means to love and respect him. I had a quick look of the thread, its comforting to have more understanding of the situation and knowing some people share the same struggle. will take some times to...

@Freida @Weemie you both mentioned you are an isolator, grateful if you could share how you feel or what's in your head about your loved ones when you are disconnected from them? would the relationship be like paused when you are focusing on dealing with things that overwhelming at that time...

thanks @joeylittle, that is in fact a very good advice and reminder. I have to make a balance in between being safe for him and myself. Thanks :)

i think it would be much easier for me if we live together, we are supposed to but have been delaying since it happened. in my case, when he isolate, he vanishes. is that true though that it would be better to live together?

I understand and it actually makes a lot sense. thanks for putting time into thinking, appreciated :) I admire you for all the afford you make because how much you love him. What's your tips for not taking it personally and how do you manage your own need during his isolation? And what was...

Thanks @Freida your sharing is always helpful and i could understand what you mean. He always sees me as a safe person however i am not sure how he feels after i shut the door on me. Do you have any advices how i can be a safe person if he ever comes back?

Could you please tell me more why it is?

thanks @Sweetpea76 , your sharing is really helpful. I will try to relax and not to take it personally though I still can't fully let go of the feeling of "shutting the door" when I felt disrespected. Is your partner aware of all these? How long have you been in this situation and has is been...

Is there anything I can possibly do to make him feel less stress from handling me while he switched off? Thanks again for your reply :) they are really helpful

I also want to ask if you would communicate with other people (less important) during the time you stopped talking to your love ones?