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It's very possible to find someone patient enough and loving enough. In fact, in many ways, this experience has made me a much better person. It has taught me to be very understanding and compassionate - a universally good trait to have. You'll find someone :) no worries. Junebug - glad I...

Sorry about posting in the wrong section. I appreciate you moving it for me. I'm still learning this site. So thank you. Silkleaves - thank you for your wonderful answer. I think she is like you in many ways, but also unlike you. I think she is incredibly hard on herself and lashes out on...

On a side note, she had a night recently where she just randomly remembered in vivid detail a few incidents of things that occurred in her past and she wrote it all down - pages of notes (all right after finding out about her father's cancer). She went to her therapist the next day and she said...

My girlfriend and I had been doing quite well lately. She seemed to have been making a lot of progress in therapy and we were doing fantastic in the relationship department. Then her father developed liver cancer. She found out about a week ago. He's always been an active alcoholic and...

That's very true - about the not caring, typically, when you're depressed. But she does care. She cares A LOT. It's this consuming guilt that she feels. If she sleeps through work, she feels terrible about herself and calls her boss and tells him he should just go ahead and fire her. And that...

You know, I've often wondered if her sleep is a whole separate condition in itself. And in a way, I have often wondered if it isn't a cause for a lot of her other anxieties and stressors. For example, she misses work and class constantly because she can't be woken up. She sleeps through...

Hey there. Sorry to hear about all of your troubles. You sound a lot like my girlfriend. She is in her last year of college, and all of her past abuses started to really hit her hard the last two semesters. This semester, it's been particularly rough on her. At the school she attends, they...

Yes, she's in therapy and has been for a while. She's also on anti anxiety meds and anti depressants. I know her sleeping is good for two things: for one, it's helping her to heal, as her treatment is making her worn out and very stressed. And her body needs the rest to recuperate. and two...

My girlfriend gets triggered by the same things. There was a scene in walking dead recently I had to literally force her to allow me to fast forward through (some reason, she likes to test her boundaries - I tell her she needs to know her triggers and not intentionally walk right into them)...

Today I'm feeling rather frustrated. Today was supposed to be "date day" for my girl and me. Since I've had finals for school and been working constantly, this was a perfect day for us to finally spend together because I'm off of work and I just finished my last final. I only have a couple of...

It's been very hard to get there. It's also still a work in progress.

Just simply by not taking it personally. I realize it legitimately has absolutely nothing to do with me. I bury myself in my studies and my work and my friends and I just don't let it bother me. Sure I'm human and it does still get to me sometimes. But just actually letting it sink in that it's...

I'm so sorry to hear the news. What prompted this to happen? So far things are okay. She's back isolating herself and I'm just learning to deal with it and how to accept it. I used to take such personal offense to it but now it's finally sinking in that it's legitimately got nothing to do with...

Hey guys. Just an update. The ex and I spoke for the first time in over two weeks. She asked me to come over and we talked over pizza and beer (yum) and she apologized for everything. Said she doesn't know how to manage her anxiety and separate her stressors. She knows it's never me in...

Solara, that helps to see it from the other side of the spectrum. I appreciate that insight. She's tried to explain that to me before. But she's not good with words so it didn't always make sense. Nicolette, it's nice to feel someone can actually empathize with me. I just felt like all I was...

Ya know, ketamine dreams, I am glad this happened now rather than even further down the road with children and marriage involved. I do miss her. But every day I'm getting stronger and stronger. It's amazing how much being away for even just a couple of weeks has allowed me to see things from a...

I can't offer anything that will answer your questions, but I can offer my empathy. My girlfriend and I just broke up a couple of weeks ago and I'd been experiencing many of the same feelings as you. You mentioned triggering him by your tone. I unintentionally triggered my girlfriend by...

So how is it possible to even remotely have a healthy relationship at all if you cant talk to the person you're with? What's the alternative? Sit there in silence and misery and hold it all in because the person you're with explodes on you when you attempt to talk every once in a while? That...

I don't feel like I personally aggravate her symptoms, though. I feel like I'm the bystander who gets lashed out at when her symptoms present themselves unrelated to me, and then I'm the straw that broke the camels back. Does that make any sense? In other words, she's had a really bad day...

Hey guys. Just an update. We actually broke up about a week and a half ago. She broke up with me out of no where. We had agreed upon, per her request, to taking the week days for her to have time to work on herself and that we would have a date night once a week to stay connected. I gave that...

This does happen very frequently and for extended periods of time. Gryffy is right. And I am left for a month or so in the cold not receiving any sort of emotional or physical affection. Then she will come back and be the perfect girlfriend, just to turn around and start all over again in a...

Yeah my issues have been going on for quite a while now. Years. And you're right, meadowsweet - it is unfair to expect her to act in a way she's unable to. I realize it's not a choice on her end. I just wish my brain could tell my heart that. I have two options: learn to live with the reality...

Thank you never give up. That means a lot. I appreciate your responses so much.

Meadowsweet - You're right; it seems like our needs are incompatible. I need a relationship with a person who is present emotionally. I feel like I am dating a hollow shell. And it's so hard. I don't believe she's doing it intentionally. But the resentment is building up in me to the point...

Yeah she knows. She just reminds me that I should know by now it's not me and that everything is fine. Yay. Lol. Everything is fine .. to her. She doesn't seem to care that I'm being ripped apart from loneliness. Or she just doesn't notice? To her, me communicating my feelings just means she...