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My biggest fear is that I'm breaking. I feel as though over time, I'm slowly being chipped away. I started off completely whole and full of self confidence and self esteem. After time has passed, it's slowly eroding. A part of me is disappearing. And it's so hard because I feel like I'm trying...

Thank you so very much for your optimistic and promising response. It really did lift my spirits and give me hope that things really do have a possibility for change. It means so very much to me you took the time to respond.

Just a general question: Why do sufferers feel the overwhelming need to push their partners away? I feel that if I can begin to understand WHY it happens, I can hopefully learn to forgive and move on. My girlfriend used to do everything in her power to push me away and end the relationship...

Hey guys. I am relatively new to this site. I stumbled upon it a while back and found some fantastic advice about my situation from everyone who was gracious enough to reply. I unfortunately haven't been back on since then until now, but I really think I need to start logging on more. I could...

To anonymous, there's absolutely nothing to feel bad about. You didn't pass any type of judgement. I appreciate your feedback very much. Abstract, you think her behaviors do fit into PTSD? The way you described it, it helps greatly to make sense of it. it's just so hard for a person who's never...

Thank you so much for your honesty. Those are very true and wise words. That's what we have done. We currently are not speaking and she is getting help. We both finally recognized the damage that was being inflicted. She didn't want to hurt me anymore and I realized she needs to be on her own to...

You're absolutely right. I've honestly never loved someone who is suffering like this before and it has brought out a side of me I'm not familiar with. I have this overwhelming urge to try to keep her safe, even though I know I can't. And it's been at my own emotional expense. At this point, I...

Abstract, she has mentioned that she's having constant flashbacks and nightmares that keep her awake almost all night. I've witnessed it myself. She has had to listen to relaxation tapes until 7 am to fall asleep a lot lately. that being said, maybe you're right. it's easy to take it out on the...

And to answer one question - yes, I always lay down ground rules of what I will and won't accept. She agrees to them and we agree to work on the problems together. All usually goes great for a little while and then out of no where, she freaks out and tells me she doesn't love me or want to be...

Hey all. Thanks again for the replies. I've myself wondered if this was merely PTSD alone, or something else on top of PTSD. She definitely does have the symptoms of PTSD like the flashbacks and nightmares etc. But I worry there's more to it also. As I said, BPD has crossed my mind, as well as...

Thank you all for your wonderful responses. I appreciate the feedback. I guess its just all so confusing and unpredictable and as humans, I suppose it's nature to want to make sense of everything. to have a reason spelled out in black and white why someone behaved a certain way. Its been tough...

Thank you for sharing your story. it is infuriating. and I feel bad getting so mad if she truly can't help it. but its still crushing me all the same. We are still broken up and she stands by her decision to end the relationship.

It has definitely started to feel emotionally abusive. And I always wind up giving her the out that it's only because of her PTSD that she's doing these things and it's not her fault. I get mad at her and then wind up mad at myself because I feel like I should be more understanding.

No she hasn't. I've actually asked her this before because her actions seem somewhat like borderline personality disorder to me. I asked her if she thought it was possible she had that, and she said she would ask her psychiatrist. But she claims that her psych. is insistent that she really only...

Hi all. Thanks in advance for any replies. I've never posted anything on this site before. I've searched around everywhere, desperate to gain some insight about everything that's happened in my relationship. I've been struggling so much with trying to understand my girlfriends behavior and it's...